Shaming At Work

[Ghost In The WiresParticipant 19]

I figured I would get this off my chest here because its really annoying and bothers me a lot. At my job I work with ALOT of females. There are a good amount of males at my workplace but its about 65% female. Well there is this one particular woman I work with a few days out of the week and she is always asking me if I have a girlfriend and I always say no. She then pries with more questions and accuses me of being gay. I tell her relations~~~s are a waste of time and energy as well as the money you have to shell out for a bitch you end up dating. She then attempts to shame me for being “selfish” or “cheap” I tell her its my money I work for it and its no one else’s I’m not obligated to spend money on ungrateful females who will never love you. However she asks me this and starts her usual line of shaming me about every few weeks and it p~~~es me off to no f~~~ing end.

"Success and failure do not happen in the moment. Everything is bleeding into everything else. So the bad decisions you make today have a ripple effect that can last for weeks or months." -Tyle

[DwightDavidParticipant 859]

Call HR on her ass.

[Anonymous 18]

Voice recorder and what @dwightdavid said.

[SolidParticipant 7520]

First rule of the MGTOW, don’t talk with bitches about MGTOW.

This kind of behaviour can be categorised as harassment or if you prefer, bullying.

Express in a really clear way, with clear words that you don’t want to talk about your private life, it’s not her business. If she persists, talk with HR.

Some people usually ask why I’m single, and I just say that I’m focusing on my career and my studies, that’s enough, no more words about the topic, simple as that. If the person try to ask something else, I just point to the screen and say “let’s focus here, we have work to do, now concentrate”. Work 100% of the time, nobody want to look like an lazy ass in their jobs

[Mr. CrowleyParticipant 384]

Ah idk about HR. Because of your genetailia you don’t have a leg to stand on no matter the proof.

I will tell you to take very very short nuggets on gold from this forum and use reverse psychology on her.

‘Wait so if women hate women, and no one understands them better then themselves, why should I get involved?’

Small creative lines that will provoke deep thought without saying much at all. I think you may be taking a defensive stance on the subject.

Punks- Not Feeling Lucky Since 1971

[EekParticipant 1162]

“Don’t talk to women at work, except about work.” – Keymaster

I would also add, try to avoid talking to them about work as well.

[pabsawakeParticipant 1761]

You would get better reception if you explained your MGTOW philosophy to a brick wall. Brother just ignore her, and if she tries the shaming bulls~~~ just give her a dumb ass smile.

She’s p~~~ing you off, that means she’s renting space in your head. Clear the mechanism. Does this common whore really matter to you and your life?

Sovereignty, Peace, and Prosperity brother good luck.

"You can either love women or understand them, you can't do both". Truth over everything

[<<>>Participant 435]

Solid wrote:

Some people usually ask why I’m single, and I just say that I’m focusing on my career and my studies, that’s enough, no more words about the topic, simple as that. If the person try to ask something else, I just point to the screen and say “let’s focus here, we have work to do, now concentrate”. Work 100% of the time, nobody want to look like an lazy ass in their jobs

Eek wrote:

“Don’t talk to women at work, except about work.” – Keymaster

Men built your work environment from the linoleum to the double paned glass. When a woman interrupts workflow with inappropriate personal banter remind her of this by walking across the floor and silently looking out the window. When she ceases her useless babble, without speaking return to the task as if nothing happened. Repeat and innovate the only constant is that you do not respond, if she gets upset, then, by all means, let her, what is she going to do? complain to HR that you refuse to answer questions about your love life? your sexuality? We owe them nothing.

[Oz-BlokeParticipant 3233]

Funny how if a man avoids sexual or intimate relationships with women he’s always labelled as ‘gay’, when I’m pretty sure many gay men pursue long-term relationships, cohabitation, marriage – the complete opposite of MGTOW. Imagine how long we would last at work if we suggested every single female co-worker was a lesbian. We’d be out the door quicker than you can say “tounge-and-groover”. It’s just a cheap shot from women who can’t fathom there are men out there that won’t worship their golden uterus or participate in their Vagina Monetization Scam (VMS). Using your co-worker’s logic, this would be true –

#ManOut

[FunInTheSunParticipant 8283]

Tell her she’s making sexist remarks in the workplace and she needs to stop it. You don’t owe anyone an explanation of how you live your private life.

Sometimes I avoid eating lunch in the breakroom at work so I can avoid hearing people’s petty gossip. I go to work to get something done, not socialize.

"I saw that there comes a point, in the defeat of any man of virtue, when his own consent is needed for evil to win-and that no manner of injury done to him by others can succeed if he chooses to withhold his consent. I saw that I could put an end to your outrages by pronouncing a single word in my mind. I pronounced it. The word was ‘No.’" (Atlas Shrugged)

[PhantomParticipant 3328]

Ghost In The Wires wrote:

However she asks me this and starts her usual line of shaming me about every few weeks and it p~~~es me off to no f~~~ing end.

Damage control is in order here, imho. You have already opened, or at least have unlocked “pandora’s box”, by divulging information to her, that she need not have known, and for far too long.

Every few weeks? How many months has this been going on? I don’t give advice per se, but I suggest not giving her any more info ammunition.

Nor would I go to HR…

Mr. Crowley wrote:

Ah idk about HR. Because of your genetailia you don’t have a leg to stand on no matter the proof.

It is a huge gamble…stakes aren’t as high as the marriage gamble, but it will more than likely escalate this beyond what it already is, and probably not in your favor. And if the box isn’t opened already, most certainly would be afterwards.

If I were in this situation, I would try to get back to some kind of neutral ground with this female…if at all possible. I would slowly and methodically do all I could to show less and less care/concern about this s~~~ she throws at you.

Regardless of how you feel inside, don’t let her ever see on your face, in your tone or body language, that what she says even matters. In short, don’t let her get her bs kicks/thrills off of her vomit drama she’s using to get a “rise” out of you. If you catch my drift.

[Silverstone the SecondParticipant]

Ghost In The Wires wrote:

she is always asking me if I have a girlfriend and I always say no. She then pries with more questions

Let her ask away, tell her it’s none of her f~~~ing business. Tell her yes, and then when she pries tell her to f~~~ off. Women will try to interrogate you and then gossip to no end about what’s going on in other people’s life.
“OMG, did you hear that Becky is dating Joe?”
“Oh no, girl. Did you see Becky’s outfit? It’s so tacky. blah blah blah. I heard Joe used to;fggj;skdfg;lskdjfg”

They are so boring and uninteresting that they have to talk about other people’s ass. Let her shame away. Ask her if she has a boyfriend. Ask her how she keeps him with her s~~~ty attitude.

Let her shame away, all women have is talk talk talk gossip gossip gossip. Let her jabber away while you build your wealth.

Never ceases to amaze me how women think they have some kind of input in your life. They feel entitled to tell you how to live, like they have some sort of weight to what they say. You’re just some bitch, what makes you think I give a f~~~ about your opinion? Oh, because you think your opinion is sheer gold.

Hell, I’d get a transfer or better yet, a different job.

Feminism is a movement where opinions are presented as facts and emotions are presented as evidence.

[Catch And ReleaseParticipant 133]

“Why would I need a relationship when you fill the void with your unnecessary nagging?”

[Oz-BlokeParticipant 3233]

As a side note, I had a mate in the railways who’s two heterosexual co-workers who told management they were in a gay relationship. Their sexual orientation story, combined with being in the union, make them untouchable from a HR perspective.

#ManOut

[bigboy83Participant 11312]

Selfish and cheap? Women are the selfish and cheap ones.

Shit Tested, Cunt Approved.

[DorkShitParticipant 4353]

You need to practice the art of nothing.

Nothing is nothing.

When someone asks you something personal you do not have to respond.

Nothing = look directly through them and allow silence to happen…forever.

This is really tough to do. Especially if you are in a group setting.

First, personal questions are inappropriate. Silence is the only way to go. Trust me, been practicing it for many years and still failed sometimes. The moment I speak I know it is pointless.

Peace brothers

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

If she is asking every few weeks, what are you not doing to end this. After a few months I would wonder what I am doing that is encouraging her behavior. What we let people get away with is usually what they do get away with. I’m not trying to shift the blame, just suggesting you take a hard analysis of the situation and formulate a plan. My plan is always the same I just ask out right. Why are you shaming me? Or Why do think you have the right to say those things to me? Then let them nicely with a smile know “you don’t get to say those things to me and if it continues we will have HR mediate our next conversation.” Take ol’ Teddy’s advice “Walk softly and carry a big stick”. At work you have to be more professional than in the street. Losing a job due to lack of tact means you don’t get to decide when to quite; that’s something you want control of.

Ghost In The Wires wrote:

I tell her relations~~~s are a waste of time and energy as well as the money you have to shell out for a bitch you end up dating.

If your saying this then you are inviting her to rebuke you, and she will. More Stealth required. Sharing opinions is still sharing and I doubt she deserves your thoughts.

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

[narwhalParticipant]

Going to HR could backfire on you. Her accussing you of gay would not be more then a slap on the wrist, and I would guess your statements about women not being worth a relationship would get you a slap on the wrist as well. This woman would then likely label you as misogynist, spread that around, and try and trap you into saying something that could get you fired.

She wants attention, so ignore her. Publicly if possible.

Ok. Then do it.

[RyshParticipant 134]

If she talks you up next time with non-work BS, just roll your eyes and immediately come back to work topics. If she doesn’t have any work related reason to talk to you, just end the talk.

See, that’s why I don’t talk to women at work. It’s boring at best. Instead, I talk to men. It’t always interesting, and I’ve learnt quite a lot from different guys. Not so from women.

[Chaff/FlareParticipant 3235]

Don’t grab her by the pussy.

When you find yourself in the majority, it's time to reflect.

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