If you prize giving away your sovreignty and your authority over your own life, get married.
If you prize being treated like a child, being mistreated and misled and having to participate in emotional games, get married. The second you see through those games and that behaviour and put your foot down because you don’t want to play anymore, you’ve already lost. You lost the moment you accepted that behaviour as being OK in the first place. If you realised it wasn’t, congratulations; you’re probably far away from getting s~~~ upon right now.
If you prize giving away all your time and money for someone else, start a relationship. If you see this giving away of time and money as being dutiful and chivalrous, you are a fool because you’ll never see a return on your investment. A woman will never return your sense of duty. Ask yourself this: you’ve earned your time to yourself and it’s paid off in full; you may have found some measure of success and happiness. How much has the time you’ve given to other people paid off, and will it pay off in the future? Choose wisely; time’s a limited option. Don’t waste it on some c~~~ who doesn’t appreciate your time as much as you do.
A relationship is meant to benefit your life. So far, looking at the men I know, they have all had to sacrifice something of themselves in detriment to maintain one. They are just not the same; they are almost like shadows of their former selves and of achieving their full potential. Even before they were in a position to be drawn, quartered and destroyed, when they could have made a choice to cut and run, they still chose to stay and give these things away for free. Only later down the track did they realise they’d made a huge mistake and all that giving had accrued a price. I honestly don’t believe it’s possible for a man to perfectly maintain the core, critical essence of himself whilst being in a relationship. Know this early, know this in pre-cognition. Learn it and learn it well. A sacrifice is required and only ever on your part.
If you are married and your mates go out for drinks, camping, whatever and you can’t go because you’re in fear of upsetting someone else; *if someone else has told you that you can’t do something and you’ve acquiesced to their request*, know that someone holding that sort of power over you is plain wrong. It is disgusting and wrong and you have been forced to put up with it. Know that as much as you argue against your own logic and tell yourself it’s for the greater good, or that you are being a good partner and fulfilling a foolish sense of duty by doing so, your logic is going to rebel and it will always be tinged with a sense of envy, longing and regret. Your mates, on the other hand…their logic and thoughts are going to be clear and free. They are enjoying their time and making the most of it. They are never going to wish they were anywhere else but where they are at that point in time.
If you prize losing arguments despite holding the much better hand of logic and fairness, get married. You are required to throw winning hands away all the time in fear of losing cash, prizes and possibly (more importantly), time with your children. You will always have to concede the correct answer in favour of one that is emotional, impossible and most often, simply incorrect. Know that you will have to live with this knowledge and it will drive you bats~~~ crazy.
If you’ve been through all this s~~~ and came out relatively unscathed on the other side, and think you can chance it again…know that you are a stupid, stupid fool. If you prize your sense of self-respect and worth, your pride, your freedom…don’t be a dumb f~~~ and gamble it away on an inevitable loss. The house always wins. Shun the game.
Society: I refuse your stick and carrot. If you try to beat or shame me you'd better take me down first time. If I want smoke blown up my ass I'll buy a cigar and a length of hose.
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