retirement

[narwhalParticipant]

I have a buddy who got a divorce about the same time I did, about 6 years ago. He somewhat lucked out in the divorce as his ex left him for a richer man and his daughter (in HS at the time) chose to live with him. His ex basically left and didn’t take anything financially with her. In fact, the new rich step father even paid for the daughter’s college.

However, he got remarried a couple years ago….and pretty much screwed himself over. . He didn’t find out that his new wife actually had no retirement money saved up. He assumed that she would start contributing to the house payments, but last I heard, she hadn’t. He didn’t realize that her smoking habit was chewing up a big portion of her basic income. He didn’t realize that she would be talking…all the time. He hasn’t complained about it, but I’m sure he’s hating having to spend his money and vacation time on cross country flights to go visit her family. He’s in his late 50s now and has been starting to think about retirement, but is realizing he’s going to put that off for a while, since he has a dependent he’s going to have to continue taking care of.

It’s funny, he tells me all the time that it doesn’t make sense for me to get married until my kids are grown and most of the women I would marry have grown kids as well. It’s just taking on burdens you don’t need. I’m not seeing how that situation changes better after the kids are gone.

Ok. Then do it.

[RoyDalParticipant]

Being retired and single suits me. My dog provides me with all the live-in companionship, and financial drain, that I need. I recommend it.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[BeerParticipant 11832]

I agree with you…the older you get the more pointless marriage becomes. Unless you find a rich woman to marry its a losing deal regardless of if the kids are out of the house or not.

I always viewed marriage as something you did young so two people could build a life together, as a team. Once you are already established and have liquid assets, property, and a career, marriage simply becomes a penalty unless you manage to find someone with more money/income to marry. This is just looking at it from the financial aspect…never mind the longer a woman remains single the higher she runs up her c~~~ count and the more baggage and drama she has. Sucks to be a carousel rider who figured this out a little too late, but hey, not my problem!

[narwhalParticipant]

I honestly like the idea of having a companion in my older age, once the kids are out of the house. It just would be rather difficult to find someone who isn’t an anchor financially.

A part of me envisions moving into an old folks home when I retire. Since the majority of the people are likely to be single at that time, it’s going just like living in a dorm room in college, without all the studying, rape culture, and such.

Ok. Then do it.

[Anonymous 0]

I like being alone, single, and retired. But I will allow that if I met a lady that was really cute, owned a coffee farm in Hawaii, and knew how to give a killer BJ, I would probably marry her. And since that ranks right up there with Disney fantasies, I will remain alone, single, and retired. LOL

[Symmetric MGTOWParticipant 570]

I’m going to share this piece of advice that this friend of mine shared with me after my divorce. He and I joke about the idiocy that marriage is frequently, and he is married and resigned. He does however get some action on the side. This very simple words are pure gold in my opinion:

“If you are going to marry, marry into money, otherwise it’s not worth it”. Says a man who’s been married for at least 40 years to his HS sweetheart, and I think that he is absolutely correct. I would marry again if by doing so I would get other opportunities in life that I could not get so easily otherwise. It’s a very pragmatic decision, and that way if you divorce you won’t end up as screwed, or maybe even better than when you started.

[OgreParticipant 5863]

I’m a fan of alone… in the wild somewhere. As long as I’ve got the contact I want and enough heat to get a can of beans warmed up.

My desired simplicity is almost a bigger wedge to relationships than my cantankerous manner.

I failed to realize in my youth that I was the prize. I was going to work. I was going to earn. Little did I realize that due to feminism, that no longer meant I had to share. Road soon, Desert after.

[experiencedParticipant]

It comes down to, ‘How Dare you ask that question’
It’s a bluff.
“no”, I just said, “how much do you have put away for retirement/medical?”

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[OgreParticipant 5863]

Anonymous wrote:

But I will allow that if I met a lady that was really cute, owned a coffee farm in Hawaii, and knew how to give a killer BJ, I would probably marry her.

Without the coffee farm I’d date this one. Hell I did worse for my marriage. Cute but infrequent BJs, and sadly no real property.

Yup just cute and good BJs would do, until the first time she bitches. Then it’s on to her barely legal daughters.

I failed to realize in my youth that I was the prize. I was going to work. I was going to earn. Little did I realize that due to feminism, that no longer meant I had to share. Road soon, Desert after.

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