Rom Com moments with the EX

[TaxGuyParticipant]

Soldier Medic always inspires me to tell a story or two, so if you’ve got a couple minutes pull up a chair.

The Scene: Saturday night at TaxGuy’s house. The older daughter is at a friend’s house, the ex is on the phone with a glass of wine in another room. The younger one, probably six or seven at the time, is bored. So the two of us talk about for a minute and we decide that we are going to make dinner together, find a movie on Netflix and watch it outside, and then use the BBQ to make Smores. Simple, but the kid is happy, I’ve got a c~~~tail, life is good.

Now, it’s spring so the nights are still kind of cold. But we have a stand up propane heater, blankets, and it’s not THAT cold. But remember, kid and dad are content, she’s happy to have my undivided attention without the sister, and life is good.

At this point the wine glass is empty so the ex blesses us with her presence. She asks the daughter what we are up to. In an enthusiastic voice she says “Dad and I are going to make dinner together, and watch a movie outside and make Smores on the BBQ!”

Now I know what you’re thinking. This is the point in the movie where the woman looks at you with those big loving eyes that tells you that you are going to get lucky later that night. Then she goes on to tell her friend on the phone what a great guy you are and how she is so lucky to be with you. How could Walt Disney be wrong????

Ex: “That’s stupid. You guys are going to freeze to death out there.”
Daughter: (That’s right. She told the daughter it was a stupid idea.) “But we have the heater and blankets outside.”
Ex: “Still, that’s just stupid. You are going to be really cold out there.”
TaxGuy: (at this point I’m p~~~ed. She’s been on the phone for about an hour and it’s just been me and my daughter. We are having a great time. I’m thinking she should be happy with the fact that I’ve got everything covered and she has a chance to catch up with a friend. So I grit my teeth.) “Well, if we get cold I guess we’ll just take the three f~~~ing steps back into the house and finish the movie on the couch…..”

At that point she fills the wine glass and leaves the room. The look on her face tells me I am sleeping in the other room (which I’m fine with). I’m sure the friend was told what an asshole I am. When Harry Met Sally turns into Nightmare on Elm Street.

That’s what marriage is like these days. Anyone want to sign up ?

And women wonder where the good men are…………….

Order the good wine

[Soldier-MedicParticipant 2566]

Daddy having a good time with the daughter.

1. She had to spoil it. For what ever reason she has, she didn’t like what was going on and had to spoil it. Interesting that she attacked your 7 year old daughter instead of asking you if it was wise to make dinner and smores in the “frigid” weather.

2. Jealousy. You and your kid have a great relationship and you and your wife don’t. She knows this, and resents it. This condition exists because she can’t see past her own narcissism enough to realize that she is the author of the discontent between the two of you.

Sorry that this is/was your reality. It’s a shame that women put so much effort in sabotaging their relations~~~s when less energy could be expended by just saying “that sounds like fun”, and joining in.

I don’t remember any Disney moments at my house either.

"I asked you a question. I didn't ask you to repeat what the voices in you head are telling you" ~ Me. ........Yes I'm still angry.

[Biggvs_DickvsParticipant 3725]

I went a different route. I never married the gal that had my daughter, and honestly I think that’s the way to go if you want to have kids these days.

Leykis always advises getting a surrogate mom if you really insist on having kids, but that’s a little extreme in itself, and I think there is a happy median. I guess the trick is finding a gal that is the least AWALT. They are out there. My kid’s mom comes from a family of conscientious and generally decent people and some of it rubbed off on her.

The key for me is that the mom actually does give a s~~~ what our kid and the rest of her family thinks of her, so as long as I am in good graces with them, she is generally inclined to be really reasonable on things like support, visitation etc. If she did anything to to really hurt or screw me over, our kid would never forgive her and that’s just not an option for mom.

I think a huge part of being able to work out a situation that’s agreeable all around is that I never went for the marriage part. This kept things fairly “friendly” and kept the whole “happily ever after” Disney marriage fantasy that nobody can ever live up to out of the equation. Nevermind avoiding the whole alimony thing and our assets were never comingled. Also I can see that the money I do pay in support does actually get spent on my kid, so no worries there.

Just my $.02 – it can work out ok. Just keep marriage out of it.

"Data, I would be delighted to offer any advice I can on understanding women. When I have some, I'll let you know." --Captain Picard,

[TaxGuyParticipant]

With all due respect Soldier Medic, I have to say that you are probably over-thinking the situation. My ex is one of those people that doesn’t have a filter on their brain. Most human beings have a slight delay between their brains and their mouths that gives them just a split second to NOT say something that they are thinking. My ex is very developed in this part of the brain. Her mouth may actually be faster than her brain. She can talk faster than she can think. Sometimes it allows a great insight into their mind. In this case, my insight is that she is a bitch………

And I would much rather you guys laugh at these stories, because I am! I find it incredibly funny that women treat men this way and then wonder where the hell we went. Seriously? She could have just said that’s nice and walked out. But no, couldn’t miss a chance to create drama and get in a dig.

I will say this over and over. If you are in that type of relationship you have already been going your own way. Now you just get to do it without carrying her luggage. When it gets heavy by herself she wonder where the hell her Sherpa went.

He’s at the bar with the guys having a beer and watching the game. Just a guy whose a guy being a guy………..

Order the good wine

[John Woods 13Participant 2855]

Of course she had to try ruin anything you did with your kids, because if you actually got to be a loving and attentive and FUN parent, she would have lost a major COMPLAINING point (“You’re not a good father to your kids!”). And we all know that if women loose the ability to complain their life becomes hell and they get deeply depressed.
You could have easily been speaking of 90% of married women and would not have been far off the mark.
And yes, I’m smiling, even though I’ll probably be experiencing the same s~~~ tonight from my ‘thoughtful’ wife, since it is a bit chilly where I’m from.

The answer is NO. “I could but I won’t”. Memini murum!

[DJKevgeezParticipant 141]

TaxGuy wrote:

Soldier Medic always inspires me to tell a story or two, so if you’ve got a couple minutes pull up a chair.

The Scene: Saturday night at TaxGuy’s house. The older daughter is at a friend’s house, the ex is on the phone with a glass of wine in another room. The younger one, probably six or seven at the time, is bored. So the two of us talk about for a minute and we decide that we are going to make dinner together, find a movie on Netflix and watch it outside, and then use the BBQ to make Smores. Simple, but the kid is happy, I’ve got a c~~~tail, life is good.

Now, it’s spring so the nights are still kind of cold. But we have a stand up propane heater, blankets, and it’s not THAT cold. But remember, kid and dad are content, she’s happy to have my undivided attention without the sister, and life is good.

At this point the wine glass is empty so the ex blesses us with her presence. She asks the daughter what we are up to. In an enthusiastic voice she says “Dad and I are going to make dinner together, and watch a movie outside and make Smores on the BBQ!”

Now I know what you’re thinking. This is the point in the movie where the woman looks at you with those big loving eyes that tells you that you are going to get lucky later that night. Then she goes on to tell her friend on the phone what a great guy you are and how she is so lucky to be with you. How could Walt Disney be wrong????

Ex: “That’s stupid. You guys are going to freeze to death out there.”
Daughter: (That’s right. She told the daughter it was a stupid idea.) “But we have the heater and blankets outside.”
Ex: “Still, that’s just stupid. You are going to be really cold out there.”
TaxGuy: (at this point I’m p~~~ed. She’s been on the phone for about an hour and it’s just been me and my daughter. We are having a great time. I’m thinking she should be happy with the fact that I’ve got everything covered and she has a chance to catch up with a friend. So I grit my teeth.) “Well, if we get cold I guess we’ll just take the three f~~~ing steps back into the house and finish the movie on the couch…..”

At that point she fills the wine glass and leaves the room. The look on her face tells me I am sleeping in the other room (which I’m fine with). I’m sure the friend was told what an asshole I am. When Harry Met Sally turns into Nightmare on Elm Street.

That’s what marriage is like these days. Anyone want to sign up ?

And women wonder where the good men are…………….

How long were you with this chick before you married her?

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