She's Demanding I Act More Enthisiastic

[StargazerParticipant 12505]

So I hosted an event a month or so ago and a female I’d met once or twice showed up briefly, we talked for about ten minutes and then she left. Later on she messaged me and said she’d wanted to stay and get to know me more, maybe things could have gotten physical, etc. well that’s nice to hear, but I don’t know this person at all so I suggested we meet again down the road (she’d be out of town for a month) and see what happens.

During that month we spoke online a few times, she’s very passionate about new-age spiritualism which really doesn’t do anything for me so I pretty much lost interest in her as a person but figured what the heck, we can meet for coffee or a drink and see if there’s any real chemistry.

We met yesterday afternoon and while I can’t say I was wanting to show her my bedroom, it was at least a pleasant afternoon… but apparently that wasn’t good enough for her, Today she messaged me and called me out for not telling her I had a good time and was looking forward to seeing her again…

“I am a kind, loving, expressive person and need to be shown it. Yesterday could have been followed up with “I had a good time” or something… just FYI for future success with women! Women eventually give up on dudes who don’t do the little things like that…”

“That’s understandable. I’m not a particularly expressive man, though, so I hope you’d judge me by what I do, not what I do or don’t say. The truth is I do not know you well enough to know if I am interested in you or not, but chiding me for not acting more enthusiastic than I am is not helping. I’m sorry but I’m not liking the way this is heading… if you feel I’m not showing enough interest you should trust and act on your feelings rather than trying to change my behavior. So thank you but I am going to withdraw at this point.”

So clearly for this female, my lack of interest in her was a sign of my ineptitude as a man and some problem with my communication and socialization skills and had nothing to do with the fact that all she could do was bounce around like a hyperactive child, show me pictures of her family members I couldn’t give a s~~~ less about and rave about yoga, past lives, breath healing or whatever the hell image of herself she was trying to project. Yeah, maybe if you were 23 and twice as hot, but I’m not interested in bulls~~~ting my way into banging a 30+ year old hippie chick like all the other guys you’ve met on your path to enlightenment or wherever the hell it is you think you’re going.

[heads-upParticipant 320]

“Just FYI for future success with women! Women eventually give up on dudes who don’t do the little things like that…”
She put you in your place Doc lol
She could have said “did you have fun yesterday,I know I did,let me know your thoughts”
You ran and you where right,cheeky cow

[XSDBSParticipant 3598]

Stargazer wrote:

Today she messaged me and called me out for not telling her I had a good time and was looking forward to seeing her again…

“I am a kind, loving, expressive person and need to be shown it. Yesterday could have been followed up with “I had a good time” or something… just FYI for future success with women! Women eventually give up on dudes who don’t do the little things like that…”

My response to that s~~~ test would have been “ok, bye”, and never communicated with her again.

[chirParticipant]

My response:

Had you been less of a narcissist you would have popped your head out of your constant need of affirmation by others and realized I was enjoying myself. Other women less self-absorbed than you do notice and don’t need help realizing it. It is best if we have no further communication.

Of course if you do say that, ensuing female meltdown would be imminent. 🙂

It is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion, it is by the beans of Java that thoughts acquire speed, the hands acquire shaking, the shaking becomes a warning; it is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion.

[timtimtimTeslaParticipant 16]

I used to try to figure out s~~~-tests with girls in high school. Unless you’re already getting something out of it (vagina, perhaps?), I don’t think it’s worth it to try to flip s~~~-tests on people as the users have done above. Although I find that amusing, I’ve discovered most people don’t, as it can come across as clever masturbation.

I think I’d tell her that if her standards were other people’s behavior, things probably wouldn’t work out, because I don’t date out of the middle of the bell curve. Yeah, yeah, no one likes an elitist, but a lot of women engage in this sort of behavior.

[HitmanParticipant]

You dodged a looney toon!..

[OldBillParticipant]

Hitman is spot on; you dodged a Grade A, Category 5, Loony Toon. Lucky for you she broke cover so early. There are two things you can salvage from this particular train wreck.

First, you’ve got one hell of a bar story! Punch it up a bit, emphasize the wacky nature of the woman in question, and work on your delivery. Pretty soon they’ll be asking you to tell the “Wacky New Age Slut” story over and over again while they howl with laughter.

Second, this is a superb learning opportunity. She wasted little time going zero to full retard in about a month and there was no real fallout from her mental meltdown while you only invested two actual meetings and a few texts in the wacky bitch. What you can do now is think back about her behavior and conversation during your admittedly brief interactions with her. She has what gamblers call “tells”, those little mannerisms, tics, or speech patterns which indicate to an observant man that the woman in question is nuttier than squirrel s~~~. She has tells because all crazy women have tells and crazy women have a lot of tells in common. For example, her fervor for various types of new age douchebaggery is a huge red flag and one you chose to ignore when you agreed to meet her.

Most likely you just wanted to watch a loony at close range for the laughs, much like how folks slow down to look at wrecks on the freeway. You shouldn’t have wasted any of your precious time on her.

Do not date. Do not impregnate. Do not co-habitate. Above all, do not marry. Reclaim and never again surrender your personal sovereignty.

[John Woods 13Participant 2855]

OldBill wrote:

the woman in question is nuttier than squirrel s~~~

Man, I’m so grateful for all you guys. I get many laughs during the day. I think I’ll start compiling some of the stuff being said here and write a manly humor training manual for my boys to have when they become teens and start the pussy hunt.

Stargazer wrote:

I’m not interested in bulls~~~ting my way into banging a 30+ year old hippie chick

Very nice.

The answer is NO. “I could but I won’t”. Memini murum!

[QcummerParticipant 652]

sounds like you attract chaos

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[StargazerParticipant 12505]

Here’s the thing,,, I’ve got enough time to spare to indulge in a bit of weirdness now and then for a good story. If anything is truly disappointing about this, though, it’s that the story just isn’t going to be all that interesting in the end.

At this point I just wanted to try to salvage the experience by sharing the audacity of this female with you guys. I mean honestly, the nerve of knowing that I just wasn’t feeling her but demanding that I act like I was just to prop up her ego. It’s absurd.

[uchibenkeiParticipant 7965]

She’s a date critic who can’t even tell you to your face. she feels it is her duty to review your performance and give you feedback after the date is over. What an arrogant entitled piece of s~~~. I’d give her a review back and not a good one. tell her what you expect. she should enthusiastically pull down your pants and gobble your c~~~ like it was the last twinkie on earth.

I bathe in the tears of single moms.

[StargazerParticipant 12505]

Qcummer wrote:

sounds like you attract chaos

I believe that chaos is a vital component of a well balanced life and I enjoy a considerable amount of it.

[RoyDalParticipant]

@doc Fenderson,

You have reconfirmed my commitment to the institution of bachelorhood. Solitary bachelorhood.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[Deus Ex MachinaParticipant 1068]

Good thing nothing every evolved more then that because

She would’ve changed the food in your fridge to “Gluten-Free” all Vegan.

Made you listen to Enya

Sign you up for Yoga classes

Drink Chai tea everyday and go to Meditation therapy.

Granola chicks are an absolute waste of time. They’re very opinionated about everything and every one, and if you bring a alternate view on a certain topic they take it as a threat and try to belittle you, or try and make you apologize for “Offending them”. Yeah I lived in a greeny town for a few years and dated a granola chick, not a fun experience.

Cheers to you Bud!, you did dodge a bullet.

"If You have the Tooth of a Whale, You must have the Whale's Jaw to hold it". (i.e. One Must have the right qualifications for leadership) -Hawaiian Proverb

[AntaresParticipant 208]

How attractive was she? Usually this kind of “wounded pride” chastising comes from women who can’t handle not being the center of attention. Surprised you could stick it out with “passionate about new-age spiritualism” girl. I’d have a hard time concentrating with the unending red flags and “bail the f~~~ out now” klaxons going off in my head.

Price is what you pay, value is what you get. -- Ben Graham

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

When McDonalds can’t interest customers, it blames itself and it kicks up its menu.

When a woman can’t interest a man… she blames the man.

Guess which policy works better. Here’s a hint: One is a multibillion dollar multinational. The other will die alone only to be eaten by her many cats.

[megatoad69Participant 449]

@ Deus Ex Machina;
You get half way through that balogna sandwich she made for you, you are eating it slower and slower then you realise it’s tofu.
That would be pure baloney!

You can't reason with unreasonable, there; women, figured out, there is nothing to reason.

[Robert HallamParticipant 696]

My response would have been:

“You want me to lie. I wanted to tell you the truth that my dick went limp the moment I saw you, but my mother always said if you have nothing good to say then don’t say it.”

[Anonymous 18]

Stargazer wrote:

Women eventually give up on dudes who don’t do the little things like that…

That would have worked magic breeding insecurity in an young inexperienced man. Hope she was a good f~~~. Perhaps a mistake not worth repeating.

[StargazerParticipant 12505]

Anonymous wrote:

Hope she was a good f~~~. Perhaps a mistake not worth repeating.

Don’t assume that I f~~~ed her, I did not. I spent an hour talking with her at a coffee shop and 30 minutes shopping at REI. That’s it.

I know what women respond to and it isn’t necessarily having smoke blown up their asses… although that apparently would have worked for this one, but I’m not looking to butter up a woman, I’m looking to be honest. She clearly couldn’t handle that so I moved on.

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