Post your single greatest cautionary example

[Omega 3 Snake OilParticipant 29]

Could be your own marriage, or someone you know, or someone you’ve just heard about. Please pick the one that more succinctly sums up marriage and its real value to men.

Here’s mine:

A couple years ago I was in a friend’s wedding party, a destination wedding in the Carribean. Cost way more than it should have for June, I guess the couple got a free trip out of it. We were shopping for our wedding outfits, and since it was a beach wedding the groomsmen wore Hawaiian shirts with khakis. We were at a department store, me and the other two groomsmen and the couple. She kept talking about she just wanted us to be comfortable, then instantly went to the most expensive rack. I balked at the price tag and asked if she really had her heart set. She said, “well I have expensive tastes.” I balked again and looked at my friend the groom, who just shrugged as if to say, whaddaya want from me. I paid $175 + tax for a shirt I wore once, nevermind the other costs of the wedding.

Last year,  after not having seen each other or spoken in over a year, me and my friend got together for drinks. I’ve heard from others that my friend’s wife had been bleeding him dry, and that he’d gone to his parents for large sums of money to cover their credit card bills. My friend talked about his marriage as if everything was fine, said they were planning on moving to the country.

A month or two later, I saw my friend’s wife on Tinder. Then I heard they were separated but still living together, then I heard they were getting a divorce.

There are other reasons for me having lost touch with my friend, like him not being there for me in general, but this story kind of sums up what I think of him and what I think of marriage in today’s society.

[WolfParticipant 890]

Omega 3 Snake Oil wrote:

I balked at the price tag and asked if she really had her heart set. She said, “well I have expensive tastes.”

That sums up all women. I know women who will spend their entire pay cheque on one pair of shoes, and complain about not having any money.

[FermatParticipant 3478]

Ex-gf overvalued her sexual market value, and tried to convince me she was a sincere human being when in actuality she was self righteous, overly, and vindictive. For 2 years she displayed ungrateful behavior and made sexual acts seem like a chore. Spent four months in Europe studying in Italy, got her multiple gifts from France, not cheap, she hated them all and did not express a grateful attitude. Pretended to be low maintenance, but everyone knows women pretend to be low maintenance as to not intimidate their men. Sexual acts were treated as favors and she would make excuses for not wanting to try new things sexually. Women seem to believe that sexting and talking romantically and dirty qualifies as an active sex life, when really it does nothing but boost their egos and fictitious sexual self image. Being nice and sincere were not a natural gestures she would make to me, rather she saw them as favors she was doing. She hated my parents, hated my siblings, and justified this all by her ability to “read people better than me.” I’m not a confrontational person and she constantly complained that I didn’t “defend her enough”. She wanted me to be more “thug like” without being a thug. As an African male, this projection of “alpha male power” on me by her was absolute nonsense.

My experience has taught me that women do not let go of anything because too busy trying to protect their own feelings to ever properly forgive anyone or let go of grudges. They will lie and lie and lie about “getting over it” but any rational male knows this contradicts the very laws of the biology. My ex had a nasty habit of dropping side comments and making “sarcastic” comments about anything and everything and would NOT stop holding grudges. Women cannot forget anything and will simply collect information about you and what you do to/with them, blend it all together in their minds, and await the opportunist time to relinquish their anger and frustration at a man at full force. It is a defense mechanism similar to that of a scorpions stinger or snake venom. What women lack in strength they make up for in social manipulation and thus, grudge holding is second nature to them. Avoid their nonsense, gentleman.

I have discovered a truly remarkable list of reasons why women are not necessary for a happy life, but alas this margin is too small to contain it.

[Anonymous 18]

A woman I once knew (I’m too embarrassed to qualify her as an ex …) gets a call that her soon-to-be ex husband committed suicide last night while going through divorce. Was with the guy for 10 years. Has 2 kids with him. When I asked about what her reaction was receiving that call: “I was so angry.” (bye-bye child support and alimony)

That was a red pill overdose.

 

[RennieParticipant]

Doing data recovery on a t~~~’s computer, the remnants of a word document came up, it was a message to her boyfriend, with much shaming language, complaining about his “violent video games” and nagging. Fortunately that guy later managed to escape before she hooked him, the next guy that came along didn’t have a clue, he is now trapped in a marriage with this woman.

[EdogParticipant 254]

In the middle of an argument about stupid and irrelevant s~~~, I tell the female I’m arguing with that she’s being irrational and not making any sense. She responds by blurting out…”It doesn’t have to make sense, it’s just how I feel!!”. I was stunned and seriously taken aback. Not of what she said, but what my response should be. My instinctual and immediate reply ‘would’ be “that makes no sense!!” but she took it away by telling me that it doesn’t have to make any sense. So now what? It’s a lost cause at that point. Cut loose and run away is all that could be done.

Now, I want whoever is reading this to ponder that quote. She literally just dismissed herself from having to EVER explain herself. Furthermore, if we think on it, this actually means that her feelings are nonsensical since they don’t have any need of actually making sense, and she is justified in this based on her feelings. It’s a vicious circle the hamster spins in, and it’s got some serious endurance! To me, that’s every woman on the planet. They are almost all just like this.

Females are governed by their ego and emotions. Common sense, reason, and logic are not factors when they can dismiss all that based on their feelings. It’s toxic and it’s why I don’t go near them any more.

That quote of hers is still like nails on a chalkboard to me every time I think about it. What a f~~~ed up narcissistic way of thinking. That your actions don’t need to make any sense and are always justified based on personal emotion. Toxic!!!

[Anonymous 18]

Edog wrote:

”It doesn’t have to make sense, it’s just how I feel!!”

Is that Darwin turning over in his grave?

Women 1+’ed evolution.

[MonkeyKingEnma21Participant 156]

Mine is of my older brother.

He got a chick pregnant while she was supposed to be on the pill, then he had to support her throughout the hole pregnancy cause her parents hated him and didn’t want anything to do with her as long as she was with him. then as soon as the baby was born she ran to her parents and started cheating on him.

eventually they broke up then got back together had another child and now looking at marriage.

all of that made me think WTF is wrong with society when that can happen and be seen as okay?

P.S. she also is always using his kids as a weapon to control him, and when he does stuff she doesn’t like he never hears the end of it.

[ILiveAgainParticipant]

Any man that gets married in this day and age …. is doing nothing more than pulling his c~~~ off with a vice. Despite being told that this is definitely not a good thing.

Yet he will still do it ….. and deserves all the pain and agony it brings …. while his wife squeals and jumps with glee.

I know this for fact …… be cause I did it 😕

[RoyDalParticipant]

In college, I dated a young woman who thought it was a good idea to hit me. At the same time, my high school classmates were getting divorced in large numbers.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[GunslingerParticipant 242]

“NAWALT” that’s my cautionary tale, like so many others here…coincidence I think not. As soon as you hear that just run! I was told countless times how she would never complain about me liking or doing certain things, only to change the stance a few years later. Like video games. She was okay with them for the first few years, then said they were a wast of time and money. I start to play only late at nights, and not buying as many. A few years later she complains that I don’t do things more often that I like, and video games were what she brought up.

It doesn’t matter what they say, they will flip flop on stances. It doesn’t matter to them, it’s just about their feelings like Fermat71 said, it doesn’t have to be justified with any rational thought.

[whoopsParticipant 1]

The day she said “sometimes good enough, is good enough” In other words, she was “settling”. Mind you, I am/was

an attractive alpha type. Twenty years later, she can’t get over me and has spent the last year trying to hoover me back.

No thanks.

[VoidraitheParticipant 477]

Anonymous wrote:

When I asked about what her reaction was receiving that call: “I was so angry.” (bye-bye child support and alimony)

Well that’s cold, and reminds me of this:

I read an article recently that the FRO (Family Responsibility Office in Ontario Canada) was getting sued by the ex-wife of a man they helped cause his suicide. Quite possibly here on this site, I no longer remember.

The FRO filed to get the man drivers license revoked (within their power) because he lost his job and couldn’t pay. What was his job? Truck Driver, and because he had no license he COULDN’T get a job and he killed himself. His ex-wife suing the FRO claimed the suit was because “Now my children have no Father.” Nice lie. If you cared about him you wouldn’t have divorced. Also the license wouldn’t have been revoked if someone, presumably the ex-wife hadn’t reported him. You are upset that now you have to find a job or some other way to get money so you can sit around on your ass watching Opera and eating bon-bon’s.

[PhantomParticipant 3328]

When I realized she was hell bent and determined to make me even more insane than herself, to validate her being the “sane” one….the day I lost my mind is when I realized I had made it true. I knew I either would kill myself or I had to get away from her.

[Sessna12Participant 119]

Voidraithe wrote:

iLearn wrote:

When I asked about what her reaction was receiving that call: “I was so angry.” (bye-bye child support and alimony)

Well that’s cold, and reminds me of this: I read an article recently that the FRO (Family Responsibility Office in Ontario Canada) was getting sued by the ex-wife of a man they helped cause his suicide. Quite possibly here on this site, I no longer remember. The FRO filed to get the man drivers license revoked (within their power) because he lost his job and couldn’t pay. What was his job? Truck Driver, and because he had no license he COULDN’T get a job and he killed himself. His ex-wife suing the FRO claimed the suit was because “Now my children have no Father.” Nice lie. If you cared about him you wouldn’t have divorced. Also the license wouldn’t have been revoked if someone, presumably the ex-wife hadn’t reported him. You are upset that now you have to find a job or some other way to get money so you can sit around on your ass watching Opera and eating bon-bon’s.

 

 

THAT lady is COLD

"We can no more stop him from marrying than we can stop him from making a well researched decision to poke his eyes out with a stick."
-Sidecar

[BrainPilotParticipant 7640]

I knew a guy when I was growing up who managed a car wash in our town.  It wasn’t the most glamorous or high-paying job of course.  But, he worked hard, bought his home, paid down his mortgage and made some sound investments.  His main financial strength was the discipline to live within his means.  He was financially secure.

He met a girl.  They started dating.  She didn’t have any money or assets.  But he loved her, and he trusted her.  They got married, but without any prenup’.  The relationship went well and they were happy.  He was happy.

Then one day…

An Internal Revenue Service collection agent got in touch and notified him that his new wife of a year or so… had neglected to pay her taxes for 2 of the years that she operated her own business about 5-6 years previously (before he ever met her).  With fines, interest and penalties, what she owed by that time was enormous.  She still had no assets or income at that point.  But under our state’s community property laws, 50% of all the assets he had accumulated to that point were owned by her, and the IRS was seizing ‘her’ assets to settle her tax debt…

I don’t know what became of their marriage after that.  He never came around anymore.  But I remember over-hearing my dad talking about it to someone.  My dad shaking his head wondering if that guy could, or should stay married to her after something like that had happened to him.  The other person my dad was talking to pointed out that if he divorced her, he’d have to give her half of what was left (after the IRS had seized half of his original net worth).

The marriage and subsequent divorce (if he got divorced) would cost him a total of 75% of everything he’d worked for to that point in his life…

 

 

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[RusskyParticipant 13503]

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