So I find out today my ex is pregnant

[DeepInThoughtParticipant 2710]

She is 40, he is nearly 50, both divorced and with kids already. Wtf?

I don’t know how I feel, part of me is in shock, part devastation because that’s what we planned and part thinking thank f~~~ I dodged a bullet   And part of me thinking, I know I shouldn’t, wtf is a guy that age already divorced with kids and ex wife thinking? Mangina?

Part of me feels defective. But then again, I know her and I know how she thinks, we were together 3 years. It’s like a carbon copy with me. I dunno if it’s my ego or actual upset from the loss

 

thanks

 

[Anonymous 11]

Your feelings are normal man. You made future plans with this woman and now another guy has been gigged by her instead of you. The bad parts will go away naturally on their own. You’ll be left with your guiltless 100% freedom intact while he’ll learn all about the real her. There’s an excellent chance that when she fully unmasks herself which she is now free to do. He’ll find a soulless cold reptile.

You are not defective. We can never let a woman’s actions or words let us define ourselves. They are known liars and manipulators. Why would you put any credence in what one says or does to you?

Anyway, be good to yourself.

[DeepInThoughtParticipant 2710]

Thanks mate.

[RoyDalParticipant]

This seems to fit somehow.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[RusskyParticipant 13503]

I am assuming my ex should be getting pregnant any time soon. They already got married and s~~~, so I am really waiting on that one. But first she has to remove the spiral out of her uterus.
The last time I picked my daughter up this Friday, my ex wife had this push-up bra thing going and massive cleavage showing. I am so glad it is over with her. I can’t stand the embarrassment of her attention whoring when she’s out with a husband, but still wants to be hit on by everyone she encounters. It’s a walking embarrassment. I am totally red-pill with her, and even if she comes crawling back – I would be busy and not able to take a phone call. I can’t stand the situation and I really don’t miss the times when I have to feel embarrassed for her behavior in public – I am so done with it.

As far as the mangina midget she chose – I feel sad for him. He doesn’t know yet what he signed up for – pump and dump a man.

But I am so f~~~ing happy to not have to worry about this bitch anymore. And her new husband – I chuckle and smile every time I see him, because he’s a definition of a chump and the pain is coming very soon

Bro, no matter what you do – keep your distance and chuckle. And make sure you don’t drink yourself to death

 

proud carrier of the 'why?' chromosome

[Smacktalk73Participant 296]

This thread is actually GREAT news compared to what I was afraid of when I read the title.  I thought you, like me, had gotten trapped by someone you were trying to break up with.

My ex got pregnant by me within two weeks of me trying desperately to dump her, and having her sweet-talk me into giving her “one more chance.”    Completely panicked me, having a child with someone I really didn’t want to be around.  I went crazy, first marrying her immediately (biggest mistake of my life) and taking care of her completely for the first year, then going even more nuts when she got pregnant AGAIN almost immediately, when we’d only had sex once after she gave birth to our first.

Trust me you dodged a HUGE bullet.   Having kids with someone who wants to use you is hell.  Just walk away.

[MgtowWaveParticipant 4352]

About one of the wisest things a man can do in his ENTIRE LIFE is to walk away from and CUT ALL TIES  with any woman who shows even the LEAST sign of  being problematic.

frankly my dear i don't give a damn

[Puffin StuffParticipant 24979]

A man who takes a child away from his father is just as guilty of parental alienation, a serious mental problem for children of divorce,…it’s emotional child abuse. These women should lose custody of their children. They don’t care about their welfare.

But this could not happen with out the man willing to further damage an already damaged relationship.

To get an easy lay these men are knowingly stepping between another man and his children. Any man who would take a single mother’s children away from their father by dating (f~~~ing) the mother is enabling child abuse.

Any man that dates single mothers should be shunned by other men.

#icethemout; Remember Thomas Ball. He died for your children.

[DeepInThoughtParticipant 2710]

Thanks for the replies guys. The initial shock and devastation has worn off.

Guess it threw me because when we were together she already had a kid and said if we werent gonna have a baby then that’s it for her as she was approaching 40. Fast forward 2 years and BAM it’s happened with this much older bloke and I still think, you have 1 kid, he has 2 kids and youre about to have another one together? F~~~, I have go a front seat to the gong show.

[RayBandakuParticipant 888]

You are lucky, if it happend with you there would have been hell to pay.  Look at it as glass half full.  Give it some time, you will feel much better.  Stay positive.

[ExsliventxsParticipant 1067]

DeepInThought wrote:

She is 40, he is nearly 50, both divorced and with kids already. Wtf? I don’t know how I feel, part of me is in shock, part devastation because that’s what we planned and part thinking thank f~~~ I dodged a bullet   And part of me thinking, I know I shouldn’t, wtf is a guy that age already divorced with kids and ex wife thinking? Mangina? Part of me feels defective. But then again, I know her and I know how she thinks, we were together 3 years. It’s like a carbon copy with me. I dunno if it’s my ego or actual upset from the loss   thanks

I’m going to ask the obvious question that no one is asking…

How did you find out your ex is pregnant?

1. If it was someone else, close that pathway. You should have already told them, if they have any association with her not to speak to you about her. (Which they shouldn’t if you were only together 3 years, and if they say no, get new friends.)

2. If it wasn’t someone else, then stop stalking her. It’s extremely unhealthy and it’s blue pill behavior.

Please note, I included both scenarios to save another post. Only you know which one of the above is true. Help you, help yourself.

[Anonymous 9]

I think we’ve all been through something similar.

My ex called my mom to tell her she was pregnant, and by doing so the word would have obviously gotten back to me. My mom asked her when did she plan on telling me, and my ex said that she would send me an email later.

I never received that email from her, but I received one months after the fact saying how much she missed me, and that she made a huge mistake.

F~~~ outta here.

The freedom of not having kids, and being a bachelor should not go understated.

 

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

DeepInThought wrote:

She is 40, he is nearly 50, both divorced and with kids already.

I hope for their sakes their existing kids are all adults already and out of that house, and I really feel sorry for the new baby, because that baby has almost zero chance of growing up successfully or normally.

In ten years time you’ll see what a huge bullet you’ve dodged there.

Exsliventxs wrote:

How did you find out your ex is pregnant?

I would be surprised if he didn’t know.  Most women have a compelling need to tell their exes when they get pregnant, usually through indirect ways.  I think it’s a sour grapes thing.  They’re trying to make their exes jealous or regretful about what they don’t have any more.  Certainly they wouldn’t do it if they knew it only gave their exes a sense of relief at what they don’t have to deal with.

[DeepInThoughtParticipant 2710]

Exsliventxs wrote:

How did you find out your ex is pregnant?

 

Mutual friend from the old gym came up to me in the store and after some chit chat dropped the bomb. I remained composed and wished her all the best. I live in a small area 30,000 people max. it’s gossip central and my ex lives only 2km away. No amount of words can express the disgust at the amount of gossip that happens around here, esp by women and mangina’s yet they have this ability to deflect any blame onto the victim – me! I don’t engage in it, it makes me sick to my stomach.

[DeepInThoughtParticipant 2710]

sidecar wrote:

I hope for their sakes their existing kids are all adults already and out of that house, and I really feel sorry for the new baby, because that baby has almost zero chance of growing up successfully or normally. In ten years time you’ll see what a huge bullet you’ve dodged there.

That’s what everyone is telling me. All the kids are under the age of 10y/o atm.

sidecar wrote:

I would be surprised if he didn’t know.  Most women have a compelling need to tell their exes when they get pregnant, usually through indirect ways.  I think it’s a sour grapes thing.  They’re trying to make their exes jealous or regretful about what they don’t have any more.  Certainly they wouldn’t do it if they knew it only gave their exes a sense of relief at what they don’t have to deal with.

Yep, she’s sunk the boot into me a few times through smear campaigns and falsely labelling me a stalker, creepy and abusive. Very same treatment her exes and ex husband got.

[peterfaParticipant 833]

They’re going to try to demolish you because of all those whom they’re done demolishing are now old meat. You’re fresh meat. I used to live in a small town and I was bullied by teachers, staff, children, neighbors, and even my own family.

Of course I saw them on Facebook a few years ago. Wow, as they say. Wow… The girls, ugly and diseased, the men, working slummy jobs.

[DeepInThoughtParticipant 2710]

I won’t be staying here much longer, I will be heading to Europe soon. Thank god!

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Anonymous wrote:

Your feelings are normal man. You made future plans with this woman and now another guy has been gigged by her instead of you.

I second everything – especially what @chauvinistpig said.

@deepinthought I’ve been there too. One significant EX ended up marrying thius guy she met online, another one married the guy she was banging while I was out of town for a month. At first it was hard to take, but I was experienced and they were both significantly younger and deep down I was prepared and ready for it. Came as no surprise and was damn near predictable by the second one.

Of course I questioned the s~~~ to the moon and back again.
Am I missing out? What did I lose here? Did I really f~~~ up??

NO. NOTHING and NO were the answers.

ALL of our mutual friends went to the wedding. It was hard to see the photo album link, but then again it wasn’t. Because I saw THE photo she chose for the cover on Facebook….. and I couldn’t stop laughing. Of all the pictures to chose for “our wedding” cover – and the one she sent to everyone – this one was my idea of a NIGHTMARE. It was a true poster shot every MGHOW can appreciate.

The groom was on his knees kneeling before her, clasping one of her hands with both of his.
He was looking up at her as if the sun rose and set in her pants.

She was holding the bouquet with the other hand… and her head was turned off camera in the opposite direction – LAUGHING.
Her head was thrown back (looking at onlookers) LAUGHING. As if the pose was a complete JOKE.

It was such an excellent photo, and all I think was “better him than me”. I LOVED it. I would rather drink bleach than pose for a wedding photo on my knees while she is looking the opposite direction LAUGHING. She got EXACTLY what she wanted.

… and my validation came in the form of an email from her ON THE FIRST VALENTINES DAY AFTER SHE WED. She emailed her ex boyfriend in secrecy (ME!) and told me she missed me and was thinking of me. Had I been her husband, I would have divorced her on the spot for that.

Your EX is pregnant? CONGRATULATIONS!!!!

…. on being the “ex”.

Being “the best mistake she ever made” is a more prestigious position than “husband” and wallet.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[DeepInThoughtParticipant 2710]

Thanks KeyMaster. Yeah I dunno why it initially hit me so hard. I mean we split just on 2 years ago and she monkey branched immediately to this current guy, Ive been with plenty of women casually since, but I think it’s because we had made all these plans together. But as i have put here in another post, she’s a sociopath so he’d be getting the same story and script as I did but he followed through. And I agree so many kids under 10 y/o now with a new baby on the way isn’t healthy. Just my opinion.

Anyway, I am okay with it now, I will leave soon abroad and this will be a distant memory. I honestly don’t wish her any ill feeling, but it would be interesting to see how this pans out.

Thanks guys for your input. Much appreciated!

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

DeepInThought wrote:

All the kids are under the age of 10y/o atm.

Damn.  Those poor kids.

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