Radio Silence

[daninhtownParticipant 20]

Just another example of dealing with entitlement.

I met a chick through Tinder, believe it or not.  Let’s face it. We still wanna get laid and Tinder is a good place to find ass.

We were having a good run.  We’d hang out about once a week, normally at my place because she lives in BFE and I’m not driving that far.  Of course we slept together every time we were together, would go out for drinks, and literally f~~~ up to 7 times a day.  It was a good deal.  We had to miss hanging out one weekend because she was house shopping to be closer to her mom (which is in my area) and I had guests in town.  (My guest was a red-head from Dallas that I bang when she comes into town, but the Tinder girl didn’t know that.)

After that weekend I got nothing from her.  Like the title says, “Radio Silence.”  Meh.  No biggy.  C’est la vie, and all that. Then about a week later I get a text that says “Why are you ignoring me?”  To sum it up she was upset that I wasn’t the one messaging her every morning.  I wasn’t the one calling her.  Yet my phone never rang, buzzed, or dinged in any way with her number.  I explained that to her and she insists she messaged me and that I ignored her.  I let it die there.

Fast forward another week.  I’m driving to Dallas.  I get a “What did I do wrong” text.  We exchanged a few messages but nothing since.  This was last week.

So my question is: Do any of you guys deal with this?  Being expected to always initiate conversation or contact, being chastised for doing so too late, or being expected to do as she pleases because she has the pussy?
Don’t get me wrong, she was a decent lay and good looking (no 10, but still) but nothing to get all mooshy about.

[AntaresParticipant 208]

It’s a simple matter of “worth the effort”. You never said how much maintenance she requires, but after a point most women become too much trouble. From your perspective I guess that would be more contact with her verses replacing her with someone else you’d find on Tinder. “What did I do wrong” is a red flag in my opinion.

I’m done with all that now, but even back in my blue pill days my tolerance for this stuff was low and I’d quickly jettison women who failed to reciprocate with some kind of value. I’m an introvert so the burden of socialization is high for me. I could take calls asking for help (utility), but I never bought into the mind-reading giving attention s~~~. If she can’t clearly ask, she doesn’t get it from me.

Price is what you pay, value is what you get. -- Ben Graham

[Soul ManParticipant 1856]

She has become emotionally attached on some level and/or her boyfriend/husband found out what she was up to.  Now all her branches are snapping off in her hands.  This is a s~~~ test to see how emotionally invested YOU are in the situation.  She’s most likely trying to figure out how to stop the ground from giving way under her feet.

Dude…I’m sure you already know this but Texas bitches seem to be a special kind of crazy.  Maybe it’s all the oil money….it is H-town ya know?

(DFW here)

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[Governor Megachris%Participant 3584]

I live in what’s considered the “H-Town” area (at least 30 minutes from downtown), and I can definitely attest to the fact that Texas women, albeit superficially attractive, are a special kind of crazy.  They normally go on about hating feminism and whatnot, but then have the exact same laundry list of demands they want from a man.  The one that drives me the craziest is even the city girls say “I want me a man that likes to go muddin and fishin and huntin and drives a truuuuck and has a four wheeler.”  Way to play into multiple stereotypes in one, ladies.

[Soul ManParticipant 1856]

Wow MegaChris…I didn’t realize you lived in H-town!?!  That explains 99.9% of the issues you’ve had with wimmemz!  It’s definitely not you bro.  These Texas wimmenz are WACK!

Just like you described…they all want some secret millionaire country bumpkin that lives in a double-wide back in the woods.  He’s gotta be 6’5″, have a big dinger, a big ‘ol truck, a dawg, be a hunter, and be some sappy f~~~ing romantic that gets on his knees to propose marriage to some god awful kuntry mangina love song.

Blech…it’s the epitome of stupidity. In general, I have found wimmenz outside of Texas to be slightly more manageable when trying to get Mr. Wiggly a dip in the ‘ol tuna trough.  YMMV…

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[Anonymous 11]

Governor Megachris% wrote:

“I want me a man that likes to go muddin and fishin and huntin and drives a truuuuck and has a four wheeler.”

I’m sad to report this species is quite well established in Georgia.  Luckily, I don’t live in their native habitat so my exposure is minimal.  They are to be avoided like the plague as they are a special kind of STOOOPID and also have very high land whale potential.

Soul Man wrote:

kuntry

Soul Man, you’ve killed me yet again.  That’s the way I’m spelling it from now on.

[BrainPilotParticipant 7640]

I’ve lived in Houston and lived in Dallas…just different banks of the same crazy-ditch imo. I’ll be the first to admit that I am a LONG way from being an expert on women, but I’ve gotten that, ‘why didnt you text me’ s~~~ test before. I’ll share what I believe I learned from the experience.

After a few weeks of sex, sometimes sooner, women will sort of ‘take a reading’ to measure how well it’s working on you. What they really want to know is how emotionally invested you are. They’ll start paying attention to things like how often you text them first, how fast you return a text, how long your text was… ANYTHING other than just coming straight out and asking you exactly how important they are to you. In this case, she stops contacting you to see how long before you contact her (how soon before you miss her and call her first). They don’t want to take the risk of being told they aren’t as important as they’d like to be, and don’t give you credit for answering them honestly if they just ask directly. So they have all these games they play to ‘figure you out’.

Each individual woman knows that sex is worth something, but many of them don’t know exactly how much. Very often you’ll see the younger ones assuming it has infinite value because they’ve become accustomed to younger, hormone over-driven guys saying yes to whatever the demands of the day happen to be. Some guys in their teens and early 20s would agree to overthrow of governments if they thought it might get them some sex. Younger women are aware of this, but the exact, specific length a man will go to is difficult for them to measure. They are also aware that while guys have an abundance of determination, they aren’t exactly over loaded on loyalty. (Personally, in my 20s I was guilty as charged on both counts).

If you read articles written for women in the magazines they read, you can see some of this ‘advice’ for figuring us out being doled out to them to help them ‘measure’ how ‘into you’ he is. It can make you gag, but I always recommend that men read the things that women read that are about men. Often they are written by women who have no more insight than the women who are reading them. But it’s important to read what they read, if you have any interest in knowing what they think.

I agree with soulman here. She’s just calibrating the strength of the ‘sex tractor beam’ to try to measure how effectively you are being pulled in by it. She goes a week with no contact with you…waiting for you to make contact, and measuring how much time it takes for you to do it. When a week goes by and she gets no contact from you, you get a challenge, “Why are you ignoring me?”. The implication is that you have been negligent or otherwise done something ‘wrong’ and should now defend yourself. This is an old one. Women have been using this attack strategy for attention forever, and have done it on this site very recently. Men have good reflexes when it comes to being attacked, and we will defend ourselves. In doing so, regardless of the form that the defense takes, she gets the attention that was the goal all along.

I once got a very similar test and answered this way, “if your text got no response, it could either be unreliable man ignoring you, or unreliable cell tower. Since cell towers are famous for being unreliable, why would you assume it was unreliable man?”. I knew at the time that all she wanted was a little attention and reassurance, so it didn’t really matter what I said, but I wanted to establish the precedent that I don’t apologize for not responding to messages I did not receive, and would embarrass her for imposing negative assumptions onto me…

While she’s measuring you to see how much attention and reassurance for herself can be obtained from you, you should use it as an opportunity to measure how much attention and effort she is going to require. Back when I was still interacting with women in the context of dating, I always used the direct approach. I would proudly say, “Oh, this is a problem I can fix!”. I would hold my phone in my hand and just ask directly, “How long can you go without attention before you to feel ignored? If you’ll tell me, I’ll set a recurrent timer on my phone to remind me before it gets to that point…”. If I would sound sincere and not sarcastic when I said it, sometimes I could get them to tell me specifically how many days they’d somehow decided in their head was the appropriate number of days…

Then, no matter what she said (4 days for example), I would immediately answer that I would feel ignored if I didn’t hear from a women for a period of one day less than whatever she had just said. “Once I spend money or time on a woman, if I don’t hear form her within 3 days, I figure I’m being blown off and just start looking for someone else… So, you better set a reminder on YOUR phone so this doesn’t happen again…”. Then, I would put my phone down without setting any reminder for myself.

As always, be sure to be calm and polite and show a big wide s~~~-eating grin when you say this to keep the situation from becoming hostile (as it often does when you bust them and call them out for s~~~ testing you). If you keep it calm, they will often drop it to avoid the embarrassment of being called out for what they were just trying to do.

But know that no matter how effectively you deflect this particular s~~~ test this way, there will be more to come… they never tire of this game.

Look, it's not my fault that tornado dropped a house on your sister. Now get back on your broom and get your ass out of here... and take your monkeys with you

[Soul ManParticipant 1856]

@brainpilot

Simply genius!  Love it!

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[StargazerParticipant 12505]

I’d be willing to bet my degree that the following happens a lot more than we’d like to believe:

1) girl meets boy
2) girl is hot for boy
3) girl lets nature take its course with boy
4) nature takes its course a lot
5) girl is happily immersed in nature and behaves accordingly
6) girl steps out of immersion to meet friends or family (who are not happily immersed in nature)
7) friends and family plant negative ideas to corrupt girl’s happiness out of spite and jealousy
8) girl goes back to boy with corrupted ideas
9) girl no longer happily immersed in nature and behaves accordingly
10) boy dumps girl

So the secret of maintaining natural happiness with a female is, once you find one you like, kidnap her and move to another city and never let her meet her friends and family (or any other females) again.

[RennieParticipant]

Stargazer wrote:

So the secret of maintaining natural happiness with a female is, once you find one you like, kidnap her and move to another city and never let her meet her friends and family (or any other females) again.

Keep her away from other men and the media too, otherwise she’ll just get corrupted, I know it sounds cruel, but what else can you do.

[Anonymous 42]

BrainPilot wrote:

they never tire of this game.

Hey Brain, I understand the whole s~~~ test thing, but did they ever think I’d get tired first! By the time a s~~~ test rolled around, I had my nose up the ass of another woman, I would have gotten allot more ass if I had patience.

Rennie wrote:

Keep her away from other men and the media too, otherwise she’ll just get corrupted

Hey Rennie, I thought of the BE-A-WOMAN cage first! I just know it would work! Put them in the cage when they’re bad (all the time), let them out for sex, and intensive be-a-woman training. It’s crude, I’m betting it’ll work.

[XSDBSParticipant 3598]

daninhtown wrote:

Do any of you guys deal with this?

Use their own lies/excuses against them…

“I didn’t get your text”

“My phone was dead”

“I missed your call”

“I was sleeping”

etc, etc, etc…

[Anonymous 2]

Buy a crappy phone that can’t run Whatsapp. Defend the brand and model with irrational devotion.

You either get sex and a new phone from the woman and soldier on, or she will leave you for being such a nerdy devotee to obsolete technology. I actually obtained a Nokia this way years post-coitus.

[daninhtownParticipant 20]

All good replies.  Every. Single. One.

As a good friend of mine says, this is an example of GPS.  Golden Pussy Syndrome.  She also knows that she makes slightly more than I do, so that has to lend some process to the power factor.

I, too, have lived in both Dallas and Houston.  Again, I agree that TX has a special kind of crazy when it comes to the women.  I’ve had my share of all forms, I’m sure.

In the end I’ve already got my nose up another one’s ass.  I seem to have about a six week rotation and I’m good with that.  I was just wondering how common this really is.  Apparently they (The wimmens) must have semi-regular strategy meetings on this stuff.

 

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