Salutations

[RemovedParticipant 4676]

I am a man that lived solo for most of my life, no time for a woman. My life was my work, and though most will not know me, they will know my work. One day, the desire to have a family suddenly came over me, and at 27, I started to seriously consider women. I had my experiences with women, which were fantastic for what they were, but only short moments, that did not require much investment.

I seemed to have little difficulty in finding women interested in me, but most seemed to have no long term aspirations. Any under 30 seemed uninterested in anything more than a few nights a week, yet became apprehensive at me for not being interested in shallow terms. This was a far cry from what I had expected, and what we are always told: as men are the ones incapable of commitment, while the women are betrayed by the wild and youthful eyes and desires of the man. Well, from my previous experiences, I knew there was no shortage of short term women, but this lack of women interested in commitment was surprising to me.

A couple of years later, and many dates and relationships endured, I met a woman who would later be my wife, and later still be my ex. She came with a child, a 4 year old daughter, and her own series of problems. To begin with, while I had excellent credit and over a year of saving for an emergency fund, a nice start to retirement fund and other things, she had debt, poor credit, and was continuing to progress her debt in college. She was 24, so young, and these things could be fixed, or so I thought.

Four years later, she was attempting to set herself up on easy street, by stealing my future income from my military service, and attempting to pin a case of spouse abuse on me. Fortunately, she was not the smartest of villains that I have encountered, having before handled dangerous people for a living. This did not make betrayel and losing my stepdaughter easier, but made besting her plot not as difficult. In the end, she was made to pay for the divorce, and I somehow managed to get the judge to mandate she change her last name from mine. That was great.

This is a short version of my adventure with my first and last attempt at marriage. As Groucho says, “marriage is a fine institution, but who wants to live in an institution?”

That said, it is a pleasant surprise to see that my current lifestyle has an identity, other than, “A rogue man without interest in succumbing to the expectations of being used and cheated as a way of life.” I am hated for my lack of interest in pursuing another barrage of feminine domination, even within some of my own family, but this pales in comparisson to anything a wife would do to my excellent repaired credit, improving financial situation, and the freedom to do what I want, when I want to do it. So, salutations.

[Truthseeker82Participant 6406]

Welcome. It’s hard to come to terms with the truth. We want to believe otherwise but reality bites us. Many of us here walked in your shoes and bore the pain and consequences of trusting a woman. But you no longer walk alone – 18000 brothers now walk with you.

[HitmanParticipant]

welcome, and thanks for a great intro !
glad you found us .. enjoy !!!

[joetechParticipant]

Congratulations on your victory. Welcome to the forum.

"Don't follow in my footsteps...I stepped in something."

[Lone Wolf83Participant 825]

Enjoy your newfound freedom!

If it has tits or tires, you know you're going to have problems.

[The Manipulated ManParticipant 1856]

Greetings Uly,

Appreciate every word of your introduction.

Removed wrote:

she had debt, poor credit, and was continuing to progress her debt in college. She was 24, so young, and these things could be fixed, or so I thought.

That is an accurate description of my first wife and my state of mind when I was younger.

It is amazing how many woman are like that and how many men try to fix them.

Removed wrote:

Four years later, she was attempting to set herself up on easy street ….. pin a case of spouse abuse on me. Fortunately, she was not the smartest of villains that I have encountered, having before handled dangerous people for a living. ….. made besting her plot not as difficult. In the end, she was made to pay for the divorce, and I somehow managed to get the judge to mandate she change her last name from mine…..

What wonderful results to a bad situation!

I never thought it was possible to get the outcomes that you made happen.

You are a god amongst men Uly!

For most of us ordinary mortal men in a Gynocentric society, a man is guilty until proven innocent when dealing with woman, even the unmarried ones.

The “Authorities” are usually not interested in any facts or evidence. In effect, the courts, lawyers, family “councilors,” and police work together to bring a man down.

When you are ready, kindly provide the whole story of how you did it. The details of your amazing story will be a beacon of hope for men who seek their freedom.

It would be great if you would start a thread in the Marriage and Divorce section of the Forums with your divorce story. Other Wily MGTOWs can comment and also share their methods of beating the oppressive Gynocentric traps.

It would be good to understand how you managed to avoid financial rape, character assassination, jail time, being homeless, losing your job, losing your good credit rating, and the loss of your pension.

Removed wrote:

…..this pales in comparison to anything a wife would do to my excellent repaired credit, improving financial situation, and the freedom to do what I want, when I want to do it.

Bravo!

And well said.

You are a bright light.

Welcome.

What happens when a man finally comprehends the cold and calculating thoughts that are going through a woman's mind, while her eyes are brimming with tears?

[DorkShitParticipant 4353]

Yep, what you said rings familiar. Welcome brother

Peace brothers

[SolidParticipant 7520]

Welcome home brother !!

[John Woods 13Participant 2855]

Welcome sir! What an excellent intro.

The answer is NO. “I could but I won’t”. Memini murum!

[pabsawakeParticipant 1761]

Welcome brother and dare I say the hell with what your family thinks.
It’s your life isn’t it?

"You can either love women or understand them, you can't do both". Truth over everything

[<<>>Participant 435]

Welcome brother, if the hotel California is Hell and you can never leave then call this place hotel New York and you will never want to.

[Anonymous 0]

Welcome home,Uly

[Mr. SpockParticipant 10911]

Welcome sir. I look forward to reading more about you. Glad you are here.

Feminism isn't about equality with men, it's about leverage over men.

[RhinoParticipant 3477]

Welcome to the forums brother thanks for sharing your story.

[Aleph MaleParticipant 214]

Welcome home, sir. I admire your resolve.

Behind every miserable man there is a very happy woman.

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

Removed wrote:

That said, it is a pleasant surprise to see that my current lifestyle has an identity,

Welcome. I agree it’s the identity that makes all the difference.

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

[RemovedParticipant 4676]

Thank you for all the pleasent welcomes.

I am hated by many of these feminist types, because I am a take charge and get it done type alpha male. I had been raised to supress that, and to desire pleasing a woman instead, which is what lead to much of the hardship in my life. It is a fool who thinks that they exsist purely to serve just one person. (As JFK tried to get across, we must all serve eachother, as only a team mentality succeeds, not individuals.)

Unrequited love is a fools errand for the generations of brainwashed men, which has led these men into a confusion with masculinity. We now suffer a rapid growth of men who think they are women, uncertain of how their role in life fits in. After all, with all of these incapable, yet masculine women, what is left for the man to be. I believe, if I were a weaker person, I too would be in this ‘lost identity’ category.

My youth was filled with authoritative and coercive women. When I saw that my independent actions, when not influenced by women, were productive, I found myself. It is why I had ignored ralationships until a much later time. I served in a group (of only men), as we saved lives, killed terrorists, and helped establish communities, where only terror and fear was known. Let the women gab on about their feelings on the matter, let the men take action and get it done.

Unfortunately, I lost a lot of that self value, when an injury took me from the path of my desire. I believed that, I was no longer that man that I saw myself as. I fell upon the teachings that my value was in making a woman happy. This is a mistake that I will not repeat.

Coming here is a nice way to not feel isolated in my life. I have been reading the stuff here for a few weeks, and felt it was time to take it a step further, adding my voice in the mix. We are not perfect, but we are not slaves. Our imperfections and mistakes does not give justice to the rape of the natural order of things, in which we see present in our society at current.

This battle will not be won by force or rage, which have been the tools of the feminist movement, but in the one thing that these femenist lack, and I have seen in here many times already. Victory comes to the ones who can patiently and calmly survive independently. Men have been and will always be better survivors, and women will eventually see their need of men to do just that. When that time comes, she better come with the proper respect and appreciation, or she can keep walking.

[Anonymous 1]

You are welcome, man.

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