Separated, Divorcing, Life is Improving

[TheBeardParticipant 14]

Thinking back on my life the other day, I realized that I was actually a happy fellow once. I loved life, I enjoyed other people’s company, I had hopes and dreams. It startled me to realize that it was my old self I was jealous of.

Getting divorced is extremely hard with a little one, I tried all I knew to do to work it out. I realized that it’s not possible for me to be the problem of everything, some women are never content. It’s very odd considering she had everything she ever wanted and needed. Yet, I could never do enough to appease this soul sucking black mist that lived over my head. A foolish woman tears down her own household, and bitterness in her heart over foolish things destroyed the marriage in: Fits of rage, crying/weeping for 1-2 hours straight, Complaining how bad I am, and somewhat violent of a woman if you consider putting holes in walls and throwing things at you and punching your chest violent. I find it odd that I have raised my voice one time in 4 years to her, never once harmed her, took care of her, but I learned what a controlling woman is like.. It’s worse than I could have imagined.

It’s almost 7 months of separation, I grieved for a month and it’s been hard to lose a family. However, I have this freedom within me that I am no longer under someone’s dictatorship of demands and emotional hunger. It’s hard, but it’s freeing at the same time.

The Ex has no longer allowed me to have my child as of recent (Petition Papers). I am only allowed to visit her parents house where I am verbally gang-banged. I’m not really down for that, so I am currently in the process of motioning temporary custody with my lawyer along with filing my petition.

I was going to play nice but she got very ugly for some reason. She must have realized by now that I would never go back, I would honestly prefer death over it.

I did not want her to struggle. So, I gave her somewhere around $4000 from savings, and for six months after the separation, I paid for her car+insurance, paid the little ones daycare, threw her a few hundred at random times, yet now she has now been totally cut off due to using a child as a manipulation tool. I have receipts for everything, even the hotels I stayed in to get away from her at her wild fits of rage.

I no longer have a job partially because of the grief and stress this has caused me. When I was with her, twice I went to get X-Rays and Steroid shots from chest pains, another for oxygen tests, and many therapy sessions (useless), this was all caused by stress from this woman that is impossible to satisfy.

The job issue doesn’t bother me, I’ll get another one. Losing a house doesn’t bother me either if it happens. I would rather preserve my life and have less while being free from this controlling spirit of death that floats around her entire family.

It’s odd that the person you marry becomes someone else once you put a ring on them. If I could do everything over, I would have never married her. One thing I have never told her is that I never really wanted to marry her, my heart said no, but my outlook on life convinced me that this is what you do at your age, so I did it. Was it love? A bit, but it was heavier on the scales that I didn’t want to break her heart, I should have dumped her while we were dating, all of this would have been easier. I just figured she would stay the same.

I see a massive lack of respect from women towards men. I am not a macho-man, but something has happened and it’s disgusting. Women don’t seem to respect men anymore, not all of them, but it seems about 95% at least.

Thanks for letting me rant 🙂

[Truthseeker82Participant 6406]

You’re experience, sadly, is all too common. First, congrats on getting out of that mess. You showed your valor in trying to help her out in the beginning, but using a child as a political pawn just plain is vicious. The nature of women is such that they cannot be trusted. They know once you marrry them – they have you by the b~~~~ and wallet. Stay focused on your child, rebuilding your life and I hope your attorney can foil her plans to keep you from child.
I’ve been down your path before, brother. I’m an older man with a grown child about to become a doctor. I’m proud of his success. His mother was mild compared to the vituperous c~~~s out there today – but that was a different generation. My best to you and you’ve got an “army” of over 14,000 brothers who’ve got your back.

[Anonymous 54]

Just remember what ever it cost your freedom will be worth it. A wife only crushes your spirit.Thats what wives do. Now it will be free to soar once again. I gave up hopeing for respect from women a lomg time ago. But no matter. Respect yourself instead. You now have the chance to be happy again. Happyness bitter ex wives never fined.

[Crazy CanuckMember 4215]

I no longer have a job partially because of the grief and stress this has caused me. When I was with her, twice I went to get X-Rays and Steroid shots from chest pains, another for oxygen tests, and many therapy sessions (useless), this was all caused by stress from this woman that is impossible to satisfy.

Sorry what you are going through. There is a book that helps you reduce your stress. You can either buy the book or borrow from your local library. The title is called “Awaken The Giant Within”
http://www.amazon.com/Awaken-Giant-Within-Immediate-Emotional/dp/0671791540

"If pussy was a stock it would be plummeting right now because you've flooded the market with it. You're giving it away too easy." - Dave Chapelle

[RoyDalParticipant]

Welcome to the land of free men!

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[BlacqueJacqueShellacqueParticipant 6890]

@thebeard, sorry this has happened to you. My friend’s girl is pulling crazy town on him using two little girls as bargaining chips. He works so hard. She has him almost ruined in the happiness department. Congratulations on finding yourself free once again. Make the most of it brother.

[Blue SkiesParticipant 15665]

thanks for sharing your story @thebeard
stories like this reinforce my determination never to get married.

i’m glad you found the path to freedom.

TheBeard wrote:

It’s odd that the person you marry becomes someone else once you put a ring on them.

this quote should be written in stone.

MGTOW is not a movement, it is a way of life.

[Mr_OptionsParticipant 298]

Welcome brother. You are among friends here. It is tough in the beginning, but having freedom to go your own way, will serve you best.

A man without a woman is like a fish without a hook.

[hollowtipsParticipant 681]

Congratulations, and sorry you had to go through a divorce. Remember you happiness and freedom are more valuable than any amount of money.

[Won'tGetFooledAgainParticipant 3302]

TheBeard wrote:

It’s odd that the person you marry becomes someone else once you put a ring on them. If I could do everything over, I would have never married her. One thing I have never told her is that I never really wanted to marry her, my heart said no, but my outlook on life convinced me that this is what you do at your age, so I did it. Was it love? A bit, but it was heavier on the scales that I didn’t want to break her heart, I should have dumped her while we were dating, all of this would have been easier. I just figured she would stay the same.

I see a massive lack of respect from women towards men. I am not a macho-man, but something has happened and it’s disgusting. Women don’t seem to respect men anymore, not all of them, but it seems about 95% at least.

Thanks for letting me rant

100% my experience as well, like you say I married her because I just thought that was what everybody did. All of my friends were getting married at the time so I just assumed everything would be OK and everything would just stay the same.

You don’t actually see the real person you married until they want to get a divorce, then you wonder how they managed to cover it up for so many years.

Real life and the inevitable lack of respect is the thing that destroys marriages in the end. Women want to turn you into a Beta provider, and once they have done that they lose all respect and don’t want to have sex with you anymore. This is when you get the “I need space” talk and they are off looking for someone who makes the gina tingle again.

Getting married is pretty much the death sentence for any relationship. You have a 50% chance of a messy divorce and financial rape, or you get to spend the rest of your life in a sexless marriage with someone who barely tolerates you.

Doesn’t seem like a good deal to me.

For women, everything eventually boils down to Alpha Fucks, Beta Bucks.

[Oz-BlokeParticipant 3233]

Crikey, my divorce was ugly enough without children. I really feel for my MGTOW brothers who have to see their ex-boxes regularly for child handovers and protracted court proceedings. TheBeard, there is light at the end of that t~~~-infested tunnel

#ManOut

[RoninParticipant 42]

Welcome brother. I have been there myself. It will suck during the divorce but believe me it gets better. You’ll be be happier and your old single self especially when the divorce is done.
Try to stay positive for your kid and not bad mouth your ex in front of them. They will realize, when they are older, that you were the better person and find out how much of a c~~~ your ex was in those formative years.

[TiredofbsParticipant 485]

Won'tGetFooledAgain wrote:

You don’t actually see the real person you married until they want to get a divorce, then you wonder how they managed to cover it up for so many years.

First of all, tough story to read brother, but thanks for sharing. So many of us have walked that vicious road you’re on. It can tear you down if you let it. Lots of good advice from the brother’s in earlier posts.
Like the gentleman said above, you really don’t know someone until you put a ring on their finger (marriage) so don’t beat yourself up. Glad you’re finally recovering some freedom to live your life again,the way the Good Lord intended it.

[the roadParticipant 3125]

Thanks for sharing your story.

I never got married but I know how life draining a controlling woman is. I got to a point where I realized that I overall I was unhappy and the few happy things that were left in the relationship weren’t worth it.

Congratulations on your freedom, I hope that things clear up enough for you to get your child back. I can’t stand that f~~~ing law- it’s un-f~~~ing-constitutional and everyone that is involved in helping to take away a good man’s children should be stoned to death in public.

#MANOUT

[CPT ObviousParticipant 2775]

Thank you for sharing this. Brought back a lot of unpleasant memories. Trust me, despite the pain and cost, you will be happier in the long run.

TheBeard wrote:

Women don’t seem to respect men anymore, not all of them, but it seems about 95% at least.

Sorry, but this is still blue pill thinking. It is actually 100%.

I have been married twice and have also co-habited with other women. I have also observed this statistic with male friends.

Women will change once married as sure as the sun will rise tomorrow. Men think they just need to find the right one, the 5%, the unicorn. But she doesn’t exist.

There may be some less crazy or bitchy, however you will find yourself in the same boat wondering what happened to the woman I was dating.

"You don't know a woman till you have met her in divorce court."

[Masculine_ManParticipant 2735]

First off congratulations on getting a divorce. I feel for you, mine was simple because we had no kids. A little warning, she will try to get you to come back. She will throw pussy at you, she’ll try and make you remember the good times. There’s a reason why you’re doing this process. Your sanity is priceless.

TheBeard wrote:

I see a massive lack of respect from women towards men. I am not a macho-man, but something has happened and it’s disgusting. Women don’t seem to respect men anymore, not all of them, but it seems about 95% at least.

Yep so do I. That is why I am single and I will remain single. I do not want a wife nor do I want a girlfriend.

If it costs you your peace of mind, then it is too expensive.

[Ronin11Participant 208]

I was going to play nice but she got very ugly for some reason

For some reason? Women are vindictive. I tell all my friends once a woman is done with you, take off the gloves, fight dirty, fight hard. Do whatever it takes to win. You don’t want to have regrets in life.

What’s the definition of Marriage? Find a woman you don’t like and buy her a house.

It does get better.

There are no good women only degrees of bad.

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