Relations~~~s and female sex drive

[narwhalParticipant]

I think Doc nailed it, although I would add that women just have complicated emotions and hormones that mess everything up. It’s common knowledge that a woman’s sex drive will increase at certain times during pregnancy. My ex was so. I’d say her sex drive was about the same as mine, but she definitely would have periods where she just wasn’t that interested, but then periods where she was really up for it. On the other hand, I stay pretty consistent.

And although manipulation is a part of it, I think sex as validation is a big part of the female sex drive. A woman gets validation and satisfaction from knowing a man wants her. When married though, she gets validation in knowing he’s committed to her and she owns him. She doesn’t need sex for validation in that instance. But when she single or just starts questioning whether she’s still got it, her drive for sex is going to increase.

I think men also have some sense of validation from sex. Virgins are driven to just get it over with, and a freshly divorced man will want to know that he’s still got it. In general though, I think men want sex for the sex without any other motivation required.

Ok. Then do it.

[FrankOneParticipant 1417]

I disagree with the posters who think the average women has the same sex drive as the average man, and the ones stating the average woman has no sex drive. Not only do the masturbation statistics I linked earlier in thread indicate the average woman has a lower sex drive than the average man, but women also think about sex less frequently than men, are aroused less frequently than men, and have sex drives more influenced by social and cultural norms, see also http://www.webmd.com/sex/features/sex-drive-how-do-men-women-compare — as far as I’m concerned, masturbation rates are the best indicator of one’s sex drive. Even in a relationship, I’d say most people still masturbate at least some — e.g. partner away, etc. The statistics in the webmd link also buttress my opinion.

And the main study I linked to, had almost 6,000 participants, it was huge.

Women’s sex drive also varies throughout the month.

Eric: Yes, I was talking about averages but the distribution is also interesting and has implications too — e.g. a high-sex drive man having difficulty finding an equally high sex-drive woman. I would argue the combination of a high-sex drive woman and lower sex drive man is less common just based on probabilities.

As for me, I recently got a dissolution, but STILL have sex with the ex wife, about once a week. Why, when I could go meet someone else & she could do the same?

Well, she didn’t divorce rape me, even though I earn multiples of what she does and have a net worth many times hers. We stopped during the separation but after dissolution was final are at it. And we’ll probably keep it up for years. We like to do fun stuff together and know how to please each other in the bedroom and the dissolution was 100% amicable. Most women don’t orgasm every session, but after you’ve known a woman like I know her, I can bring her to orgasm 3 or 4 times each lovemaking session. And similarly, she always brings me to a blood curdling orgasm. And there’s no chance of diseases or children so we love to get it on. But we’re in our early 40’s. And neither want kids. So a very atypical situation.

I don’t think either of us gives a s~~~ about validation as a reason for sex, as was discussed in the thread. Rather, we love human touch and cuddling, as well as mind-boggling orgasms. As for masturbation, we’re an open couple and if one is sick or not in the mood, using our hands on our partner to get them off is great. We’ve always been fine with our partner masturbating and joke about it.

Since I stopped trying to direct her choices for job/career/goals and let her live the minimalist lifestyle she enjoys, we never argue.

My high sex drive ex is also a redhead, not sure if those stereotypes are true but they’re fun to joke about.

[MemberParticipant 323]

Before I got wise to the way things were I only partially believed that Bad Boys got most of the pretty girls. With age I found that is usually what did happen (watching other peoples relations~~~s usually)…….women would always try to deny it or make excuses. When I saw long term couples split up I almost always saw the same pattern…..girl has been boning someone on the side all along or would wait until approximately 2 days after the relationship ended (her idea) to jump on the next dude. Much of the time it was an Alpha in the sense that he was a s~~~ head that liked to have a good time and would sell out his own mother for a piece of ass. Other types of Alphas were also in play depending on age (good job having types) and how much she wanted to trade up. There was always a well thought out excuse as to why she had to leave Old Whats His Name. It always boiled down to ……..She wanted more attention and was going to get it however she saw fit and f~~~ you if you stood in her way. They would change from the once a month piece of ass bored house wife to…..getting tattoos and tans on Facebook and f~~~ing a guy on a Harley in short order. They always miraculously recovered their sex drive for the new guy and the ex husband or boyfriend never could understand. Mainly because they thought this women loved them and they could not understand what they had done wrong (hint: usually nothing).

Remember….you are always not far away from being replaced by your wife or girlfriend no matter what they say. The same ex she says she hates will be the one she is blowing behind your back when you p~~~ her off. They are ALWAYS looking for greener grass. The sex drive turns off and on like a switch when they have a desire to trade up. Don’t marry one and it wont be a problem. When she gets bored and you get bored it will take care of itself.

[martygParticipant 103]

I’m going to go against the tide here and say something completely astounding and unbelievable. This is from my own personal experience only. On the average, I believe that women’s sex drive is at least as strong as men’s, maybe more. Women like sex…a lot. They are like cats, they know they are going to get fed so they seem indifferent to it. Men are like dogs, they could have just eaten a whole raw chicken, and a minute later they think they are starving to death, begging at the dinner table. Women are not uptight about getting sex, because they know they can get it anywhere at any time, and they probably are. I used this as a model of female behavior from 15 to 38 when I stopped having sex/relationships. I had more sex than I wanted or needed. If you’re desperate, they know it, and they will use it against you. If you are indifferent to sex, their own needs will win out and you will never lack for sex. At least this is my experience.,

[Deus Ex MachinaParticipant 1068]

It is true, after awhile sex to a female becomes a “reward” for being a “good boy”. My Ex Wife did the same thing as well after a few years and i had to “prove” my worth to her in order to get sex, washing dishes, cleaning the house. it got to a point where I had to buy expensive gifts and other bulls~~~ items in order to keep her horny.

This is what most Blue Pill men going into relations~~~s or marriages have to consider

1. Sex will be a reward

2. You won’t get the good sex you once had

3. you constantly have to prove yourserlf

4. you have to keep her entertained like a damn movie

5. buying her s~~~ will gain you access into the pussy.

It’s a total lie and a bulls~~~ game, Females manipulate very well at a young age, and know how to twist words and emotions to their benefits in order to gain what THEY want. The whole thing is never simp, or give in to what they want, need, or try and manipulate you into getting them.

"If You have the Tooth of a Whale, You must have the Whale's Jaw to hold it". (i.e. One Must have the right qualifications for leadership) -Hawaiian Proverb

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