Protecting yourself from Fake domestic violence charges

[VanXingParticipant 98]

My wife has filed for divorce and she is a very angry person. She has not talked to me in almost 4 month even though we live in the same house speaking only through her parents. I am fearful that she will fake a domestic violence incident to kick me out of the house I’m paying for.

What are the ways to protect yourself from fake order of protection?

I’ve heard about installing camera system in the house.

Have anyone gone to the local police department and tell them that “I’m going through a divorce and my wife has threatened to create a restraining order to get me out of my house. I want to put this on the record in case she follows thru with her threat.”

Does this actually work?

[Faust For ScienceParticipant 22521]

The only leverage you have is how hard you can make this divorce for her.

Make it clear that if she does not accuse you of anything, you will make the divorce easy. If not, you will burn everything you have on attorney fees, and make it impossible for her to get even a penny from you.

You will likely not win, but you can drag this divorce out for years, and make it a pyrrhic victory for her.

[RoyDalParticipant]

I assume you have a lawyer? What does he recommend?

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[experiencedParticipant]

She’s angry because she has “started” f~~~ing someone else IMO.

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[RusskyParticipant 13503]

wait till she has someone in tow – she’ll be much easier on you during the divorce.
if she doesn’t have anyone – she’ll be bitter and vindictive

proud carrier of the 'why?' chromosome

[uchibenkeiParticipant 7965]

body cam

I bathe in the tears of single moms.

[AttonParticipant]

Record and log everything and spend as little time with her as possible. Anywhere you go make sure you are seen and noticed.

A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

[CPilotParticipant 79]

Every single interaction needs to be recorded, even if most you delete. With ex2 I made sure my cell phone was with me at all times-had to-and every single conversation started with me getting my cell phone out and asking if she consented to being recorded. Her annoyance was the indication it was working and in the extreme it kept the nutter at bay.

The only, and I mean only, thing that saved me from a domestic violence charge after she fell and f~~~ed up her face and was in the ER, was pictures I had taken of the cases of beer cans all over the house-literally all over the f~~~ing place. Cases stuffed under her 6 year olds bed (alcoholics love to “hide” s~~~), in closets, behind doors, under both bathroom vanities…and the fact she still had alcohol in her. The police response? “Classic alcoholic”…and they let me go.

I ended up getting kicked out of that house I was paying for-after living in a locked garage on an army cot. It was hard financially after that.

You may have to eat paying for two places. In the long run it is much better than the alternative. Better to get it over with.

Protect yourself brother.

A man that stops caring is a big deal.

[VanXingParticipant 98]

They Lawyer recommended going to the police station and let them know that she might file a fake restraining order. Was about to do that until she told me this morning she’s moving out in two days with her parents, the nanny and our 17 month old girl.

[VanXingParticipant 98]

They Lawyer recommended going to the police station and let them know that she might file a fake restraining order. Was about to do that until she told me this morning she’s moving out in two da with her parents, the nanny and our 17 month old girl.

[CPilotParticipant 79]

Mine did the same. The police couldn’t be bothered by me-they had “more important” things to do.

A man that stops caring is a big deal.

[MemberParticipant 323]

It’s still hard for me to accept after all this time that guys have to even think about stuff like this.

If someone had told me when I was younger that later in life I would have to worry about stuff like this I would think they were crazy.

[the roadParticipant 3125]

I was going to say that you should stay somewhere else as much as possible and limit contact until everything is finished. All contact should be recorded by a body cam and then stored safely elsewhere.

Listen to your lawyer though. Perhaps you should make a police report anyway?

#MANOUT

[Anonymous 42]

Two days? She’s gone? That’s great! Your divorce will be allot smoother if you’re separated. You can’t fight over anything when you’re not together. Just play it cool, bide your time, it will all be over, then you’re free!

The only threat I can receive for domestic violence is when my dogs growl at me, but I’m much bigger than them, so they growl all they want!

[Northern SoulParticipant 186]

This is a fairly simply one. Don’t hang about and wait for the fake charge. Get your personal belongings (makes sure you have witness present) and move out NOW. Seriously you must do it. I am living this experience now so the sooner you get your act together it will save you so much pain and money further down the line – trust me – I wish someone had given me this advice. The greatest leverage she will have to use against you in the divorce will be a fake domestic charge so don’t give her that opportunity. Remember though – when you pack your personal belongings make sure a witness (preferably independent) is present as she is bound to flip. My situation below – you want to avoid this. So take the initiative – rely as much as you can on family and friends to help you in the short term- best of luck.

My ex kicked me out of the house for not giving her a second child. I then returned a week later to enter the house we co-own to pick up personal belongings and she refused me entry. She then promptly filed an injunction against me based on totally false allegations of threatening and abusive behaviour in order to gain full occupancy and remove me from the property. I spent 5k on court hearings defending myself against it and the injunction was dropped but I still had to give an undertaking not to return to the property. I had my property rights removed on the stroke of pen based on completely false allegations. I am now trying to get access to my 3 year old son and even though the injunction was dismissed it has put enough doubt in everyone’s mind so I am now considered a risk to my son. I therefore have to spend another 10k going through the courts, to prove I am not aggressive or abusive, take a liver test and get character references to prove I am not a raging alcoholic, demonstrate that my supposed behaviour has not caused anxiety for my son etc etc. This is just some of the nonsense she has made up but it is costing me and all the while I miss out on my sons development. The only thing you can do protect yourself against fake domestic violence charges, is not marry or co-habit with ANY women. I wouldn’t advise recording anything. Courts generally take a dim view and it often then opens up more questions and litigation.

Sadly this kind of behaviour is increasing in the U.K. 2 years ago legal aid was stopped for divorces unless you were a victim of DV so it comes as no surprise that in the last 2 years there has been a 27% increase in injunctions made against men, meaning more and more are becoming estranged from their children.

I am now homeless (sofa surfing) and fighting to see my son. I managed to retrieve a few belongings but my ex-wife has everything (including the house) and I have no means of getting any of it other than through the courts. Oh and she now won’t sign the divorce papers which prevents the courts making a financial settlement so I am unable to get accommodation.

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