Rudeness.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

John1965 wrote:

Details, John, details.

Yes please. Include specifics! What happened?

Anonymous wrote:

Rudeness gets people nowhere in life.

@john1965 may appreciate this.

Instead of allowing it to irritate you… kill’em with kindness.

My blood can boil on occasion with the extreme lack of basic manners, but I also started to notice how EASY IT IS to wreck them – by being polite and dialing it up a notch.

When these people are rude to you, be SUPER polite back.
They really hate that.

Imagine some road-rage asshole ( or bitch ) screaming out of their window, honking, cursing, whatever because they are p~~~ed at the world or anything else. Now imagine their reaction if you reflect the same thing back and flip them the bird and get all angry. They are expecting that. They LOVE it.

NOW imagine how much it would REALLY p~~~ them off if you SMILED and wished them a pleasant day.

RUDENESS? I consider the typically American-ized response “uh-huh” rude after I say thank you.
Or if I bump shoulders in a line up, I might say “oh pardon me”…. and the response is “you’re fine”.

That actually happened the other day to me and I spoke about it with a friend of mine over lunch yesterday when it happened AGAIN. I bumped shoulders with a woman who was texting and said “Pardon me ! Are you OK?”. She says “you’re fine”.

“You’re fine”.

In what twisted imagination is MY concern for HER well being justification for her flipping it around and telling me that I am fine? Next time I will not give a S~~~ about her enough to ask. After my friend and I talked about this, he realized how rude it really is. ( Like when you say thanks, and someone says “uh-huh”. Unacceptable )

So I said “I know. I get that alot. But I wasn’t asking about ME. Have a pleasant day.”

That went right over her head and I was already long gone by the time she could process it. But when they passed us they leered at us and I smiled back! Have a great day! Take care.

Miserable rude people HATE it when you’re friendly and generally polite.
They HATE it.

So turn it up.

You live in a society where rudeness is rampant, tolerated and expected. People will even ask personal inappropriate questions (like about sexual topics) within 15 minutes of meeting you and they don’t even see it as rude. They think it’s NORMAL.

So in that society, it’s so easy to make a hostess in a restaurant who greets people with “hey guys” realize how second-class she is….. with a condescending eyebrow raise and a “good evening” in response.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Anonymous 7]

Im polite to everyone. No need to be rude, just makes you feel s~~~ty. I can be quite abrasive sometimes when I speak but my common courtesy is pretty good.

I never like the concept of holding the door open unless its about to hit there face though or they are carrying something. I mean if you have two hands and two legs whats your excuse?

[Anonymous 7]

Keymaster wrote:

When these people are rude to you, be SUPER polite back.
They really hate that.

Imagine some road-rage asshole ( or bitch ) screaming out of their window, honking, cursing, whatever because they are p~~~ed at the world or anything else. Now imagine their reaction if you reflect the same thing back and flip them the bird and get all angry. They are expecting that. They LOVE it.

While I was driving home from work last week I was blocking a right turn for her because there were to many cars filling the left turn lane. Maybe I should have parked in the middle of the street and waited but then I could have got hit.

So she made her turn and was about 50 feet away from me. She started honking at me instantly and yelling like crazy shaking her fist. Her car looked like it was from the 1960’s and she had probably a ten year old kid in the passenger seat just with a bewildered look on his eyes staring at his mom.

As she got closer to me she slowed down and kept yelling and I just gave her a thumbs up and a great big smile. She went berserk and just drove off.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Anonymous wrote:

Her car looked like it was from the 1960’s and she had probably a ten year old kid in the passenger seat just with a bewildered look on his eyes staring at his mom.

While you ended up handling it perfectly, I would have been tempted to something to the kid like “You see your mother’s behavior? Don’t ever become that”. That would send her right over the edge.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Anonymous 7]

Haha yeah that would have been amazing

[ExpendableYouthParticipant 381]

Hey, here is a little tip to many. Did you know that is costs NOTHING to be a good person? Holy f~~~, NOTHING. Sad how many can’t use COMMON SENSE, they will only want to add their….. TWO CENTS

I did a little experiment today for an hour while I was working. I normally always wave or say Hello to those I pass by while I am working. This time I added “friend” to whatever I was saying. “Hey there, my friend. How are you?”. “You are working hard, my friend”…things of that nature. (This is obviously people I see day to day or week, for the last decade or so. Not random strangers). It seemed when I added that I am implying they are my friend, I got good replies and more of an effort to actually construct a conversation. It is all pointless, don’t get me wrong– however, I do like to maintain a friendly demeanor because I get work through word-of-mouth.

OP, I hope you understand these rude people are everywhere. Sorry you had what seems to be an unnerving experience. Everyone in a car is a missile, and the people driving and behind it are pulling the wheel (or the strings, per say). Please remember, these people are like this all the time. It’s not you. You just happen to be in the cross hairs. Wrong place, wrong time. Understand it is out of your hands…..(the actions and thoughts of another person).

I TRY….and hey at least I can say I try— to think that I do not know what this person is going through– I will let that person go about their way. Nobody knows what you have been through, either. Try to understand and have compassion, even if they are a f~~~ing asshole. In the end….man is it even worth getting riled up about anymore? I try to focus on other things now, change the subject, etc…

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