Showing their true colors

[Truthseeker82Participant 6406]

In one last effort to try to “save” my relationship, I offered a “post-nuptial” agreement to my wife. Only been married a year. No lawyers involved, and since we had no joint property of any substance, the only concern I had was alimony..aka maintenance. The agreement simply stated if we split up, we go our own ways and will not request the court to order alimony for either spouse. We keep what is ours. Illinois has a feminist favored formula which is: 30% of the higher earners (almost always the man) salary minus 20% of the lower earners. Then for marriages less than 5 years – a factor of .20 the length of marriage to determine the length of payment. And that factor goes up in 5 year intervals. Anything over I think 20 years can be permanently ordered. Anyway, she balked on the agreement and said not to worry. She would not request any maintenance. You see men, this is the trap. Trust them? . I won’t be filing any post nuptial. The only papers being filed next will be divorce papers. Women are all the same. We are walking wallets.

[UntamedParticipant]

Once it becomes Law, there’s nothing to argue about. Balk she can, she won’t be able to stop the state stomping on your neck once you’ve had enough of her s~~~.
I’m cutting on a relations~~~ today. Single mom, two kids… She knew the deal from the git-go. Read my previous posts about it. Now the red flags are waving in the wind and the gusts sing move on in chorus.
Explodes my tablet about crap she damn well knew from the beginning. Then tries to play the victim? WHAT!!?
Last message was 15 mins ago. I think I shut her up.

Don't let them Blame, Shame or Tame you!
Give 'em NOTHING, not even an answer!
#GenderSegragationNow!

[RoyDalParticipant]

@VHVGN60 and @untamed,

Good luck to both of you. I sincerely hope you can avoid the horrors that some men go through in these situations.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[TaxGuyParticipant]

Try sending her an email stating that even though she told you that she wouldn’t ask for any maintenance, you still think the post-nuptial agreement is the right way to go. Send it to her in the middle of the day. “Hey, I’ve been thinking about this more….” . Then hopefully you can get her to confirm IN WRITING that she won’t seek maintenance. She may not take the bait, and who knows how much it will help, but at least you will have it in writing that she won’t try.

I have saved every email and every text that say anything in my favor for years.

Order the good wine

[UntamedParticipant]

RoyDal wrote:

@VHVGN60 and @untamed,
Good luck to both of you. I sincerely hope you can avoid the horrors that some men go through in these situations.

It’s way beyond luck, but thanks just the same. Nowadays, as soon as I open the door to any deal, and there aren’t many that involve the rest of your life, I make sure there are exits I can jump through shootin’ or no deal no how.

Don't let them Blame, Shame or Tame you!
Give 'em NOTHING, not even an answer!
#GenderSegragationNow!

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

Truthseeker82 wrote:

Only been married a year.

Can you get an annulment instead of a divorce?

[heads-upParticipant 320]

Truthseeker82 wrote:

Anyway, she balked on the agreement and said not to worry. She would not request any maintenance.

Well thats just a straight up contradiction.
The fact she balked will worry you right.
If she wanted you not to worry she would have just signed it.
I shouldnt say get a divorce,its not my place ,I should stay out of it,nope I wont do it,it would be rude,

Off topic fella…….do you like to run,I run a lot,lots of guys are taking up running,its good for you,go run ,you’ll like it a lot,run and run and run.:-P

[Truthseeker82Participant 6406]

According to attorney, annulment is out of the question here. I do run! It is great to boost the mood and take ones mind off of woman and other BS!

[Mr. SpockParticipant 10910]

When I was married, my ex told me that she wouldn’t go after anything if we ever got a divorce. We’d split the house (How generous, I paid for it) and she’d leave my pension and retirement savings alone and simply sign the papers. When I filed for divorce years later, she decided that she couldn’t live without the spousal support, held out for the full 2 years in the no fault divorce and said that if my half of the house didn’t equal what I had in retirement that she’d go after the retirement too. Also tried to shame me into NOT claiming the spousal support on my taxes. I did anyways.
Bottom line, once you are gone and they realize the direness of their economic situation and life in general, they will change their tune and the attitude becomes very vengeful. Do not trust women they are professional liars.

Feminism isn't about equality with men, it's about leverage over men.

[XSDBSParticipant 3598]

Truthseeker82 wrote:

In one last effort to try to “save” my relationship, I offered a “post-nuptial” agreement to my wife.

I would agree, save yourself, file for divorce.
The only “agreement” your wife is ever going to agree to or sign was the marriage license.

[RealityBitesParticipant 2198]

Quit your job, clear out the banking account, cancel her credit card, take all of the financial papers, and whatever you deem as being absolutely essential and Disappear.
Do NOT make any contact, do NOT leave any forwarding address…just disappear.

Move to another state that is more divorce friendly to men.
Once you get a new job, and a place, file for Divorce in that state.
Have the divorce papers served to her.

[OgreParticipant 5863]

I just wanted to make sure that I understand the formula that you threw out there. Your support would be the difference between 30 percent of your pay and 20 percent of hers for a number of months that is .20 of the time you’ve been married, right? So at one year, what even the courts look at as an “oopsie” marriage you would pay her about 10-20 percent (depending on how much more you make than her) of your check for two to three months. At some point your lawyer will be getting more money for advising you by the hour than you’d actually windup paying her. If you’re already thinking you screwed up it won’t get better, especially after dropping the hand grenade of your agreement. The court settlement right now will be ripping off a band aid compared to the arm and a leg it will cost you later.

I failed to realize in my youth that I was the prize. I was going to work. I was going to earn. Little did I realize that due to feminism, that no longer meant I had to share. Road soon, Desert after.

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