Your Relationship Meant Nothing

[QuellParticipant 2538]

The vast majority of heartbroken folks are all bluepill men. They put all of their eggs in the pumpkin basket and when she leaves there goes his identity, self-esteem, social life and access to sex… some may even lose their kids or financial security. Most men are completely baffled and blindsided when the divorce papers are dropped or she breaks up with you out of the blue one day. You would think after years of bonding, trust and all around a solid relationship of ups and downs, that the partnership would have SOME value to her.

This is where men are dead wrong. Your relationship meant very little to her if anything at all. In fact, the movies, inside jokes, phone calls, vacations, bbq, ball games, sick days and family and friends time that was your actual relationship has been done before in her life many many times over with other guys. It was just time keeping her occupied. You are not special and neither was that 3, 5, or 20 years you spent with her.

You rarely ever see women pining for a lost ex because at anytime she can replicate the relationship bonding process over again with someone else at a drop of a hat. Do not get depressed rather fellas, it was simply your turn in her storybook of c o c k.

Two rules I’m trying to live my life by: 1) Accept the past and never look back at it. 2) make smart decisions moving forward.

[iMickey503Participant 12465]

All the logic in the world. The only thing that lasts forever is the pain. It never goes away entirely.

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[Jack HarperParticipant 2863]

Quell,
Brilliant post, and absolutely true. Actually the hardest part for me was accepting that I meant nothing despite my deep investment. A bitter pill indeed.

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

Quell wrote:

You are not special and neither was that 3, 5, or 20 years you spent with her.

And neither was she.

AWALT.

You rarely ever see women pining for a lost ex because at anytime she can replicate the relationship bonding process over again with someone else at a drop of a hat.

Not true. Women pine constantly for the men they never actually got. The men who walked away from them, leaving them behind with nothing.

Be those men, gentlemen.

[AutoliteParticipant]

Quell wrote:

Your relationship meant very little to her if anything at all.

This is the reality of it. What were supposedly ‘good times’ are now in retrospect just painful memories. She never had any real feelings for you. It was all just one big lie… 🙁

[AutoliteParticipant]

Jack Harper wrote:

Actually the hardest part for me was accepting that I meant nothing despite my deep investment. A bitter pill indeed.

Same here. Women’s and men’s minds just work different. Women have no soul or conscience. That’s a big advantage that they have over men…

[CPT ObviousParticipant 2730]

Good point. And it should be self-evident because women are the ultimate what-have-you-done-for-me-lately.

No matter what great things you did
for them recently or in the past, women are looking for the next treat. Previous stuff means little to nothing.

Example:
My ex had it in her mind that she had to see Neil Diamond in concert. It was top 5 in her bucket list.

Finally Neil came to our city and I dropped $600 on tickets. It was a great concert and she even cried.

But here’s the point: Concert just finished and as we were walking up the stairs she said, “Now we need to go sky diving!”

We hadn’t even made it 20 fukking feet from our seats snd the event was irrelevant. Done. She is moving to on to the next “I want..”

"You don't know a woman till you have met her in divorce court."

[Sky-OParticipant 18936]

CPT Obvious wrote:

and as we were walking up the stairs she said, “Now we need to go sky diving!”

She would have cost you for her part in that:

$249 tandem jump
$120 video
$ 40 mandatory drop zone t-shirt

$419

And she would have gave the Chad that took her up for a tandem, her number and banged him a week later.

[CPT ObviousParticipant 2730]

Sky-O wrote:

CPT Obvious wrote:

and as we were walking up the stairs she said, “Now we need to go sky diving!”

She would have cost you for her part in that:
$249 tandem jump$120 video$ 40 mandatory drop zone t-shirt
$419
And she would have gave the Chad that took her up for a tandem, her number and banged him a week later.

Thanks Sky for reality check. And thank gawd I didn’t waste that money so I could watch Chad strap her on and dry hump her from 5,000 feet.

I get it … when researching I noticed all the brochures were primarily aimed at women.

"You don't know a woman till you have met her in divorce court."

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

CPT Obvious wrote:

No matter what great things you did for them recently or in the past, women are looking for the next treat. Previous stuff means little to nothing.

Which is why you keep them wanting.

Finally Neil came to our city and I dropped $600 on tickets.

Should have dropped $300 on ticket.

: “If you hurry to the box office, you might still be able to get a seat near mine.”

[CPT ObviousParticipant 2730]

sidecar wrote:

Should have dropped $300 on ticket.

: “If you hurry to the box office, you might still be able to get a seat near mine.”

I literally got some bourbon up my nose laughing at that comment.

In retrospect the absurdity of it all is funny.

"You don't know a woman till you have met her in divorce court."

[Sky-OParticipant 18936]

On a sidenote:

Neil Diamond = beta

King Diamond = evil Chad

Because, bad girls that will bang you all night like you have the last c•ck on Earth are into King Diamond.

The mighty King Diamond!!

[AutoliteParticipant]

Sky-O wrote:

She would have cost you for her part in that:

$249 tandem jump
$120 video
$ 40 mandatory drop zone t-shirt

$419

I think there’s a discount if she went without a parachute. Maybe that might have been an option he should have considered…

[bstoffParticipant 4865]

The only time a woman regrets leaving you is if she finds out you’re living well without her.

Best to not let her find out because she will try to weasel her way back in somehow.

[MGTOW_MikeParticipant 6253]

A man can either love a woman or he can understand her.

When a man loves a woman, his hormones override his rational thinking.

When a man understands a woman, his hormones do not override his rational thinking.

In most cases, an average man is her SECOND option, not her first. Her first option is for the top 20% of men, however, most women do not get the top men, so she SETTLES. This settling eventually leads to resentment.

Social media and dating apps have EXPANDED the scope of hypergamy.

A tranquil mind is neither happy nor sad, it is uninfluenced by external conditions.

[MonkParticipant 16995]

Jack Harper wrote:

Actually the hardest part for me was accepting that I meant nothing despite my deep investment.

Ego – I think this is part of the Blue Pill/NAWALT thing.

They thought that they had it all, that they were ‘successful’. They looked down on singletons as ‘failures’. So when they find out that they never were anything but a stepping stone and that they have now been dropped like a used kleenex, their ego just can’t take it.

That’s why so many rush into new ‘relationships’.

[GrumpyParticipant]

bstoff wrote:

The only time a woman regrets leaving you is if she finds out you’re living well without her.

^^^^^^
This
In a nut shell

There was a time in my life when I gave a fuck. Now you have to pay ME for it

[CombatRollParticipant 2594]

CPT Obvious wrote:

She is moving to on to the next “I want..”

I had a running joke with my Ex. Whenever she did the same as your’s I would interrupt her and say, “ME I ME I I ME ME ME I WANT”. It would chap her ass.

[AutoliteParticipant]

iMickey503 wrote:

All the logic in the world. The only thing that lasts forever is the pain. It never goes away entirely.

This needs to be talked about more openly in our society. We are left totally unprepared for one of the most damaging and painful experiences that almost all of us will experience at least once in our lives. There needs to be a greater awareness of the hurt and suffering associated with the end of a relationshhit/marriage. It’s a nearly universal problem that for whatever reason is largely ignored…

[Branched offParticipant 10932]

The sad reality is that you are valuable for what she can get from you. That is all there is to it. You are like a gold mine. A thing to long to own. When you own one you leave it to care for self as long as it is paying out and when it is all tapped out then, it is probably a negative asset -a toxic mess you want to offload fast. No miner ever goes back to a mine he mined dry, thinks of the memories he made there and takes good care of it.

In the end they want us for security, resources and the status that can bring them. That is it. It hurts. Very few couples ever end up friends in the end. Those that do usually balanced giving and receiving all through because they both actually realised their partner was equal value to them and were wise enough to be content with that (a mighty rare commodity in today’s entitled female).

A woman is like fire -fun to play with, can warm you through and cook your food, needs constant feeding, can burn you and consume all you own

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