Shaming in the household, with "chivalry".

[AlmostNiceGuyParticipant 210]

Just my 2 cents on the topic. I never really had much confidence when I was growing up, matter of fact I think I had such a lack of confidence that only shoved me farther down a dark road. Might have been bullying, not just at school, but as an everyday occurrence. Now I realize, not to play a “victim”, that the mayority of it stemmed from home. I understand that what I’m about to say might sound like whinning, but I’m thankful of what I learned from it. Since young I was told do chores around the household, most importantly moving things with my dad (stepdad to be exact); furniture, and the such, however it was mostly luggage from my family members. To this day, everytime a relative arrives, I pick up the bags. I think of it as just manners, but I could be mistaken. However, if I do refuse to do such things, my mom and every other damn female relative would say that it was the “chivalrous thing to do”. One day I got fed up of a little s~~~ and I just snapped, the c~~~ harrased me for every damn thing, so I swept kicked the little s~~~. The teachers, mostly female, held me in the principals office for and hour explaining how “women should not be hit, even with the petal of a rose”(was about 7),was so young, my mom shamed me of that one instant until I was twelve. Everyday telling me how if I didn’t do, essentially everything they asked (be quiet around guests and gatherings, pander to every female around me, never fight or confront anyone because that is what “gentlemen do”), no girl would ever love me and that I would die alone. Reason as to why I didn’t want to do so many things is because I would see that my sister would not be asked to do anything. Example: I’d get the luggage from my relatives at the door, would move them to their rooms, and she would just sit there playing. Thankfully, I learned to control that anger and frustration and shift it somewhere positive, a hobby, sports, or studying. Now, my sister is being pandered by my parents, she is just shy of getting her degree on what I affectionately call (changing diapers), lashes out at criticism, and is looked at disgustingly by any male friends (she is a beached land-whale), and will go back home to attempt to find a job. Where as I’m a business major planning on getting two masters degree, Finance and International Business, have never been in a better shape in my life, and above all else I have swallowed the red-pill. Cheers brothers, we are now free.

[EdogParticipant 254]

In the society I am partaking in, the female version of ‘chivalry’ is akin to castration.

[Anonymous 12]

Edog wrote:

In the society I am partaking in, the female version of ‘chivalry’ is akin to castration.

Before I read your post I was going to say that Chivalry is a really nice word for Slave!

My mother used to make a fuss when I would do things that would be considered Chivalrous or Gentlemanly, it always made me uncomfortable and by the time I hit 16 I realized why, I was being groomed for servitude.

[uchibenkeiParticipant 7965]

men are supposed to be chivalrous to ladies.  i will be when I see one.

I bathe in the tears of single moms.

[Lord VatsParticipant 379]

You should always remember that chivalry was practiced by powerful and dangerous men. Take out the power and the danger, and chivalry is no better than slavery.@AlmostNiceGuy You can be as chivalrous as you want when you become a CEO.

And by the way, congratulations on breaking free from the shackles of your smothering family.

[ILiveAgainParticipant]

Chivalry was awarded to other men. Knights and warriors to be exact….. and then only Christians.

Non Christians were offered no quater neither were their women.

The women of dead Christian knights and warriors were ‘taken’ and looked after as tribute to the fallen warriors.

The chivalry was second hand for the woman unless she was in the royal circle ….. and defended as part of such.

What I’m trying to say is …. tell your mum and sister to f~~~ off 😆

 

[RoyDalParticipant]

Lord Vats wrote:

You should always remember that chivalry was practiced by powerful and dangerous men.

Good point! An insightful man once said, “an armed society is a polite society.” How easy it was for them to turn the disarmed into servants.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[AlmostNiceGuyParticipant 210]

Until about 2 years ago I always thought that chivalry was being polite, when in fact chivalry is just battle ettiquette, down to it’s core.

[Just MikeParticipant 393]

Off the top of my head I can’t really name or think of a female equivalent of chivalry and as such do not participate in one-sided, zero-benefit behaviours mentioned. When women start doing polite things for me for no other reason than expected good faith/social stigma I may acquiesce my view on the matter.

…this will most likely be never.

Society: I refuse your stick and carrot. If you try to beat or shame me you'd better take me down first time. If I want smoke blown up my ass I'll buy a cigar and a length of hose.

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