Reach back in time.

[Big Viking Chef BVCParticipant 1286]

Have you ever wanted to reach back through time and give yourself a slap in the back of the head, asking “What are you thinking about!”?

I would reach back to my first year of college and tell myself not to take her back after finding out that she was on another c~~~ while I was away at school.

I would tell myself that she has set me free, and that I will thank me later.

I would tell myself that the very first time that she called me a pervert for trying to get her to f~~~ me should have been her last day on my arm.

I would tell myself that I should actually follow through with one of my empty threats to leave her.

I would tell myself not to marry her simply because “It’s time to take the next step.”

I would tell myself that her dislike for giving oral sex (not receiving) is a dislike for me.  Take the clue, buddy.

I would tell myself that she is not the person that I fell in love with…she was just pretending to be – badly.

I would tell myself that our sex life only gets worse, not better, and to make my decisions knowing this.

I would tell myself that I am wasting my time, because I won’t be in love with her any more, she will have killed that part of me.

I would tell myself that at the age of 40, I will realize that she is one of the toxic parts of my life that needs to be cut out.

I would tell myself that late in the game, I will tell her that I am no longer in love with her, and she will still want to stick around like a lingering fart.

I would tell myself that 24 years of faithfull monogamy, even in the face of frigidity, will go completely unappreciated.  Missed opportunities will become regrets.

I would tell myself that I will realize my freedom, find a band of brothers and not feel alone.

Thank you Brothers.
BVC

 

Swallow this RED PILL ===> Men will lay down their lives for their brothers, their women and their children. This makes Men useful as slaves. Women will lay down their lives for ONLY their children. To expect more from women is just a FANTASY created by society and reinforced by the unconditional love that we experienced from our Mothers. The key to freedom is the understanding that the woman you meet is not going to fantastically love you like your Mother did. If you buy into the fantasy, then she is your new master. If you do not buy into the fantasy, then she is nothing, and you retain your freedom.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Yes but not really. If I did something boneheaded, I knew it was boneheaded. There is ONE mistake I made that I wished I could go back 20 years and undo… even though I was FULLY coherent at the time and knew I shouldn’t do it, the long-term hassle, cost and inconvenience it caused was not worth it. To put it into perspective, it was like a $10 mistake that cost me +$10,000 lost time, paperwork and headache.

It’s funny you mention this, the other day while out for coffee, I was inspired to write something I might call “20 things I would tell my son today”.

Big Viking Chef BVC wrote:

I would tell myself that she has set me free, and that I will thank me later.

That’s a great one.

Made this sticky . Would be very interested to see what others might add.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[RoyDalParticipant]

Have you ever wanted to reach back through time and give yourself a slap in the back of the head, asking “What are you thinking about!”?

Yes. When I’m thinking straight, I make it a lesson learned and change the way I’m doing things.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[James HunterParticipant 26]

If I could reach back in time to correct my mistakes I would stop myself from trying to become the best friend for the girls I cared about, because if you’re straight and you care and you’re her best friend, you are the gay friend in the friend zone and that is one of the worst feeling ever.

[davParticipant 422]

Ah.. The friend zone. Been there a few times before there was even a term for it. I think it was called “just friends” What a waste of time.

But looking back, I saw being friendzoned actually helped me dodge some bullets and not get involved with these whores like some guys did and the misery it caused them.

[natsarim.mgtowParticipant 17]

if i stand with a foot in the past and a foot in the future, i will p~~~ on today.

Ride To Live-Live To Ride.

[RennieParticipant]

I would not have gotten tangled up with that girl in grade 7, what a waste of time and energy that was. I wish I had the sense to kick her out of my life instead of wasting two years hoping she’d come around.She did not deserve my adoration.

I chose…poorly. 🙁

[BrainPilotParticipant 7640]

The things I would reach back into 1984 and tell my 18 year old self:

1) The social norms on interactions with women really are as screwed up as you perceive them to be.

2) The people who could be and should be your role models for interacting with women have overdosed on blue pill, and cannot help you by example.

3) Trust your instincts even when, and especially when, they don’t conform to those social norms regarding women…

4) It will be a long time that you will have to keep trusting your instincts even when you’ll have no one else around who will agree with them.

5) But someday, decades away, you will stumble onto this website where you will connect with many other men who also accurately saw the norms for interactions with women for being exactly as screwed up as they are…and you’ll know that your instincts were correct all along…

6) There will not be a woman anywhere among the women you are going to meet that will be worthy of that one chance you are going to give her to prove that nawalt. Scrap that strategy…

7) Be aggressive when you invest in Apple… ;-P

Look, it's not my fault that tornado dropped a house on your sister. Now get back on your broom and get your ass out of here... and take your monkeys with you

[Anonymous 11]

I stand with BrainPilot on all 7 points except substitute being 17 in 1984.

In addition, I would go back to the old stupid blue pill me and tell him to leverage whatever woman you were with at the time to attract better and more women. Loyalty is for suckers.

[– Deleted on Request –Spectator 936]

Been there, suffered for it, and wish I could go back and fix things.  None of them were worth as much as a hangover.

 

[Anonymous 42]

If I could go back in time??? Hmmmmm,,,,,,,….. I’d go back to the garden of Eden and kill that f~~~ing snake! Then I’d instruct Adam to cut down the tree of knowledge of good and evil, and use the lumber to build a bitch box, then with one finger I would point to the box, and the other pointed at the door, I would tell Eve it’s her CHOICE, NOW CHOSE!

[Anonymous 5]

I am 50/50 on this. Part of me wishes I could fix the mistakes I made, but the other part of me accepts that I had to make those mistakes and learn from them. I needed to mess up to become a better man. So I don’t know if I would change anything. I try to imagine how much different my life would be if I did change the past. A part of me believes it might have been EVEN worse if I didn’t make those mistakes. It is hard to tell.

I think there is a very real possibility that if I didn’t f~~~ up, I might actually have got my ex bitch girlfriend pregnant and my life would be over. So maybe it was for the best. Life could have been better. Could have been worse. I will never know for sure.

[Vector VikingParticipant 413]

I think basically everyone has this fantasy of waking up on some certain morning when we made a decision that we now regret.

I’m fairly certain that if I did have that opportunity, fixing one f~~~-up would lead to getting myself into a bigger, badder f~~~-up that I would end up regretting even more when I got back to today. Maybe I’m just telling myself that to make myself feel better. Either way, magic isn’t real and time for humans only moves in one direction.

I have learned a few other facts regarding regret:

1: Being ridiculously optimistic increases your chances at success at anything.

2: 100% of successful people have a string of f~~~-ups and failures in their past.

3: Try to learn from other people’s f~~~-ups. You don’t have enough time to make all the mistakes.

[Capslok SpelczechParticipant 108]

The question reminds me of this verse from Tom T. Hall’s “I Hope It Rains At My Funeral:”

“The miles were good but the mileage is turnin’ my hair gray
I’ve met some people that knew me and call me friend
Ain’t no sense in wantin’ my life to live over
I’d find different ways to make those mistakes again”

From the average age of all 4 of my grandparents at the time of their deaths, I figure I’m in the third quarter of my life, so I agree with VectorViking & Tom T: I earned every one of these grey hairs by sometimes painful trial, but always instructive error. Paradoxically, I need my figurative and literal scars to weather the tests yet ahead. The wisdom of men is perishable and needs to be reborn daily; nature gave us a powerful mating drive that can blind us to our logic–and one of the best parts of getting older and wiser is the day you can manifest control over that powerful instinct.

For me, one of the greatest discoveries in life–after spending two years untying a Gordian f~~~-knot made up of social conditioning, cultural influences, and a lot of post-modern feminist bulls~~~, which, incidentally, led me to this forum–was the emptiness and the complete, utter invalidity of the phrase “I have to.” Quite the opposite. I have to do NOTHING but feed myself–almost everything that I say, feel, think, or do–is entirely up to ME. And I need my failures to remind me of that, every single day. I truly would not go back and change much of anything, when I think about it from that angle. Without the fallout from my mistakes, I wouldn’t have realized the agency each of us has over his success or failure. The most formidable man in the room is the one who has lived long enough to differentiate reasoned, potentially profitable, and absorbable risks from impetuous, dumbassed gambles.

"Higgins: Magnum, feed the lads, would you? There are steaks in the freezer. [Magnum makes an excited face] Very well, you can have one too."

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