Reconnected with father after 17 years

[Silent NoiseParticipant 211]

A few months ago I made a forum post here asking for advice about whether or not to reach out to my father that I hadn’t seen for 17 years.

My mother had taken me to the other side of the country after losing a court battle when I was 5. She told me bulls~~~ about my father, had me mistrust men, gave me video games instead of a father. Moved me to a foreign country where she and her new husband were abusive and suicidal. Well the government took me away from her when I was 16 because she was abusive – egging on my self harm to the point where I cut the tendon and needed plastic surgery. I had cut very deep before but she mocked me saying I JUST wanted attention because the cuts were horizontal.

A week ago i’ve met my father and he’s not the evil man my mother made him out to be. He’s kept photo albums, and memorabilia from when I was very young. Turns out he looked for me (private investigators too) and had sent child support, even though he didn’t have to, until I became an adult. 17 years my mother screwed him over and f~~~ed me over. Better now than never but I feel like i’ve been royally f~~~ed.

All the family on his side tell me how much it means to him that i’m back in his life.

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He’s set me up with a basement suite and a truck both to use rent free until I start racking up dough.

I’ve got knowledge of mgtow, zen, diet, stoicism, mindfulness, and focus.
Now it’s time to go full throttle on mgtow road. I used to work for $10/hour and would think how much time it would cost to buy things I wanted. Now it’s similar when I see hot chicks. I think of how much downside risk there is, being at their mercy via the government, and let me tell you it’s an instant boner killer even though i’m around my sexual prime. Mgtow and male rationality overpowering the lizard brain.

So hyped for this new beginning. It’s surreal.

[bladeParticipant]

Your post has made my day .

My sister is full blown c~~~ and has done the same to my nephews . I am hearing alot of young people finding or looking for there dads . Done a few posts about this because men on here like ya dad i want them to realise this change and not to loose hope . This is f~~~ing awsome bro . Happy for you and your dad and family . Another lyer bites the dust .

To all you young lurkers you have been lyed to by your mothers . Alot of dads waiting out there .

Km this thread is very special and should be put for men to see because it is a thread of hope .

THE PLANTATION HAS NOW TURNED INTO THE KILLING FIELDS . WOMAN ARE NOW ROLLING CAMBODIAN STYLE .

[uchibenkeiParticipant 7965]

I’m glad you did that. Way to go man. I’m happy for you. 1 gross wrong undone.

I bathe in the tears of single moms.

[Anonymous 1]

You went through hell and back from it, now use that knowledge, that power, that anger to improve yourself and help fellow brothers that suffered the same destiny or worse, never look back, only forward. And be glad that you have a father that loves you and care about you, not all the men can say the same.

It is an honor to have you among us, brother.

[Anonymous 42]

This thread belongs in TOP GUN!

I’m speechless at the eternity of truth that comes from your post Silent Noise, I’m overjoyed your life has broken the grips of gynocentric hell! I see you as a man that’s about to soar like an eagle!

Your post made my day week month!

Thank gynocentric government for giving your mother evil powers over you! Order has been restored!

Society has villainized manhood and your father! I’d take it personally if I was you! I know I have and it’s the most liberating mindset there is! Because it’s TRUE! We’re persons! Not VILLAINS!

[JVBParticipant]

Excellent news bro. I feel your joy in your words. I remember your post and I was against it. I was wrong and I’m happy you were right. Good luck to you and your old man.

Peace is > piece.

[Anonymous 11]

Man, you just made the rest of your father’s life as well as your own that much better. Congratulations!

I lost my father at a very young age due to death. I often wonder about how much different my life would been had he even lived 15 more years than he did. I would have learned so much from him. You were robbed, but now you can reap the benefits of having your father in your life again.

The advice one gets from this place is always pretty damn good.

[Anonymous 6]

[JVBParticipant]

Anonymous wrote:

Nice !! Irish. Love that pic.

Peace is > piece.

[Anonymous 0]

Welcome back brother. You are an inspiration. Stay focused now.

[GargamelSpectator 29101]

For me it is too late to talk to my old man… He died 19 years ago.
Days before his death bed he said: “Oh, life would have been so much better without the Grandmother (in law) bitching and bullying right inside the family.”

Although she was out of the “family apartment conflict zone” since 1975 (!) her evil spirit stuck with us and was transferred though my mother until 1991, when my Grandmother died at age 89.

These c~~~s broke him and made his life a living hell. And he gave it back to us by being an abusive and unpleasant dad.

BUT:

In 1981, there was a time in which my mother was in a “mother recreation center” (because her family was so bad to her…) and I was alone with him… And I had to cook for him. And we got along just fine. I even did funny things with him and he never exploded. 4 weeks of peace and harmony. Since then, I called him the “hairy monkey” as a nickname and he lived with it.

And nothing deteriorated in the apartment and house because we kids (only me left at that time) had to do all the work around the house anyway, because mother was “so busy” earning nothing with her beauty shop customers that she served way too cheap and then spent hours on. (Gossiping out all negative details about her bad behaving son and his spoiled father)

But we, the “bad family” were always called out as “the guilty ones” for her “overstressed state”…

So now I would just walk up and say: Daddy let’s join MGTOW.com and tell the world why we have (or had) to unc~~~…

Actually, going back in time, I would rather have learned to cook and do ALL of the housework for us if I had been freed of that constant bitching, whining, blaming and nagging my mother did 24/7.

In retrospective, I would have liked to change my own diapers as a baby just to avoid the beatings and pinches of my middle sister and the loud bitching of my mother…

My dad was not so bad after all. These c~~~s made him an “asshole”. Starting with his own mother… (I haven’t elaborated on that yet, I am still new to the MGTOW forums…)

in 1985, when Boris Becker hit it big, she was in front of the TV 24/7 watching tennis. And the household laid in ruins. And she pretended to be so “badly overworked”… I just started to take control and bring things back to normal. I was always the emergency brake for c~~~s’ errors… A free and “careless youth” looks different!

C~~~s are a burden, wherever they are and no matter how educated and empowered they might be. Just one look at my teachers and the beginning sluttish ways of my female classmates confirmed the word “trainwreck” to this day.

Yes, in that situation – 1985 – at age 18, I wasn’t even thinking of getting me another one of these “problems” aka girlfriend. Just to see my mother pour out her bitching bucket over her and turn her against me. Till today, my mother lives in the illusion of getting grandchildren from her “valid and valued family tree keeping” son… The 4 grandchildren of my oldest sister – all of them “became someone” – ARE NOT GOOD ENOUGH for her.

In July of 2018, this honey pot forum was sold out to an unidentified NPC sock puppet and troll organization. Most independent thinkers and writers migrated to other MGTOW forums as a result of the never-ending infighting and deliberate trouble starting caused by members who were given "carte blanche" by the admin to do whatever they want. Before my departure, I only left a few thousand cat pics here to comfort and ridicule the feminist owners who now run this place. Their background agenda is to make MGTOW look like a club of losers the public eye. And during the course of 2019, they actually managed to destroy almost all other MGTOW venues as well. Here is the truth about "theindependentman.org" aka "TIM" which was created as an extended workbench to further divide the community. When you register, they install a spyware Zombie cookie on your browser that does all kinds of things the user does not know of: http://www.filedropper.com/essay-on-the-removal-of-malware-cookies-used-by-tim

[Anonymous 0]

I guess I was fortunate to have my dad in my life until about 7 years ago when he passed. He was a very strict hard-ass though. I got the s~~~ whipped out of my bare ass plenty of times with his leather belt when I was a child. Not blaming him really, but I’ve always had issues with authority figures. It wasn’t until after he died that I began to understand him. Mom was sorting out old pictures and stuff recently. I noticed his military discharge paper from WWII. It mentioned his unit number or some number and “DTC”. Of course I googled the info. and then researched it. Turns out he was kind of like a drill instructor, sergeant, training cadre thing for one of the Disciplinary Training Centers during WWII. All the f~~~ups, deserters, rapists, murderers, that did s~~~ overseas during the war went to one of about three DTC camps to either be retrained and disciplined enough to go back and fight or held to go to Leavenworth prison after the war. My dad was one of the men that trained, punished, and generally made their lives a living hell during the entire war. F~~~!! Explains a lot of why he was a tough f~~~ing dad. I wish I had known about all of this earlier.

[ApexScorpionParticipant 602]

Silent Noise wrote:

I think of how much downside risk there is, being at their mercy via the government, and let me tell you it’s an instant boner killer even though i’m around my sexual prime. Mgtow and male rationality overpowering the lizard brain.

Same here. I do not want to deal with their bulls~~~ and to know it’s coming is a turn off.

Glad you connected with your old man. Red pill helped me appreciate my father more also.

[GargamelSpectator 29101]

Silent Noise wrote:

I think of how much downside risk there is, being at their mercy via the government, and let me tell you it’s an instant boner killer even though i’m around my sexual prime. Mgtow and male rationality overpowering the lizard brain.

So hyped for this new beginning. It’s surreal.

And we are here to help you along, brother.

You hit the nail on it’s head with a hammer: “Instant boner killer” that is why women are afraid of MGTOW: Because we now de-hynotize the world from the female lies, manipulation, guilt shaming tactics and once a man knows “all that” he is no longer the majorette doll of any c~~~.

Vagina becomes powerless for the first time in history!

They are cast out, even more than any women-oppressing religion ever did.

We are ignoring them and their evil spirit. That is the worst they ever got.

MGTOW is like that saying: Imagine a war starts and nobody shows up to fight it…

We made our peace with the c~~~ rule and they fear that this virus is spreading…

…no need to just fear anymore, just watch it unfold… New MGTOW sites are appearing day by day. The word “MGTOW” is now “conquering” the German language. More and more brothers over here understand it.

In July of 2018, this honey pot forum was sold out to an unidentified NPC sock puppet and troll organization. Most independent thinkers and writers migrated to other MGTOW forums as a result of the never-ending infighting and deliberate trouble starting caused by members who were given "carte blanche" by the admin to do whatever they want. Before my departure, I only left a few thousand cat pics here to comfort and ridicule the feminist owners who now run this place. Their background agenda is to make MGTOW look like a club of losers the public eye. And during the course of 2019, they actually managed to destroy almost all other MGTOW venues as well. Here is the truth about "theindependentman.org" aka "TIM" which was created as an extended workbench to further divide the community. When you register, they install a spyware Zombie cookie on your browser that does all kinds of things the user does not know of: http://www.filedropper.com/essay-on-the-removal-of-malware-cookies-used-by-tim

[Puffin StuffParticipant 24979]

I’m sure it means a lot to your dad too. My son is 19. He was having an adolescent thing about 5 years ago and moved to his mom after 14 years of 50/50 physical custody.

She met a super rich guy…a financial chad…and had to move there. So she wanted my son to go and a fight ensued. After 3 years of fighting I won but my son missed his mom and at 14 moved down with her.

The way he left was messy and it took about 2 years to hook up again. It is great to have him back in my life. Although separating from each other is a difficult parental thing to do, it always hurts.

Your dad never stopped loving you and he even tried to look for you, and he’s not just saying it, he hired a private detective.

Now you need to keep in touch. I call my son once a week so we keep up with our lives and keep in touch.

Good luck you are a lucky man, you gained a father.

#icethemout; Remember Thomas Ball. He died for your children.

[Anonymous 25]

Great story. Happy for you and your father.

This does seem to be a growing trend.

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