She will ruin our cottage trip

[Anonymous 0]

**Warning – Work Rant**

At work, we are a department of 15 people, 8 men and 7 women. Every year during summers, us boys go camping or cottaging. Since last year, I have noticed that one of the women in our department kept dropping subtle hints of wanting to go with us, that she would fit in perfectly, that she isn’t like other women, that it would be so much fun to hang out with us guys, that she would bring her husband along, that her husband would get along with us, etc. (Side note, we have hung out with her husband on several occasions at work parties and he is a great guy so we have no issues with him)

The guy who owns the cottage is a huge mangina. He invited her and her husband this year and that is a point of contention with me.

We look forward to cottaging all year long. When us boys get together, we talk about anything and everything. There is lots of food, booze, games, guy talk around the campfire and rants about work.

But if she is going, I don’t want to go. She is passive-aggressive, is extremely sarcastic and thinks she is funny and easy-going. She infuriates me because she keeps claiming how she isn’t like other women with their drama and how she is a NAWALT when the truth is, she is exactly like every other woman and is a boatload of drama. Drama is her middle name. Drama follows her. She thrives on drama. She is the ultimate office gossip.

I have literally no say in the matter since I don’t own the cottage but I am feeling apprehensive about her being there. It really sucks but I have decided that if she is going, I will not go. This is a prime example of a woman at my workplace, not getting along with other women and instead spoiling a good thing the boys have going by inviting herself. What’s sad is that several times, the women in my department have tried to set-up their own girl hangout date (usually at a restaurant or at someone’s house) and it always ends in disaster. They end up fighting with each other, nitpicking and holding grudges forever.

All I wanted was for the boys get together once again, drink a few beers, grill some burgers and sausages and hangout. But I think that was asking for too much.

[Mr. SpockParticipant 10911]

Good call in not going. Not only will she ruin your fun but there is always the potential for a false accusation of some sort. Since you work with this woman, it becomes a work related issue and if anything comes out if it, your employer can fire you over ANY allegations that she makes.
I’d warn some of your co-workers about this as well. Even though her husband will be there, he probably won’t be with her during every minute of the trip which means at some point she could accuse any one of you of some bulls~~~. He will be in a position to have to take her side too.
Do everything you can to steer clear of taking part in this.

Feminism isn't about equality with men, it's about leverage over men.

[MACHOParticipant]

Don’t go even if you don’t hear anything bad after this year, wait and see the s~~~ she will stir up!

Anonymous wrote:

The guy who owns the cottage is a huge mangin. He invited her and her husband this year and that is a point of contention with me.

We look forward to cottaging all year long. When us boys get together, we talk about anything and everything

Anonymous wrote:

she is a NAWALT when the truth is, she is exactly like every other woman and is a boatload of drama. Drama is her middle name. Drama follows her

Drama! It’s in the female nature, they can’t help it, it’s as natural as breathing!

Anonymous wrote:

I have decided that if she is going, I will not go.

You must own a better Crystal ball than I

[TaxGuyParticipant]

Anonymous wrote:

It really sucks but I have decided that if she is going, I will not go.

Smart move. Are any of the guys going your boss? If so, start positioning yourself for his job now, because he’s probably going to be fired after she comes back. I’m sure she’ll be offended by something that comes out of his mouth. And she’ll go crying to HR.

Since it is all people only connected by work, it will be deemed a work function. S~~~, you guys are lucky the women haven’t gone to HR already about excluding them from the gathering.

Order the good wine

[AwakenedParticipant 35202]

DO YOUR OWN THING

ENJOY YOUR TIME

STAY AWAY FROM THEM

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

[Faust For ScienceParticipant 22526]

Vacation alone. Vacation off-season on where you are going.

[It’sallbsParticipant]

Anonymous wrote:

or cottaging

Don’t say that in the UK it has a whole different meaning altoghether

hahahaha

http://www.leavemeansleave.eu

[MonkParticipant 16995]

Anonymous wrote:

Since last year, I have noticed that one of the women in our department kept dropping subtle hints of wanting to go with us, that she would fit in perfectly, that she isn’t like other women, that it would be so much fun to hang out with us guys, that she would bring her husband along, that her husband would get along with us, etc.

She’s looking for a Chad.

This is definately one event it would be wise to miss.

[MonkParticipant 16995]

It’sallbs wrote:

Don’t say that in the UK it has a whole different meaning altoghether

Will you tell him, or will I? 😀

[It’sallbsParticipant]

Monk wrote:

Will you tell him, or will I?

Cottaging definition
the act of having anonymous sexual encounters with other men in public toilets.

http://www.leavemeansleave.eu

[HermitParticipant 1121]

It will be interesting to see if any other guys bail out. It only takes one woman to f**k everything up and she has. Sorry your good time had to end. You will find something new.

I don't hate women. I just feel better when they're not around.

[AttonParticipant]

Might be worth finding some better friends.

A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

[Jim01Participant 6678]

They just have to have something that is someone else’s don’t they?

is the case for male hobbies like gaming, comics or films. Men’s clubs or something smaller like men enjoying themselves at what you say above…they have to tag along and then they f~~~ it all up for everyone

[Anonymous 0]

Thank you all for your replies and words of wisdom. Much appreciated!

Mr. Spock wrote:

Good call in not going. Not only will she ruin your fun but there is always the potential for a false accusation of some sort. Since you work with this woman, it becomes a work related issue and if anything comes out if it, your employer can fire you over ANY allegations that she makes.
I’d warn some of your co-workers about this as well. Even though her husband will be there, he probably won’t be with her during every minute of the trip which means at some point she could accuse any one of you of some bulls~~~. He will be in a position to have to take her side too.
Do everything you can to steer clear of taking part in this.

False accusation is exactly what I’m thinking. It is better to avoid any such situation especially if there is alcohol involved. My coworkers fall too easily into peer pressure so it is likely the all of them are going. I have a ton of hobbies and things I can do with my time so that’s where I will focus. Peer pressure or any form of pressure doesn’t work on me.

TaxGuy wrote:

joepoet5 wrote:

It really sucks but I have decided that if she is going, I will not go.

Smart move. Are any of the guys going your boss? If so, start positioning yourself for his job now, because he’s probably going to be fired after she comes back. I’m sure she’ll be offended by something that comes out of his mouth. And she’ll go crying to HR.

Since it is all people only connected by work, it will be deemed a work function. S~~~, you guys are lucky the women haven’t gone to HR already about excluding them from the gathering.

None of the guys going are my boss. One of the women that used to work in my department did say a few years ago. something about opening the trip up for everyone in the department but no one really listened to her anyways. It is just sad that these women can’t seem to organize an activity of their own and instead have to spoil one good thing the guys have.

I am positioning myself to take on leadership roles. I was one of two people in the department that got a promotion and a raise this past December while the rest of my coworkers are putting in the bare minimum at work, are stuck in loveless marriages, long-term relationships, getting engaged, married or trying to get pregnant, hauling their kids to games after work, shelling out ridiculous amounts of money to see them play games, etc.

Awakened wrote:

DO YOUR OWN THING

ENJOY YOUR TIME

STAY AWAY FROM THEM

That’s the plan. I’ll most likely be tinkering around in the garage, making, breaking or fixing something.

Hermit wrote:

It will be interesting to see if any other guys bail out. It only takes one woman to f**k everything up and she has. Sorry your good time had to end. You will find something new.

I doubt the other guys will bail out. I know them well. They all are fearful of missing out on the fun. Yes the good time has ended but it is time for new beginnings. I have several interests and hobbies and I already am working on something new and exciting.

Atton wrote:

Might be worth finding some better friends.

They are my colleagues (work friends). I have friends outside of work so I will be just fine.

Jim01 wrote:

They just have to have something that is someone else’s don’t they?

is the case for male hobbies like gaming, comics or films. Men’s clubs or something smaller like men enjoying themselves at what you say above…they have to tag along and then they f~~~ it all up for everyone

They just can’t stand not being included or invited to a fun thing. Rejection messes with their minds. Their natural instinct is to screw it up for everyone if they can’t be part of it.

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