Schadenfreude

[RedwolfParticipant 38]

I’m not generally someone who experiences this guilty pleasure often in life so I have to admit it came as rather an shock to me when it started happening, but experiencing the beautiful and impotent anger of my ex every time she knows that I have moved on with my life is almost better than sex.

Little background, I finally rediscovered my b~~~~ after looking past at least 3 extra-marital relationships and getting kicked out of my own house for the second time in just over a month last year.  Serious awakening for me.  Random woman at the office that I barely knew, but was friendly with on account of being about the only two smokers in my department, asks me how the home sale was going (yes, it was up for sale before I got booted; I know, it should have been a sign) and I responded rather unexpectedly bluntly that it was a hell of a lot more important now because my wife had just shown me the door and I was getting divorced.  Fast forward a week to sexting and drunk monkey sex and sure enough the ex goes through my phone when I arrive to pick up the kids because I was dumb enough to put it down in her reach while grabbing clothes to take with me.

Naturally, explosion happens.

Ultimately I’m subjected to hearing about how she can’t believe I’m just moving on so quickly after our marriage ended (this coming from the woman who can’t keep her legs shut with other men while out drinking at a bar when I’m home watching the two kids) and how horrible a person I am for doing that.  I couldn’t help laughing at her which of course sent her into another incredible tirade.  The whole time I’m thinking that I should just hang up the phone, stop talking to her or whatever, but the human trainwreck that was happening before my eyes was impossible to miss.  It felt so damn good to see her squirming like that so I let it continue.  I have to say, anytime she wanted to bitch about that for a couple months I went ahead and let her because it was so damn satisfying.

Couple her disbelief that I could jump ship so completely and so swiftly with her rapid acquisition of 30 pounds while I shed 15 and I was in absolute heaven.

Is there anything so sweet as ensuring an  ex knows you don’t ask how high when she demands you to jump?

[RoyDalParticipant]

Living well … it’s the best revenge.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[EnlightenedMGTOWParticipant 291]

Ah yes. Ze good ol’ schadenboner

Marriage is the disease, divorce is the cure. MGTOW is the vaccine.

[Robert HallamParticipant 696]

I got a great amount of satisfaction and entertainment from your post.  When women (in this case your cheating wife) get crossed, they can not control themselves.  They go absolutely bazerk and some of the stuff that comes out of their moths is totally out of character.   I get great pleasure out of it too.  I don’t know where these women get the idea that they have the right to have an extramarital affair because she feels her needs (whatever they are) are not being met, and believe the man should forgive and forget.  To tell you the truth dude, I can not understand how you could possibly overlook 3 incidences of infidelity.  If  I had been standing anywhere near you I would have slapped you across the side of the head.  Your ex is p~~~ed because you are not forgiving her a fourth time.   So now you should leave hints around that you are thinking about getting engaged – s~~~ like that and then see her go nuts.  What I mean is, she can now see that her meal ticket is moving on (Going His Own Way).  I think the reality has now hit her square in the face.  She’s  probably looking at a miserable future down the road.  How come you got kicked out, and why do you not have a say in the sale of your house?  The answer to these questions would be a help to me.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

A yes. The old Schaden-boner. Love it.

Like when girls seek out the guys they friend-zoned later. Or the guy she kept at arms length, and told him “you can take me to dinner… but it’s not a date”….. those girls always come looking again and best thing you can do is enjoying not being there. I would imagine the rage of a cheating ex wife would be the ultimate when you are unaffected. Perfect indifference. Treating your attention and time like women treat sex is spectacular.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Crazy CanuckMember 4215]

This reminds of this woman who worked next door to me.  She worked in a restaurant which his brother in law owned.  She worked as a waitress.  When she got married to her hubby he was the same, he is obese and he continued to be obese, not her hubby also worked at the resturant.  The funny thing is after having the 2nd child she lost weight and she expected her hubby to lose weight.  He naturally refused and she can’t complain considering he was obese when they were dating.  Eventually they ended up separated and she began dating this guy.  The only reason I knew this was she met at my work place.  She dated this guy for a while and I started talking with her hubby.  He told me what was going on minus his wife is dating part.  One time he told me he liked this woman.  So I naturally told his wife that he was interested in this woman.  He didn’t go and talk to her or anything just look at her.    A few days later the police is called and I find out the wife hit in hubby at work.

 

"If pussy was a stock it would be plummeting right now because you've flooded the market with it. You're giving it away too easy." - Dave Chapelle

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

I don’t think this is schadenfreude. That’s taking pleasure from the misfortune of others, but I don’t see where fortune has any part of this. She’s not miserable because she was unlucky. She brought all this down upon herself.

This is that feeling of satisfaction you get when witnessing justice. I don’t know if the Germans have a word for that.

Redwolf wrote:

Fast forward a week to sexting and drunk monkey sex and sure enough the ex goes through my phone when I arrive to pick up the kids because I was dumb enough to put it down in her reach while grabbing clothes to take with me.

Naturally, explosion happens.

Ultimately I’m subjected to hearing about how she can’t believe I’m just moving on so quickly after our marriage ended (this coming from the woman who can’t keep her legs shut with other men while out drinking at a bar when I’m home watching the two kids) and how horrible a person I am for doing that.

Of course she did. Understand that this explosion is not about you at all though, but about her nature and that of all other women.

Women want what other women have. It’s a way for them to judge the reproductive value of a man without putting any effort into it, and it’s built into the very center of their brains. When you found another sexual partner so quickly after your separation from her it told her you have qualities that other women want, and so therefore she should want them too. In other words it massively raised your reproductive value in her eyes. But she can’t have you any more. She’s recognizing the value of what she had but threw away, and that’s what’s making her upset. However like all women she is incapable of accepting responsibility for anything, so her tirade is just her way of trying to blame you for what she now knows was a huge mistake.

So if you really want to devastate her the next time she goes off on this tirade, cut through all her blaming and shaming and tell her: “Hey. You had me all to yoursefl for years and year. You had your chance, your one chance, and you threw me away. Now I’m free to do what I want for a change, and you will NEVER get me back.” This will make her rage even more at you while you’re there, but make no mistake, once you’ve left and she’s alone she will WEEP.

And, as always, the best revenge is to live well.

[BDParticipant 1146]

sidecar wrote:

and you will NEVER get me back.” This will make her rage even more at you while you’re there, but make no mistake, once you’ve left and she’s alone she will WEEP.

Brother, I wouldn’t play any games or tell  her anything except that is is over, and only say this once.

Don’t give her any pleasure in arguing with you over it.

Ignore and delete/block her in every way possible, ignoring a woman is her krytonite (sorry to insult Superman with this comparison), ignoring her will drive her crazy and show that you really have better things to do, hence the MGTOW.

Because in order to be able to think, you have to risk being offensive.

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

BD wrote:

Brother, I wouldn’t play any games or tell her anything except that is is over, and only say this once.

This isn’t arguing with her. This is straight up telling her.

And if she wants to continue the only further response to give her is: “You’re divorcing me. I don’t have to listen to a goddamn thing you have to say ever again. Goodbye.”

[BDParticipant 1146]

Redwolf wrote:

Ultimately I’m subjected to hearing about how she can’t believe I’m just moving on so quickly after our marriage ended (this coming from the woman who can’t keep her legs shut with other men while out drinking at a bar when I’m home watching the two kids) and how horrible a person I am for doing that.  I couldn’t help laughing at her which of course sent her into another incredible tirade.  The whole time I’m thinking that I should just hang up the phone, stop talking to her or whatever, but the human trainwreck that was happening before my eyes was impossible to miss.  It felt so damn good to see her squirming like that so I let it continue.  I have to say, anytime she wanted to bitch about that for a couple months I went ahead and let her because it was so damn satisfying.

My apologies Sidecar, I improperly quoted you and it did not support my point at all, my bad, sorry.

Maybe this quote better supports what I was trying to communicate.

No entertainment, just ignore. People who disrespect you like this do not deserve any of your time.

Because in order to be able to think, you have to risk being offensive.

[experiencedParticipant]

Wife cheats, “my husband cheated.” Wife rrrRrrrrRrrrrRrrrrrRRrrags on husband, accuses husband, “abuse.” Never asked, “Did he hit you?”, left that planted as desired, knowing the fallback’s mental abuse, also not true.  “Projectionville Paradise” brought to you by, “The Ex.”    Most sequels award.

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

BD wrote:

My apologies Sidecar, I improperly quoted you and it did not support my point at all, my bad, sorry.

No worries. I assumed I hadn’t explained my position clearly.

[Robert HallamParticipant 696]

I just found this piece under the headline of “my lover dumped me” on some Relationship Chat Pages, although it was fairly old.

“I got dumped by my lover, when he went back to his wife, just one day after I had his name tatooed on my chest, and now my husband is going to see it”  “What should I do?”

[Ned TrentParticipant 4894]

sidecar wrote:

I don’t know if the Germans have a word for that.

Since you asked, man we do actually have a word for what is probably closest to what you described there, sidecar and that would be the term (noun) “Genugtuung” as in the result of: “an amends for something has been done or achieved” I guess, or otherwise the more precise translation for this German term would be (as a noun again) “compensation” (as deserved). In older German language use you occasionally also hear the phrase: “der Gerechtigkeit wurde genüge getan” or in modern English “justice has been served”. Genugtuung and genüge both basically originate from the German word genug (engl. enough) and “tuen” is “to do” so Genugtuung if translated into English verbatum would be something like “enough deed” done for the sake of re-establishing balance or justice. It also without a doubt is a nicer or say less harmful term than Schadenfreude, albeit used within a fitting context it still can hurt one side of the party.

So much for that guys.

I'd rather die a natual death with a clear MGTOW conscience somewhere off the grid than one within "modern" civilisation with a big stress mark on my forehead and a couple of dozen tubes plugged into my body. Back to the plantation..? Me..? Hey, literally: I won't ever fucking kid myself...YZERLMNTSIC

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