Okay guys. Now we formerly married with children refugees can understand when I say that MEN commit to a situation with our whole heart and resources. All too frequently it’s someone else ensuring our commitment, but when we are vested, we are in it to win it. Sort of like getting drafted when the enemy is at the gates. We don’t want to sacrifice most everything but, s~~~, better me than that 32 year old pussy that lives with his mother because, well, they have a special bond.
Alright. Now my ex-wife and I first went to counseling before we had our first child. Some (most) of you will say that this was the first indicator that perhaps I should have contemplated an alternate life circumstance. Noted. But, as I said earlier I was in it to win it. What the f~~~ IT was, I can no longer remember. But IT never showed the f~~~ up.
Anyway, our counselor was one of those types in didn’t let his clients talk to each other. We had to express our feelings, concerns, and issues to him. He would then in turn address the other client and say, “would you care to comment?” I had fantasies, in which I used my turn to talk, by method acting my frustrations, while using my ex-wife as a………..
So, after about 6 sessions, we, my ex-wife and I, came to an accord in which we both agreed that we were not making progress. We further agreed that we should find another counselor. I know, I should have considered an alternate life circumstance. I got it. Jeeez!
Just to review. Our communication skills are nonexistent, there has been no sex in our relationship for months, I am stressed out from a training assignment as an army medic instructor that leaves me dog tired most of the time, and I have verbally told her that I am beginning to second guess the wisdom of our getting married. Imminent foreshadowing here. I will explain this later.
Not three days after our last counseling session, and having agreed to find another counselor, my ex-wife initiates what I thought was spontaneous sex in the living room. Afterward I got up and started finding my clothes. I noticed that she had grabbed her knees and had pulled them upwards to her chest while laying on her back. I asked why she was doing this. She replied that it was helpful in insuring impregnation.
Now I am flabbergasted with her imparting her working on getting pregnant. So much so that I am at a loss for words. I say nothing and take a shower. It’s obvious that I’m not happy with the current situation and, she does the wisest thing that she could do. Stays quiet.
Years later, when our youngest is still a baby, we are in marriage counseling yet again. I brought this particular issue up. I stressed that she made a life altering decision without discussing it with me first. She asked why I didn’t say anything then. I responded with, “Why is it that I’m required to ask if you could you get pregnant? You’re the one with the pussy. You know when your pussy is fertile. Why didn’t you say “I’m getting pregnant today?” What the f~~~ was I supposed to say? Go douche. Go get a morning after pill. Get an abortion. Would you have done any of those things? You made a decision without any regard to what I wanted. This has been your behavior from the start. Especially now that we have kids, I am trapped in a relationship with a woman that thinks little to nothing about what it is that I need or want. Pushing a baby out of your vagina is more important than anything else, including a long-term, stable relationship in which a child or children can be raised, you adolescent f~~~!”
About the imminent foreshadowing. Telling your woman that you are thinking about jumping ship in no way motivates her to get her s~~~ together. It motivates her to get pregnant in order to save the relationship. The illogic of adding stress to an already stressed relationship, in which the husband can’t stand the sight of his wife seems to elude those that possess ovaries. It also allows them to continue carrying on with their bulls~~~, because the husband is distracted with the baby.
Don’t trust the pussy! Ever!
I just thought I would share this particular episode, and will share others on the basis of whenever I get around to it. From experience comes wisdom. Try to grow wise on the travails and tribulation of others so that you don’t have lighten your wallet to become the sage on the mountain top.
"I asked you a question. I didn't ask you to repeat what the voices in you head are telling you" ~ Me. ........Yes I'm still angry.
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