It’s funny how looking at my fingers and hands, seeing calluses from both playing guitar for years and working out shows me that it takes a lot of pain in order to truly heal.
When my hands and fingers no longer hurt, I realize the process was painful, but the man that came from it will never have to experience that same pain again.
I am new to this community, although I’ve been a believer for years. I’ve been cheated on, treated unfairly, and lost faith in relationships. I’ve believed over the years that the media and society has deified the woman to the point, that even the most unattractive female realizes her power. This made relationships hard.
My story:
Last May, I suffered a heart attack. If it wasn’t for my neighbor finding me kneeled over in front of my door, and rushing me to the hospital, I would be dead. I’m a healthy guy that works out all the time, but I found out I have a congenital condition. I spent my life being successful in business, and here I am sick and single and hating my life… but wait, it gets worse!
The Backstory:
Three years ago, I was in a wedding in New York. I flew across country and spent a few days camping with the entire wedding party; it was amazing!
While I was there talking to my friends, two girls walked up and sat down – they were two sisters who were friends with the bride. One of the girls piqued my interest – there was something about her. She was not a model, but I felt something damn near spiritual when I met her. We hit it off that weekend, but did not do anything because she was going through a divorce (I’m a gentleman!)
After the wedding, I noticed she did not like to talk much, and acted “stuck up”… she gave me her telephone number, and we kept in touch over social media. After her divorce, she found out she was pregnant; her ex-husband left her a parting gift, and refused to take care of the baby. She’s now a single mother of TWO. So I step in and be there for her emotionally when she needed me. I would send her flowers, gifts, even said “if you need a hand to hold in the delivery room, I’ll be there for you!” She told me she loved me…. I was happy. But a few months later, she would be publicly posting about her “date” with a single father, etc. I grew upset because here I am being her knight in shining armor, and she is ignoring me…
How I got here:
This girl came back in my life last August; two years after she rejected me. She begged me to talk to her, and forgive her for ignoring my interest and flowers that I used to send her. She promised to take care of my heart, and constantly put herself down for being stupid! She said that “for two years, every guy she tried to meet, she could not stop thinking about me, but was afraid to contact me because she though I hated her…(I totally did.) She claimed that a relationship she was in didn’t work out because all she wanted was me.
So she begged me for another chance; All of our mutual friends told me “this is your chance to have the girl you love more than anything.” So we started dating in August. In September, we all went camping (annual trip) and had an amazing time… She and I were like two peas in a pod, made love, watched the sunset, talked about the future, and she was obsessed with me. A few weeks later, I flew her out to Vegas, stayed at the Four Seasons, gave her the best 4 days of her life. Leading up to the trip, she would publicly post a countdown and tell everyone that she is about to spend a few days with the man of her dreams. Her friends would comfort her and tell her “He is so good to you, and giving you the love you deserve!” They all knew I was great to her!
She would leave me love notes, brag to all of her friends, post pics of us with the most genuine, heartfelt messages — things that made my heart melt. I would send her gifts, send her kids gifts… she wanted to move here in Cali and we spend our lives together as a family. I was HAPPY BECAUSE I FINALLY WOULD HAVE A FAMILY! She was obsessed with me and called me her KING because I treated her like ROYALTY! I was always there for her when she needed me… She would be next to me, staring at me while we walked hand-in-hand, and then when I smiled and asked “what’s wrong?” She would say “baby, I love you so much. You are the most amazing man I’ve ever seen! I promise I’ll never let you go!” She used to say things like “if I leave you, shoot me!” and “breaking up and NOT an option!!!”
So when it got time for me to renew my long-term lease on my high rise bachelor pad here in San Jose, I decided not to. She was going to move out here, so we would find a house together, on the water, and raise the kids together until we died. I felt comfortable because 1) it was months later, 2) I knew her for a while and we have a mutual best friends, and 3) I was equally obsessed and felt this was true love.
So she came out here to visit, and fell in love with California. Things were perfect still… but a little off. She was acting a bit funny. Every time I asked, she would say “nothing baby!”
We used to text each other 100 times per day… then that turned to 10 times a day. When I would ask “what’s wrong baby? We don’t talk much…” she would get angry saying “YOU DON’T TRUST ME!” … no, I do trust you.. I’m just your King asking my Queen what’s wrong so that I can help make her smile… She used to randomly message me every day “I love you my King! You are the best thing that ever happened to me!” But that all stopped…
Two weeks ago, I was going through a lot of stress, and texted her “I love you” followed by a sweet meme about spending life with the one you love.. it took her 4 hours to respond to me. So I’m angry at this point and ask “what’s wrong? I need you, and I never hear from you.”
That night she broke up with me claiming she needed to work on herself because she loves me so much that she wanted to be better and can’t be in a relationship. The next morning I asked her to call me, and she did… I did all the talking and she barely said anything…..
She then blocked me, and all our mutual friends for NO REASON. Except one. And he sent me a screenshot that she was out on a date with another guy, THE NIGHT SHE BROKE UP WITH ME!!!! A guy with no job, and nothing going for him. Everyone, even her dad, was upset because she threw away the only man who treated her and the kids that well. He messaged me saying “I hope I can still share a beer with you.” He thought I gave her the world, which I did.
So after all of that, she claimed I did it to myself for looking so hard to find out she was with someone else.
Knowing how I was healing health-wise, and how weak my figurative heart was, she promised to take care of it. She lied. They all lie.
Conclusion:
My fellow Kings, after being fed a crock of crap from a woman, I can not longer take anything they say seriously. To feel so warm, and genuinely loved for months, doing all the right things, just to be dumped and lied to… Yes everyone said “you deserve better!” and “She’s just a bad person!” I understand that; but there is no way to heal from that. She’s the one I wanted and worked hard to keep. She proved to me that no matter what you do, a woman would destroy you, throw away all of her friends, and tell you to f*ck off, all for instant gratification.
I’m young, educated, a successful businessman, no criminal records, fairly good looking, and treat everyone I meet with love and respect… and women throw us away like we are nothing.
I am done trying with them, and I have fallen in love with myself. Women who found out I was single again, wanted to take me out — I gave them ground rules and said 1) you pay for me, 2) I am not interested in dating, and 3) don’t bullsh*t me.
They may hate my attitude now, but I am just a man who have learned their games.
Pleasure meeting everyone!
Legendary life 3 years, 8 months ago.
