PTSD wrt Relations~~~s

[Krab_AssParticipant 267]

Greetings!  I want to discuss PTSD -but not the kind GIs face, this kind is after the mental mind-f~~~ you get.  Possibly a bat-s~~~ crazy broad that tried to f~~~ you up – THAT kind of PTSD.

Have a MANLY day!

 

"I care not what others think of what I do, but I care very much about what I think of what I do! That is character!"
~ Theodore Roosevelt

[Soul ManParticipant 1856]

Yeah that…..hmmmm…..it lead me to some very dark thoughts at one time after the 1st Mrs. became the ex c~~~.  My thoughts at the time involved power tools with sharp edges…..enough said.

HISTORY...learn from it, memorize it, DON'T repeat it...

[Anonymous 42]

@SoulMan, you better duck down, there’s fembullets fiyin, Clamorter Attack! That 205 shinny star might be droppin!

[Krab_AssParticipant 267]

Yeah – sorry guys.  This was probably a poor choice on my part.  It IS a VERY sensitive topic.  I just thought it my be cathartic to talk about them.

(shudder, gasp) – Christ!  I sound like a WOMAN!!  I best be gettin’ to the doc and get some testosterone pills post-haste.

 

"I care not what others think of what I do, but I care very much about what I think of what I do! That is character!"
~ Theodore Roosevelt

[Soul ManParticipant 1856]

@MG-Tower

Yeah, what’s up with that?  I’ve been out of town the past week+ and haven’t been on much.  Now I’m back and seeing upstanding members such as yourself down-voted.  WTF?  Well ultimately I could care less if anyone dislikes my opinions.  I don’t give a f~~~.  I paid a steep price to have my opinions.  I doubt anyone who dislikes my opinions could hack the s~~~ I’ve been through.  I’m not here for a popularity contest.

@unencumbered

Hey we are ultimately human beings and we are not exempt from feeling things both positive and negative.  Don’t let anyone try to tell you that your feelings are invalid.  If they are real to you then they are valid.  Same goes for any brother here.  Don’t buy in to the shaming bulls~~~.  If you feel it, own it!

HISTORY...learn from it, memorize it, DON'T repeat it...

[Anonymous 42]

@SoulMan, Let me check,,, no, not here,,,,,no, not there,,,,wait, let me look under here, no not there,,, I can’t find any feelings; someone toss me a cat! CRUNCH CRUNCH CRUNCH,,, Ahhh there they are! My feelings! Exactly!

[StargazerParticipant 12505]

I think it’s safe to say that the end of a relationship can be a traumatic experience for a man, particularly if there was infidelity or dishonesty that was dramatically revealed in the end. Yes, men have feelings too… we desire justice, fairness and honesty and we react negatively when those things are suddenly stripped away from us.

Now I can’t say I’ve ever experienced anything on the level of shell shock (I refuse to use the phrase post-traumatic stress disorder… it’s f~~~ing shell shock) but I have felt savaged by a betrayal and, as a result, both angered to the point of wanting revenge while also becoming afraid and over-protective against the possibility of it happening again.

Let’s call this condition “She’ll Shock”… the state of mind created by being used, abused or betrayed by a female that makes it difficult for a man to trust other females. I am definitely experiencing this state of mind at this very minute and it colors how I interact with all females.

Is it stressful or painful? Not so much. Is it detrimental to my effectively functioning on a day to day basis? Not particularly. Has it diminished my ability to be in a “normal” relationship? You bet your sweet ass it has. But the question is “Is that such a bad thing?”

She’ll Shock, like its military counterpart, is not a failure of the human psyche to adequately process a normal situation, it is a defense mechanism that tells us to stay the f~~~ away from the battlefield for the preservation of our own minds and bodies. The only way it becomes problematic is if there’s someone constantly trying to slap a helmet on your head and a gun in your hand and push you back out into the dirt, smoke and noise.

If I went on OKCupid or to a family wedding today, I do believe I would be traumatized and either want to speak out negatively against what I was seeing or run away from it… so I simply avoid the battleground and I’m just fine.

In any case, it’s not really fair to compare the emotional devastation that relationships can induce with that of combat. Very few of us have seen friends and comrades blown to bits on a bad date… it’s happened, to be sure, but it’s rare. So for romance, at least, it’s possible to simply stay away from future conflict and lead a perfectly functional life. I’m not so sure it’s all that easy for men who have experienced shell shock, say, to sit through a 4th of July Fireworks event as it is for me to sit through a chick flick or to watch a battered husband get pushed around in a grocery store. Those things infuriate me, but I have the luxury of checking out whereas that veteran probably doesn’t.

[Krab_AssParticipant 267]

@docfenderson – Ok – ‘shell shock’ it is then.   Not being trained in the field of psychiatry, I lack the ability to properly categorize things in that arena.   If anyone wants to discuss electronics / engineering – well then… I am your huckleberry.

But – yeah doc, I relate.  When I see couples in public (man and woman couples) I definitely have a different ‘view’ now.  The folks / comments /sharing on this website have kind of allowed me to start putting the puzzle pieces together.  My suspicions about most women are being confirmed (about their true intentions) and the vague gnawing feeling about ‘something not quite square with her’ are being brought to the fore and exposed for what they are.

I don’t want to believe that ALL women are deceitful, lying, manipulative, crazy, self-centered, egotistical, misandrists (sp?) – but I am having a hard time finding one example that debunks this belief.   Very sad, very sad indeed.

 

"I care not what others think of what I do, but I care very much about what I think of what I do! That is character!"
~ Theodore Roosevelt

[Anonymous 42]

I hate to admit it<unencumbered> I had a vision (more like a feeling) decades ago, of all the women in the world, I knew I was alone without a match. Not in a lonely or sad way, rather a logical and factual way, I just somehow knew. Somethings you just know…. I can’t understand how, I just knew…

[Krab_AssParticipant 267]

@MG-Tower:  you know…. I am just entering that realm.   You are light years ahead of me as far as clarity or reaching an epiphany, but I totally understand what you are saying.   For me to fall for a woman, she will probably be:  plain or average looking (like me), good with money, a nerd and be content with little.   Holy crud!!  I just described myself (that is a little creepy).   Well – that is revealing…   Anyhoo… I will never find this woman because even with all that – I will NEVER hand my heart over to someone again!  I am too old and set in my ways to go through the bulls~~~ again.

 

"I care not what others think of what I do, but I care very much about what I think of what I do! That is character!"
~ Theodore Roosevelt

[Krab_AssParticipant 267]

@MG-Tower:  I just want to point out that I am NOT a narcissist, even though my previous post above implies the opposite.  Yes… I LIKE myself, but, frankly, I perform plenty of self-deprecation and self-evaluation (continually) with only slightly above average marks to boot.

"I care not what others think of what I do, but I care very much about what I think of what I do! That is character!"
~ Theodore Roosevelt

[peterfaParticipant 833]

I got that after a run in with a girl who liked psychopaths who rape and murder. I didn’t know that right away just how crazy she was. She slowly revealed it more and more. After a while I started to realize that she was treating me poorly. I started to stand up to her. That caused our friendship to fall apart until she called me up crying and saying that she’s lonely and nobody wants to talk to her. She asked me to come over and consul her (it was at night).

I did but then I realized something…

As I arrived her ex boyfriend who was sprung from jail was there and he wanted to talk to me about how she’s scared of me and I was stalking her. When I challenged him he called me a madman. Then he tried to intimidate me (he was short, ugly, and sick). He asked me if I was scared and I said no. Long story short he stopped fighting me because he knew I was going to tear him apart. I’m a nice guy so I let him go.

My PTSD wasn’t that bad and did go away after a while. It was my first serious lesson in life that some people are just evil. They truly are just evil.

[Krab_AssParticipant 267]

@pascal in Pastels – yes, I agree with your comment that some people are evil to the core.   Women (as well as men) like to intimate and get off when they can assert their dominance.  There are alpha males out there but there are plenty more alpha-females (or whatever we are supposed to call ’em)…

"I care not what others think of what I do, but I care very much about what I think of what I do! That is character!"
~ Theodore Roosevelt

[Sky-OParticipant 18951]

When or if a guy recovering from a relationship with an estrogen based sociopath suffers symptoms of PTSD, it is usually the result of a myriad of factors that he endured throughout the relationship that had severe and long lasting effects on him both psychologically and emotionally.

That is the end result of having lived in close proximity, shared sexual experiences and opening up your soul to something that is evil. Expecting human empathy and compassion but instead being treated by the source of your love like you are an object. And ultimately being discarded like your were nothing to begin with.

It would be normal for a man to suffer some symptoms of PTSD after a relationship like that and it can take years to recover from the chaos and reality altering effects of:

Infidelity

Pathological lying

General all purpose mind-fcking

Being used

Catering the needs of a narcissistic and sociopathic freak with a vagina

Close proximity to a vaginal life form that lacks a working relationship with reality, twists and alters history to suit her temporary needs and views the man she is with as serving a utility purpose (socio economic, financial, etc) while constantly keeping her options open for a better deal.

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That is why I always recommend to guys that I know are immersed in such a situation: get out quickly, do not try to change her (it won’t work) – her behavior will only get worse with time and salvage what is left of your life (psychologically, emotionally and financially) while there is still time.

Relationships with modern day women like what I described above are like cancer. Do not try to rationalize or reason with cancer. It does not care, it will not listen and it will continue growing. And do not analyze the situation or her past a certain point before extracting. Basically, once the signs are present: do not put the cancerous tumor under a microscope everyday hoping that it will magically become benign. It will not.

 

 

 

 

[TheHelper15Participant 0]

POTS doesn’t even cover the amount of negative feelings I have towards women… Most of the women I’ve known of through out my life have DESTROYED the positive feelings that were supposed to be there and killed the person who I was supposed to be.

[– Deleted on Request –Spectator 936]

TheHelper:

 

Nearly 30 years ago, I was a member of a social group in which single women were the majority.  Never did I ever encounter such a condescending and stuck-up attitude until I met them.  They so put me off socializing that I never bothered making many friends after that.

 

[Krab_AssParticipant 267]

@thehelper15 – whoa, that sounds pretty harsh.  Hope the guys / comments / misdom (man wisdom) on this website helps you.  We are here to help.

"I care not what others think of what I do, but I care very much about what I think of what I do! That is character!"
~ Theodore Roosevelt

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