Positive Divorce Story

[CodeBleuParticipant 161]

This may come as a shock to some but after 5 years of separation and having my son, who is just about to turn 15, living with me the whole time, the divorce is going through. She wants nothing other than for me to sign the paper. Her lawyer sent me a certified letter last week with her only demand being that I sign the divorce decree. My son stays with me, the family dog stays with me, she wants no money, she wants nothing other than for the divorce to be final. I can’t remember what the stats are for men who get to keep their kids, money and walk away scot free, but I’m overjoyed that I finally win. Guys, chalk this up as a victory for us men. Pennsylvania is one of the toughest states for father’s rights but I did it!

She gets nothing. She gets to put her tail between her legs…and being over 40 years old, her options for securing a high status man to re-marry are way down the toilet. She’s destitute, living in the projects…and if she was smart, she’d at least try to secure resources from me. There are no ulterior motives from her. Her lawyer made it clear in the letter that she wants nothing other than a divorce, PERIOD.

[Anonymous 24]

You should run out right now and buy a lotto ticket.

[CodeBleuParticipant 161]

JoeBauers…I beat the odds. Lightning rarely strikes twice in the same place. Although it doesn’t hurt to try to play the numbers.

[HitmanParticipant]

have you’re lawyer proof read it so you know it’s legit.
sign that f~~~er and go treat you and you’re kid to a nice meal out !
congrats !!!!

. Let it drag out long and hard.

You wear them down.

. Let it drag out long and hard.

You wear them down.

Mean while, just go live like she never existed.

yes indeed !
excellent advice .

[Anonymous 24]

CodeBleu wrote:

JoeBauers…I beat the odds. Lightning rarely strikes twice in the same place. Although it doesn’t hurt to try to play the numbers.

Yea, so true, I was just joking…

Really good to hear that some of us get out of the mess alive and well.

[Buller100Participant 2189]

Get it done, that’s a 1000/1 odds there, as has been said she may have met some Chad, who cares get out well done.

[CodeBleuParticipant 161]

Just as my mentor said. Let it drag out long and hard.

You wear them down.

Mean while, just go live like she never existed.

That’s exactly what I did. I just put my nose to the grindstone. Found a great job with tolerable hours that I can work while my son is in school. Since some of my co-workers and my boss are dealing with child support and alimony, any advice they gave me I took with a grain of salt. None of their tactics worked for them since they are/were paying through the nose. There was no way I was going to join the “Child Support Club”. Pennsylvania is a Mother F’er when it comes to a father’s advantage and not only did I want to maintain this new life, I wanted to figuratively stick both middle fingers up to the state and show them I can’t be arsed with their horses~~~, pro-mommy family laws.

I just forgot about that life with her and built a new one with my kid. He’s pretty awesome. A light-hearted teenage prankster, outdoorsy, becoming way popular in school…even though he doesn’t care about athletics. He’ll never wear a varsity jacket but he doesn’t need to at this point. He reminds me a lot of me at that age. We now live in the small town where my entire family grew up. Everyone knows us so we have our last name to keep respectable.

I know my ex-wife better than anyone. There was no way she could pull any dirty s~~~ in the 5 years we were separated. I just let it drag out, blocked any contact she could potentially make with me (email, phone, etc.). The only way she could interact was to show up at my house (only 3 miles away) but she never did. She stayed the hell away from us. The years built up, so it looks bad on her that she never made a real attempt to reconcile or make any contact with her son.

If the situation was reversed and I was the one who walked out, it would look so bad on me that I never made an attempt to be there. Not only would it be bad, it would be illegal. But women get a pass for walking away from their responsibility. Only this time, she’s walking away with nothing to show for it.

[Won'tGetFooledAgainParticipant 3293]

As has been already said, you have been very, very lucky.

My ex wife wanted back on the carousel at the age of 36 and she ended up keeping the house and has moved her new wallet in. Apparently I got off very lightly as I have to pay £500 a month in child support and she got her new wallet to give me 30% equity of the value of the house to buy me out. Nowhere near what I deserved as I paid the entire mortgage but worth it to be free of her.

So she works part time and is currently living in a 5 bedroom detached house while taking money off of me and her new wallet. Her car is coming up to 3 years old now and she took great delight in telling me how she is just going to trade it in for an new one.

Now tell me that divorce doesn’t pay for women. She has a house I could only dream of, works part time and a brand new car all because of her golden vagina.

For women, everything eventually boils down to Alpha Fucks, Beta Bucks.

[EyeswideopenParticipant 2930]

Congratulations are in order.

I was very lucky as well, but my situation did not involve kids and a short marriage of less than 2 years. I was heart broken when she left but my assets were all intact.

I envy that you have a son and custody. You truly made out like a bandit on that aspect as well. Would give my eye teeth for a child that I could raise and teach right from wrong to. Yet it’s not worth the risk in today’s society or having the possibly of having his mom take him/her away from me. I don’t think I could weather that.

- Marriage is described as an institution. You would have to be crazy to be commited to it. -"If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal. Not people or things" Albert Einstein

[Masculine_ManParticipant 2735]

I’ll tell you what was told to me. You got off light.

If it costs you your peace of mind, then it is too expensive.

[CodeBleuParticipant 161]

Masculine_Man wrote:

I’ll tell you what was told to me. You got off light.

I’m very aware of that. I just read Old Bill’s post about divorce in the 50 states and I gotta say I’m surprised that PA is a state that cuts off child support demands when the child turns 18 or graduates HS. My ex-wife has a son from a previous relationship…I know, hindsight, should have never went down that road, but most of us were blue-pill before going red.

Anyway, I met the ex when her first son was just 2 years old. So I was the one who put a roof over him, wanting a kid of my own at the time. He graduated in 2015 so I thought for sure the ex would make a move when the child support ceased last year. The gravy train for her first (and favorite) son stopped during our separation. It’s not out of the realm of possibility that she would make a move on me to secure resources once her oldest was out of the house and in college at WVU. Lo and behold, she never did. And yes, I do consider myself lucky.

Lucky to dodge a major bullet because the only thing she’d want was to continue the pussy payments, just because she has that power to do so.

I’m not saying I respect her for not going the obvious route. She has other reasons for not going after me. At this point I don’t care what those reasons are, she made it clear she wouldn’t fight me for custody or alimony. She would lose. Even though PA is a tough state when it comes to family laws, they understand when a parent relinquishes their rights, that’s it! The state can’t go the woman’s way if she chooses otherwise. I can’t help but gloat at her missteps. It does feel great to shoot the middle finger at PA because her wishes supersede their nonsense.

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