Sign Divorce papers in ten days. You guys saved my ass. Thank you.

[AwakenedOneParticipant 58]

I’ll start by saying, Thank you for being here. It’s been a bizarre and brutal week for me.
I met my wife fourteen years ago. I left my job on the west coast because my mother had cancer and she needed someone to help her. My sister lived two miles away, but was busy with her own family. I couldn’t let my mother be neglected and die alone. After almost a year of care the cancer overcame her and I stayed with her in hospice until she took her last breath. I witnessed her passing alone.
During this year of care-giving I met a beautiful young woman in my mother’s hometown. She carried a baby in a sling and had an incredible smile. I fell in love and we became inseparable. We had hopes my mother would beat the cancer and be present at our wedding, but she didn’t. I was left a nice inheritance and enthusiastically invested in my new family and my wife’s business. I had forgotten about my career on the west coast. This was more important….
After awhile the money ran out and the tension arrived. I had decades of experience in a craft I could no longer practice in my current location. My wife started suggesting I was lazy and inadequate. I had a sense my worth to her had depleted. I struggled to find a purpose. I started a company, but it required lots of travel and my wife’s practice required one of us to stay home. I stayed home and raised my boy. I had adopted him. I trained my wife’s father to take over my business and instantly he went from making a modest living to $75 an hour. I thought my behavior was noble and full of intangible value. It was. To me.
Fast forward to the day my wife asked for a divorce after she returned from a conference on the west coast. She had met someone. He was also married. He painted her a picture. She hung it on her wall in the practice I helped build. I walked in during office hours, grabbed the painting (framed and behind glass) and threw it against the wall. It exploded. I walked out. I got served a restraining order.
Packed up my stuff and was headed to another city to pursue my craft so I could afford to live. I was leaving my son. I thought about killing myself instead. The day before I left she collapsed and begged to come with me. I was stunned and said yes. Two years went by and she wanted to divorce again and to take my son back to her hometown. I begged her to stay and she did for awhile.
We moved back to her hometown and I was determined to find a way to stay focused and pursue my craft. To have a purpose and remain in my power. I worked hard. Really hard. I did it. I crawled from the bottom and found a way. She started another practice and became very successful. She also asked for a divorce again.
My career at this time hadn’t fully manifested, but all the work I had done was clearly paying off. I knew it was only a matter of time. She was bored and said she wanted “another experience”. I was devastated. We had been through so much. Our son is incredible, her practice successful, and my career on the rise. It wasn’t enough.
I moved out and rented a studio apartment near my son. It wasn’t comfortable, but it was close. After four weeks my work exploded and I booked job after job. I’m currently sitting in a hotel room typing this because I’m working on my biggest project ever. I’m in the entertainment business and the story I’m working on is about a man who loses his family during a divorce and is served a restraining order. How’s that for irony?
Couple hours ago I was here on the website reading the forum and post after post I felt my confidence rise and I gained clarity. I hadn’t failed. This wasn’t all my fault. Then my wife’s attorney called.
I felt a calmness come over me and we chatted about the upcoming appointment to sign the divorce papers. It’s a very simple case. Shared custody, no assets to split. I cracked some jokes and we talked about the project I’m working on. I was in my power and I felt free.
The new jobs have provided me with resources and I move into my new two bedroom, two bath apartment April 1st. I was able to buy my son some very cool furniture for his room (he is sixteen now). He has his own mancave and I look forward to spending more time with him.
All I can say is, Thank you, guys. I had a sense my situation wasn’t just about my behavior or my failure. I felt I was up against something larger. I even told her the desire for a divorce seemed to be a social pattern more than a personal choice. It just didn’t make sense if you stayed at the level of our personal story. We had done great things together. I now know the forces I’m dealing with transcend my little world and I can’t control them. I can only identify the patterns and avoid them.
Thanks again, fellas. You saved me from enormous pain and I will always be grateful.

[Mister StealthParticipant 362]

Welcome officially brother.

Keep in touch, and be mindful of the lessons learned.

Cheers to another brother going his own way.

Steel sharpens steel

[Anonymous 0]

Welcome home, AwakenedOne
Beer’s in the fridge

First of all:
You are a MAN AMONG MEN for stepping up and caring for your mother in her decking years.
Secondly:
You gave your Ex every chsnce in the world to come around. F~~~ her and the broom she rode in on. You are free now to pursue life with YOUR son. A DAD is not just a sperm donor. Raise your boy up right. I look forward to your posts.

A

[AwakenedOneParticipant 58]

Thank you, brother.

[AwakenedOneParticipant 58]

Thank you, M52
You know, I’ve looked into her eyes and seen kindness. I’ve also seen desperation. Like an animal trapped. She seems to be a slave to the dominate culture and it’s patterns. She believes this choice is unique to her. That it’s how she feels so must be followed. It’s like watching someone orchestrate a train wreck without the ability to stop it. That’s the part I can’t forget. She will not stop it. So I need to move out of the way. Very grateful I figured out how to get off the tracks. Looking forward to many great adventures with my boy. He is watching how I process this. We will slip off the tracks and go fishing.

[Anonymous 0]

That’s the right idea. Build a raft with your so and do the Huck Finn thing with your boy. Both of you will never forget it. It’s all about memories.

[Dick RulezParticipant 17]

Mgtow saves lives! Proof right here.

How does a women change a light bulb? She holds the light bulb in the socket and expects the world to revolve around her.

[RorschachParticipant 2083]

AwakenedOne wrote:

After awhile the money ran out and the tension arrived.

Thousands of men just nodded in complete understanding.

AwakenedOne wrote:

He painted her a picture. She hung it on her wall in the practice I helped build.

All that time and effort and a Chad paints a picture and he’s golden. Good on you for smashing it, its a disgrace to your honor.

AwakenedOne wrote:

The new jobs have provided me with resources and I move into my new two bedroom, two bath apartment April 1st. I was able to buy my son some very cool furniture for his room (he is sixteen now). He has his own mancave and I look forward to spending more time with him.

Excellent. I’m truly happy for you. The truth has set another man free.

AwakenedOne wrote:

Thanks again, fellas. You saved me from enormous pain and I will always be grateful.

Thank yourself as well for doing the most logical thing you can do. Some men would just double down on blue pill and do it all over again ignoring the truth before him. A man who welcomes wisdom into his life will certainly prosper. Welcome brother.

The accumulated filth of all their sex and murder will foam up about their waists and all the whores and politicians will look up and shout "save us!"....... and i'll look down and whisper "No."

[Anonymous 13]

Welcome.

I’m glad you found us.

You were up against a machine.

Your hard work, your loyalty, your love, your investment in the relationship counted for nothing.

This is a machine.

You can’t reason or fight with some soulless machine.

There is/was nothing you could do that would make a difference.

It really wasn’t you, it’s them. It’s the machine.

Once you realise this, peace comes and it’s time to look after YOU.

[TrapperParticipant 2912]

Welcome. It’s good to see a happy ending. Your son wasn’t turned against you and your job is intact. That’s HUGE!

Watch out for the boomerang pussy though! You think you’ve tossed it away for the last time when suddenly…. WHAM! It’s back! Don’t fall for her sad story later

[Can’t Stump TrumpParticipant]

AwakenedOne wrote:

I even told her the desire for a divorce seemed to be a social pattern more than a personal choice.

You got that right! They’re planning the divorce before the words of the vows have left your lips. Don’t blame them though: that’s just their hypergamous nature. It sounds like you’re not suffering from the dreaded red pill rage.

Women are better at multitasking? Fucking up several things at once is not multitasking.

[No Ma’amParticipant 212]

Welcome. Women are their own worst enemy. Stay strong and chart your own course.

"Nobody loves me, but my mother, And she could be jivin` too." - B. B. King

[Anonymous 5]

AwakenedOne wrote:

I even told her the desire for a divorce seemed to be a social pattern more than a personal choice.

You’re probably right.
If some celebrity gets a new hairstyle then hair dressing salons around the world will be swamped with women wanting the same style, no matter how ridiculous or unattractive.
It’s the same when some actress wears shoes or carries a handbag at the Oscars.
Women have extremely malleable tastes, morals and opinions. They’re the ultimate chameleons.
It doesn’t matter how insane, damaging or repulsive the trend is, they’ll follow it.
The hive mentality of women has been promoting divorce as a badge of honor now for decades. Magazines and the media all support divorce parties by women and never fail to publicize windfall jackpots that women get from divorce.
It’s a trend that all women are consciously and subconsciously drawn to follow.

You’re right, there’s probably no logical reason why she should push for divorce but it’s not about logic, it’s about her being part of the sisterhood, the hive. She probably has no real idea why she’s doing it either.

Just enjoy your solitude. Try to ignore the shame feelings you’ve been programmed to feel by society for not having a c~~~ in your house.
With MGTOW learning you’ll become impervious to societal shaming tactics.
It’s only then, when shaming doesn’t work anymore and your bias towards your Ex declines, you’ll realize what a selfish c~~~ she always was beneath that thin veneer of beauty, butterflies and rainbows.
You’re blessed to be rid of her.

[Anonymous 1]

Welcome, brother. Your story (not the writing) is very difficult and painful to read. As a person who never been married, I can’t believe the hardship is so punishing. But you’re victorious and escaped intact. Great job.

This is not the end of your story, this is only the start. But now you’re familiar with the system and the pattern.

Trapper wrote:

Watch out for the boomerang pussy though! You think you’ve tossed it away for the last time when suddenly…. WHAM! It’s back! Don’t fall for her sad story later

Print these words and put it on your walls, wallpaper, and wallet. I’m exagerrating, of course. Lolol. But be very careful. Tune her out. Ignore her.

No Ma’am wrote:

Women are their own worst enemy.

Yep. They’re predictable and self destructing. Make sure they’re not dragging men along into their self dug grave.

You’re awesome. You only have to thank yourself and your determination. Welcome, Brother

[AkanbiParticipant 2120]

Nice intro, @awakenedone.

I’ve not experienced near half the things you did but, I’ve been here for quite a while.

So, I can confidently tell you that it only gets better from now.

Welcome to the forums.

My brother make you no follow sheeple o. Look them and Go Your Way.

[StargazerParticipant 12505]

It sounds like you did everything any man could possibly do. You supported your wife and her (now your) child and you made contributions and sacrifices that are beyond reproach.

The collapse of your relationship as you have stated it is 100% the fault of your wife and her hypergamy. It’s a story many men know from their own lives and if you’re telling this story in cinematic form, you’ll find a large and emotionally receptive audience.

[ThanasiParticipant 428]

Thanks for sharing.

Your story sounds familiar.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Congratulations are in order!!

I don’t really believe in “celebrating” a divorce – that’s what women do, like they get some personal pleasure from it – but since it resulted in such positives for you, then we should raise a glass to you. Saving a man’s ass is priority one.

Cheers and welcome.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Y_Participant 4591]

Keymaster wrote:

I don’t really believe in “celebrating” a divorce – that’s what women do, like they get some personal pleasure from it – but since it resulted in such positives for you, then we should raise a glass to you. Saving a man’s ass is priority one.

I DO! I DO!
(In case anyone is interested I am extremely petty.)

Happy Wonderful Divorce.
You are free! Hallelujah!

[Anonymous 12]

I’m currently sitting in a hotel room typing this because I’m working on my biggest project ever. I’m in the entertainment business and the story I’m working on is about a man who loses his family during a divorce and is served a restraining order. How’s that for irony?

You are indeed working on your biggest project.
let it be the only project that matters.

You, your skills, your personality and your path.

After all the setbacks – welcome to your own story.

[Author]

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