Question for the brothers

[Symmetric MGTOWParticipant 570]

A few days ago I heard from a family member that my ex wife asked them if they could provide her with church documentation regarding my status within the church.
The person she asked this to told me and asked me what I would like for them to do. I told them to not reply, which they haven’t, and to give me time to think about it.
Given the type of document she is requesting, my guess is that she is re-marrying soon through the church. But aside from that, does this have any other legal ramifications for me? Our divorce was bitter, yet not as bad as it could have been. She could have destroyed me if she so wanted, but she didn’t. Still it was a bitter separation and divorce, so after a few years of no contact and silence on both ends, I am a bit perplexed by this. Any comments on this?

[Symmetric MGTOWParticipant 570]

Also, my bad, this is the introductions forum. This was a mistake. If a mod can move it to general that would be great!

[Anonymous 1]

We don’t really have much info here,but I would surmise it may be something like a Temple wedding such as LDS does. While one can get a secular divorce, you still have to go through the church to get released from that bond so you can marry the next guy. I don’t see any liability to you and in fact it’s great news. She’ll be married to someone else for eternity and f~~~ her for it. Like jelly of the month, the gift that keeps on giving.

[CarnageParticipant 22113]

Congratulations, make sure the bitch get any document she needs soo she can marry the next idiot.

Have a toast.

Is a day for celebratio.

To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.

[TaxGuyParticipant]

What Carnage said. Let her have it.

Order the good wine

[Symmetric MGTOWParticipant 570]

Thank you, guys.

I asked a couple more questions and she actually specified that she wants the document to finish divorce related paperwork at her church.

So she is either going to re-marry very soon, or she is checking the boxes on her sheet to complete our divorce, and then proceed to re-marry. I will text my family later on and tell them to give her what she wants with my blessing.

You guys are awesome, thanks again!

[AutoliteParticipant]

I’m reminded of the movie “A Serious Man”.

Cy Wants a Get

[uchibenkeiParticipant 7965]

Ask a lawyer

I bathe in the tears of single moms.

[Symmetric MGTOWParticipant 570]

uchibenkei wrote:

Ask a lawyer

Will think about it. As it concerns to the state, our marriage is no more. She is just looking to complete some paperwork at the church so she can marry another guy for sure. There is probably no need for a lawyer in this case.

[Solo MAN’S WisdomParticipant]

Which church?? Catholic?? Protestant?? Snake handler?? Islam??

When women lead, destruction is the destination. -- Me.

[TaxGuyParticipant]

I probably don’t need to tell you this, but don’t stand in her way if she wants to remarry. That guy is your best friend. There’s nothing better than an ex who has moved on. Hold the door for them and wish them well.

Order the good wine

[MonkParticipant 16995]

It’s her problem. Not yours.

Make no reply.

[The Manipulated ManParticipant 1856]

Hello SM,

You have been reticent about who you are and what you do.

In the forums, you only wrote that you are a “Grad Student.”

Are you in the STEM fields or Women’s Studies?

It is Pusillanimous to hide those thing we do in life, especially those activities that separate us from women.

Since you signed up to MGTOW.com, you have NOT posted an Introduction.

Sadly, your lack of Boldness is limiting how we can respond to your Post.

For example, you have not answered the following questions:

How will this “spiritual” Divorce affect YOUR life and personal friendships now?

How much physical and emotional distance is between you and your EX?

Is she still living in your community?

Why is church important to you?

That being said, this is an interesting Post with respectable feedback.

Your suspicions are justified and your request for advice is wise.

I have personally experienced the “Scorched Earth” behavior of women which is pure evil. Modern women and their allies consistently engage in character assassination, false accusations, and schadenfreude.

Women have trained us to be hyper suspicious of every move they make. For men who have woken up to Women’s Nature the hard way, it is a knee jerk reaction.
MGTOW.com is a testimony to this and it has numerous examples of why we should master our impulses and why we need to go our own way.
The liability is too great to let our guard down.

Anyway, there may be a silver lining in your situation and I agree with all of the feedback so far.

I am ashamed to admit that I felt a great weight removed when my EX remarried. Even though I had a decade of Child Support in front of me, psychologically, she became someone else’s problem.

If you are religious, it would be good to have a “Spiritual” clean break.

To get more thorough feedback to your situation, provide more information, without Doxing, about the type of church you and your Ex are involved with.

If you are Christian in the USA, there is a lot of variety regarding “spiritual” divorce.

Christians like the Amish or Catholics, have a lifetime “spiritual” marriage: “Until Death do you part.”
To get a “spiritual” divorce with the Catholics you must prove that something was wrong before you entered into marriage.

Also, large churches like Southern Baptist, have some variety and flexibility, depending where the church is located.

What happens when a man finally comprehends the cold and calculating thoughts that are going through a woman's mind, while her eyes are brimming with tears?

[Silver FoxParticipant 2766]

So she is “re-marrying through the church.” Just another mark of what Christian churches (I assume that’s where she’s at?) are in America now. For the most part, a big spiritual garbage dump.

I agree with Carnage. As long as there are no legal ramifications for you, let them enjoy themselves… while they can. Their final destination will be horrific beyond their imagination.

"Are you loosed from a wife? Do not seek a wife." --Apostle Paul

[MuglintarParticipant 1333]

Gimme a break, brother.
She ? The one that chose to disobey the commandment of marriage is asking for YOUR church records? How (mistyped “hoe” Freudian mistake I guess) about HER records?

"Him, who delights in solitude, is either a wild beast or a GOD!" - Aristotle (Aristot. Pol. 1.1253a) 1 Hom. Il. 9.63; the passage goes on: ἐστὶν ἐκεῖνος ι ὃς πολέμου ἔραται.

[Symmetric MGTOWParticipant 570]

Solo MAN’S Wisdom wrote:

Which church?? Catholic?? Protestant?? Snake handler?? Islam??

Our wedding was a civil wedding officiated by a priest, I suppose either catholic or christian in the USA. I don’t know anything else to be honest.

[Symmetric MGTOWParticipant 570]

TaxGuy wrote:

I probably don’t need to tell you this, but don’t stand in her way if she wants to remarry. That guy is your best friend. There’s nothing better than an ex who has moved on. Hold the door for them and wish them well.

This is exactly what I think.

That it may be good news for me that she’s even doing this. But it still does sound suspicious. I’m even tempted to consult a lawyer and ask for their perspective. But since the divorce had been finalized a few years ago, it seems believable that this is just “church” paperwork.

[MuglintarParticipant 1333]

Bro, “church” ain’t no good for nothing. But if another “idiot” ( we have both been down that road) wants to take his “chances” , wish him good luck and care about yourself. “Everyone is Smith of his own fortune” as we call it over here, meaning if he decides to be happy beimg her secon best choice, why stop him?

"Him, who delights in solitude, is either a wild beast or a GOD!" - Aristotle (Aristot. Pol. 1.1253a) 1 Hom. Il. 9.63; the passage goes on: ἐστὶν ἐκεῖνος ι ὃς πολέμου ἔραται.

[Symmetric MGTOWParticipant 570]

The Manipulated Man wrote:

Hello SM,
Anyway, there may be a silver lining in your situation and I agree with all of the feedback so far.
I am ashamed to admit that I felt a great weight removed when my EX remarried. Even though I had a decade of Child Support in front of me, psychologically, she became someone else’s problem.
If you are religious, it would be good to have a “Spiritual” clean break.
To get more thorough feedback to your situation, provide more information, without Doxing, about the type of church you and your Ex are involved with.
If you are Christian in the USA, there is a lot of variety regarding “spiritual” divorce.
Christians like the Amish or Catholics, have a lifetime “spiritual” marriage: “Until Death do you part.”To get a “spiritual” divorce with the Catholics you must prove that something was wrong before you entered into marriage.
Also, large churches like Southern Baptist, have some variety and flexibility, depending where the church is located.

Take a chill-pill, bro.

You should guard your privacy like a bulldog, and so do I. I already provided some additional information. Also, I appreciate your input, and I really wonder what could be behind the petition. She can marry through the state with whoever she desires to do so, and it’s not like she was a religious person ever to begin with. She’s as secular as it gets, and that’s why I find this to be suspicious. So I may just decide to do nothing, after all.

It’s been a strange day.

[MuglintarParticipant 1333]

At end of all days, I think, either you are attractive to your partner or you ain’t. And there is nothing to blame a woman for not bring attracted to you. Well so be It.
But no woman ever (or man)has the right to judge me.

"Him, who delights in solitude, is either a wild beast or a GOD!" - Aristotle (Aristot. Pol. 1.1253a) 1 Hom. Il. 9.63; the passage goes on: ἐστὶν ἐκεῖνος ι ὃς πολέμου ἔραται.

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