Sisyphus at least knew he was pushing a boulder

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    DungeonMaster
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    My push to become a MGTOW-er.

    I was the baby born to keep a man(my biological father) controlled in a relationship. That didn’t really work out for my mother who eventually moved on to my 1st step father. An alcoholic whom I am sure drank to drown out my mother. Non-the-less still no better than my mother. A rage filled and vengeful woman. When she divorced him, I became the focus of her rage. I see now that I became co-dependent because of childhood.

    My first girlfriend, at the age of 17, became everything to me. I had found my soulmate… because high school sweethearts always workout…. When she had cheated on me my life was over. I had never felt anything like that. I trudged through to graduation. I was awarded a full ride scholarship to college. And lucky me :/ , she was able to go to the same one after I had tutored her in math while we were in ‘love’. She invited me to her dorm every so often because she wanted sex. I was 18, my libido and heart overruled my inexperienced brain. I offered to pay for the morning after pill and anything else needed but she said ‘Don’t worry, I’m not going to get pregnant’… I will never forget those words. She got pregnant. Good bye college and hello military. I spent 4 years enlisted (starting in 2001) so I could provide for my child out of wedlock while she lived with her parents and re-ignited with old boyfriends. I returned from over seas after 4 years to discover she had moved across the continental US with an ex. She then went for welfare where the state of AZ took me to court for child support. She didn’t even have to show up. The state provides her a lawyer. She then moved and kept it a secret to keep my daughter from me while extorting child support out of me. I had to quit school and gave plasma twice a week to pay child support. I found where she was and gave her the ultimatum; I get my rightful custody or the other guy that she says she is marrying will complete a step parent adoption( this is the abridged version). My ex would have screwed my daughters life so the adoption I feel at least gives my daughter a chance at a normal life.

    I have no ill-will to my 2nd girlfriend.

    My 3rd. I have experienced first hand what BPD is. I have never fought with anyone so much in my life. Someone who could lie straight to my face to the point where I’m confident she believes it. I questioned my own sanity. Was I causing her to be like this? I began to even lie to myself. I could catch her in her lies and she would ignore it. I held on to far too long to hope. Near the end I developed an defense mechanism that still exists in me when a girlfriend wants to fight over illogical issues. I fade into the background. I become dissociated and see things from the outside. Fighting in a relationship is a pointless endeavour of a bruised ego lashing out.

    My 4th. A nerd. Someone who can play a video game, go to the gym with me, and even indulged in D&D with me. Her family loved me and were good people. According to her father I was the best thing that has ever happened to her. We never fought. Surely this is who I was always meant to be with. I would have moved heaven and earth for her. I would have paid for her college and encouraged her to succeed. She didn’t want kids and I am not keen on children after my first encounter with fathers in court. So she convinced me to go forward with a vasectomy…. who cares right? She said she wanted to get married all the time… Then she cheated on me with an ex she worked with. Furthermore then she said 2 months after my vasectomy she decided she wanted children.

    My 5th. By now reality has purified by fire my delusions of the loyal trustworthy woman that society has brainwashed young men to believe. She was diagnosed BPD (this is how I know my 3rd had it.) When she fought I never fanned the flames. My ego doesn’t motivate to fight when a woman is throwing a tantrum anymore. I just stayed back and observed the illogical behavior of emotions she is powerless to control. I feel sorry for her. It ended and no tears. No rethinking my life. Just a sigh. Part relief, part sadness of the thought of going through it again one day.

    Trusting a woman with your happiness is trusting Madoff with your retirement. I wish I could tell my younger self to protect yourself and diversify your happiness.

    I hope someone can learn from my mistakes.

    #166121
    Blue Skies
    Blue Skies
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    welcome brotha……

    I wish I could tell my younger self to protect yourself and diversify your happiness.

    great advice…thanks..

    never trust others with your own happiness

    MGTOW is not a movement, it is a way of life.

    #166148

    Anonymous
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    Welcome Brother,
    A tough road you have traveled. I too can not bring myself to trust women anymore. This site helped me to clarify that position. The more you post the more you learn.

    #166211

    Anonymous
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    I hope someone can learn from my mistakes.

    Anyone that reads this post is learning from your mistakes!
    Daaaaaamn…. Your story reads similar to countless testimonies here in these forums, I think of the times I took my chances with falling in love <VOMIT> and having your heart coldly stepped on. I know I’m done playing with hand grenades, I’m damn lucky one never exploded in my face!
    Glad you made here, the door to freedom is wide open, all it takes is to step outside, welcome to MGTOW…..

    #166216

    Anonymous
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    DM… welcome brother,

    tough road you’ve been on and it seems like the steering wheel was ripped from your own hands and you were left to deal with the bumps as they came along.

    Here’s wishing you a prosperous 2016, good health, good fortune, and a great future as a MGTOW!

    #166282

    Anonymous
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    I just stayed back and observed the illogical behavior of emotions

    Illogical comes into play any time, any where and for any reason. . . . . . .
    . . . a little bit like walking through a mine field.

    she is powerless to control.

    Not quite, . . . . when you are there it’s an emotional power play to control you.

    Still, it’s great to see you have seen the light and found MGTOW.
    Welcome DM.

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    Jan Sobieski
    Jan Sobieski
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    Welcome and +1 for the title

    SISYPHUS AT LEAST KNEW HE WAS PUSHING A BOULDER

    Love is just alimony waiting to happen. Visit mgtow.com.

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