Psychological abuse as domestic violence

[JollyMisanthropeParticipant 3356]

It seems that the feminists love to focus simply on physical abuse when it comes to domestic violence but they don’t seem to spend much time on the effects of psychological abuse , especially when perpetrated by females. To me this can be just as debilitating and even more heinous because it doesn’t leave any physical marks and there is no real legal avenue if the woman is constantly berating her husband and beating him down mentally and emotionally. Not only that but you have to also take into account the way that it affects children. What kind of message is a young boy getting when he sees a woman domineering over his father, his male role model, who has become a broken man and doesn’t bother to fight back anymore? He may very well grow up to hate his mother and women in general. What kind of lesson is a young girl getting from this? That men are just supposed to do what women tell them and not put up any kind of resistance? That men are only good for doing what a woman asks? It can create a sense of entitlement, or possibly create a hatred towards the mother since daughters tend to have a unique emotional connection with their fathers. This can lead to all sorts of problems in the future. These kids grow up and get into relationships where this learned behavior may creep up and create yet more dysfunctional relationships.

Of course the most ironic thing is that feminists berate and attack men psychologically on a daily basis. But they always do it from a perceived victim’s POV so they always feel justified. And this is one of the many reasons they cannot be reasoned with on any level.

The Children of Doom... Doom's Children. They told my lord the way to the Mountain of Power. They told him to throw down his sword and return to the Earth... Ha! Time enough for the Earth in the grave.

[YohanParticipant 12]

I dated a girl for a few months and every time the slightest thing went wrong she started crying and talking about suicide. I was 16 at the time. I didn’t know any better. All I knew was that I “loved” this girl and if anything happened to her I would be devastated. So I sacrificed my time and sanity and everything else I had to try to make her happy, and all for what? She lived a city away. I never saw her. in 4 months I saw her twice, but again, I was young and “in love”. I rode my bike for 3 hours strait to her town to see her and when I got there, I tried to give her a hug and she pushed me away because I was “too sweaty and gross”. Then after 5 minutes of seeing her I had to leave.

Needless to say, I was down right p~~~ed. My calves burned. My time was wasted. I blew off a family get-together for HER. And for nothing! But when I went to dump her sorry ass she pulled the suicide card. And it wasn’t just with our fights. Someone picked on her at school. The logical solution was death. Her dad was p~~~ed that she snuck out of the house. Better go hang myself?! I was trapped by the thought that if I left her and she killed herself, that it was my fault. I didn’t know what do to. Over the course of a few months I couldn’t sleep, I couldn’t eat. I spent most nights crying because I had no other way to vent what i was feeling. Eventually, during a phone call she let it slip that she had picked up smoking again (breaking a promise to quit that she made when we started dating). I confronted her about it and her response was “Well if you cant handle my addictions then you cant handle me.”

So I smiled and said “Ok Courtney. Bye” And I hung up. She flipped her s~~~ and started on her usual suicidal ranting to which I said “You’ve been saying you were gonna kill yourself for months now. If that’s what you want. F~~~in do it.”

That was the best day of my whole Freshman year. I was free. Emotionally, mentally. It was magnificent. She called me a week later to apologize for acting so crazy and beg me to come back to her. I blocked her number.

[Rock St.EddieParticipant 129]

Chaos, I would give that 10 thumbs up if I could. You should know I clicked my mouse extra hard though.

[Rock St.EddieParticipant 129]

@yohan The suicide “card” is all it is. Well played. As keymaster said, Women play poker like they are holding a full house, but when you call them out to show their hand, they are holding a pair of threes at best. Any girl threatens self harm and you tell her you don’t date self-loathing women.

“Courtney”. That name is synonymous with crazy. Not just saying that to be funny.

[JollyMisanthropeParticipant 3356]

Women who threaten to harm themselves or commit suicide if you leave them most likely have borderline personality disorder. They are insane and should be avoided at all costs. You can look up some of the symptoms and behavior that people with this mental problem have.

The Children of Doom... Doom's Children. They told my lord the way to the Mountain of Power. They told him to throw down his sword and return to the Earth... Ha! Time enough for the Earth in the grave.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

True that! Chaos. Leykis did a piece on “living alone”. It’s harsh but excellent. He talks about how when he’s in a relationship, he is “always wrong”. Cooking with the wrong pan. Eating with the wrong spoon. Drying his hands with wrong towel. (etc) This sort of thing wears a man’s patience down to nothing. And when he’s not attached to some bitch, he’s always right.

I reflected on family visits and I pointed it out to my immediate sibs. For some reason, in only ONE city in the world (my home town), I’m always WRONG. Eat too fast. Drive too slow. Put the soap in the dish wrong. Listen to music too loud. Sleep too late. Stay up too late. Should have done this. Should have done that. Bought the wrong gift (my all-time favorite). Wore the wrong shoes. Should have shaved. Should have cut my hair. Should not have said this. Should have said that.

One day a man wakes up and he Can’t. Take it. Any. More.
He’s done. One more criticism, and he’s gonna snap.
It’s chinese water torture.

Are you familiar with that? A form of torture where they strap you down or bury you up to your chin and every few seconds a drop of water falls on your forehead. Drip. Drip. Drip. While you’re baking in the sun. It induces madness. You go completely out of your mind in the most simple way. There’s no physical “pain”. But that’s exactly what it’s like. Chinese water torture.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[HammerdownParticipant 528]

“Bought the wrong gift”. That’s rich. I’d like to hear that story some day.

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