Recently Accused Newbie

[MemberParticipant 323]

I am going through the facts listed in your post….

– She is an alcoholic person
– She is BP (bipolar or borderline not sure/either way bad bad)
– She had you arrested for fake violence charge after what sounds like many aggressive and abusive outbursts towards you
– You are convicted now and on the books for Domestic Violence which means in many states you can have issues getting certain jobs or ever possessing a firearm (did you realize this?).
– She tried to lure you back in at the hearing by saying that she still loves you.

From personal experience understand the facts as I see them based on the info you gave….

If you ever let her back in your life …..

– the VERBAL abuse would begin again. She believes that you are an ABUSER and anything she does against you including false DV charges Is justified. You thought her fake apology at the hearing meant she thought you were not at fault and that she was? Wrong…she still thinks you are the abuser.
– She will continue to be a drunk and abuser and now that she has a prior conviction on you for DV it is even easier to get your ass thrown back in jail or worse. What is worse? Crazy bitches have no problems in telling police that you are dangerous and might even kill her……when cops arrive under those circumstances they get itchy trigger fingers. Think about how easily you got thrown in jail last time. It can be much worse.
– Sure she wants to play with the whole family and kids thing. Just remember that in her mind you are a flawed abuser and that she only deals with you because she wants to give you another “chance”. Right now kids aren’t involved but in the future they will be. Its one thing to be dealing with crazy on your own……quite another level of hell to watch them destroy and hurt your own kids. It is the ultimate manipulation tool. Look on these boards and see how many men are trapped in hell because they have children with a nut. The BS never stops until the kids grow up and sometimes not even then.

Convince yourself however you need to and avoid her from now on. I am 100% serious. I will bet my bank account if you let her back into your life she will make your life hell. I do not doubt this at ALL. Have seen this s~~~ firsthand.

[HitmanParticipant]

Let me first say welcome! Next that I have been where you are at..very very tough. .for a while. .it took me almost 2 years to come to grips. .lastly. .you got a kick in the ass you will never forget. ..ultimately it’s a favor when you lose a nut job ..just takes time. ..give it time. .

[Mr. ManParticipant 2916]

Isn’t it funny how so many women now claim to be bi polar? It’s part of their victim culture. But I think that it’s mostly a convenient way for them to act irresponsibly and then blame their behavior on the “disease.” I know, I’ve lived with women like this. Dated them. Married a few. Was raised by one. I know the species well. (That’s why I’m full MIGTOW now.)

But here’s the kicker — you will find this same s~~~ty behavior in trailer trash all the way up to corporate executives. Again, I know because I’ve been with all types, and it does not take alcoholism or a mental disorder for women to act the way your wife has acted.

So having been in a similar situation as you are now, I want you to know that when the healing comes, when you’re feeling good about yourself again, and you meet a woman who by all accounts is totally different than your ex wife, know that this new woman is just as f~~~ed up as your ex but in some new and spectacular way. A way in which you have no experience with and so can’t see the train wreck that’s coming towards you.

Good luck, my friend. There’s life after divorce. A good life.

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