Polyamorous and P~~~ed

[StargazerParticipant 12505]

I have a young female aquaintance who is married to an older, and I presume blue-pill, protector provider with whom she claims to be in an open relationship.

When we first met, she explained her arrangement establishes that she and her man are free to have sex with anyone they want under the following conditions: they must ask/notify the other before engaging with someone, no other people can be in the bed they share and anal sex is not allowed (apparently you’ve got to keep something sacred, right?)

I met her for drinks last night and she told me this story:

“We’ve been in a poly relationship for five years now and I’ve had a lot of lovers but he hasn’t had any. It’s harder for men in this situation to find someone to play with but he’s been very good about letting me do whatever I want so long as I keep to the rules.”

(No s~~~… unless he’s super rich, no woman wants an old man who already has a leech attached to him. You’ve got him by the b~~~~ and if he wants to maintain sexual access to you, he’s got no choice but to pay your bills and let you f~~~ around.)

“Recently things have changed though. He found someone else to be with… this girl we both know who has three kids by two abusive boyfriends and who has been in and out of rehab and jail needed a place to stay so we agreed to take her in ‘for a few days’ and when she told him she needed some ‘human contact’ I agreed to let them be together. How could I not, really?”

(Exactly. How could you not? For five years you’ve taken every c~~~ that got within three meters of your body, safe in the assumption that you could do whatever you want and nobody could threaten your protection and provision but now there’s another woman who is younger and crazier than you living in your home. Go on…)

“On the day they planned to do it, I rushed home so I could see him before it happened. He said he was a bit sick and exhausted from work but he was going to do it anyway, even though he never wants to be with me when he’s not feeling well. They didn’t have anywhere else to go so I let them use our bed, just told him not to pull down the sheets, and I sat on the back porch while they had sex. When they were done and she went to sleep on the couch, I came back inside, sat in the bathtub and cried for two hours.”

(Of course you did. Apparently what is good for the goose is terrible for the gander. Now that he’s broken the seal and knows he can get other women, your position in the household is under threat. As a woman, you can simply go to some other dude’s house, f~~~ in his place, get the benefits of his time, effort and money, then skip back home all lovey dovey like it never happened. But when another girl enters your husband’s life, she’s going to be young and probably emotionally damaged and SHE is going to be the one going into his (your) house, getting the benefits of his time, effort and money… things that you feel should belong to you.)

She now claims that they have discussed the “flaws” in their arrangement and that their relationship is stronger now for having been tested. She’s still f~~~ing other guys as she pleases, but I am curious to know if the man is going to go back to his job as beta provider or if he is going to explore the reality of his so-called freedom with other women and create more anxiety for her.

This proves for me what I have always said… whenever two people claim to be in an open relationship, they either fundamentally do not care about each other or one of them is having to reluctantly accept the other one f~~~ing around in order to not lose them entirely.

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

This topic has come up before so I will repost one of TFM responses to an article about a woman who lost her man to her hypergamy / open marriage. The real thing here is SMV and who has the most. If it’s the woman she wants to monkey branch, and if its the man she wants to control his every move. I could put my 2 cents in, but TFM is much more articulate than me and cover this issue well.

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

[FermatParticipant 3478]

I don’t even allow myself to be friends with women, or people in general, like this. She sounds arrogant and full of herself, the kind of people Id rather not be around.

I have discovered a truly remarkable list of reasons why women are not necessary for a happy life, but alas this margin is too small to contain it.

[XSDBSParticipant 3598]

Stargazer wrote:

with whom she claims to be in an open relationship.

To a woman, EVERY relationship is an open relationship…

[HitmanParticipant]

Damn, f~~~ that! ..no . I would never allow some bitch to do that.
They deserve each other ..Both of them are assholes for participating in this sick situation.

[RorschachParticipant 2083]

S~~~ like this never goes well. These are the kind of things single people should do or people who are not in any relationship or marriage. I personally am far too red pill to get into serious relationships anymore. However if I was going to be I most certainly would not want my wife to be the town cum dumpster. What kind of f~~~tard agrees to this s~~~? It’s really sad to see the shear lack of respect some men have for themselves. And how about this broad? Oh she is gobbling up all the c~~~ she pleases and she has the nerve to sit around butthurt crying about the guy f~~~ing another chik? F~~~ a bunch of that. I think that guy is a f~~~ing idiot but if he’s putting these filthy sluts up and dealing with their nonsense she could knock off the crying bulls~~~ and deal with it. Better yet why not go right in there and f~~~ that freeloader with her husband? If you are going to be a sexual deviant then you had better own it, don’t try to pretend to be all hardcore then start crying when things aren’t going how you thought they would.

The accumulated filth of all their sex and murder will foam up about their waists and all the whores and politicians will look up and shout "save us!"....... and i'll look down and whisper "No."

[StargazerParticipant 12505]

XSDBS: You are so right.

Fermat: I can’t disagree with you either. At 48 and with hundreds of “relationships” under my belt, though, I am at the point in my life now where I experience women the way I experience deadly iocane poison… by taking them in small doses over a long period of time, I have essentially developed an immunity.

To be honest, the final one was something more akin to taking a deep sniff directly from the container, but yeah… essentially immune and therefore able to be entertained by them rather than endangered or infuriated.

The fun part here is that this woman is totally exhibiting all of the classic female traits without appearing to have any sense of self-awareness about them or the situation she’s put herself in. And she will act just as surprised when her loyal servant kicks her to the kerb for a younger, sluttier and more desperate version of herself… assuming she doesn’t trade him in before he gets the chance.

Nothing shocking, but another warning to the young men who think they’ve found a unicorn when they “catch” a hot young chick who claims to be into f~~~ing other girls and cool with sexually permissive relationships.

[Oz-BlokeParticipant 3233]

On the third date, a good friend’s potential Tinderella infomed him she was also dating a Chad who’d talked her into a polyamorous relationship. She would be one of Chad’s many ‘bits-on-the-side’ while Chad cohabitated in an ‘open relationship’ with his main squeeze.

My friend initially though it might be fun – sex with a polyamorous woman without her being too clingy or demanding because of the time demands of her job, f~~~ing Chad and riding the city’s c~~~ carousel. An occasional f~~~-buddy when she was available. That was UNTIL my mate discovered she was already having unprotected sex with Chad! Keen to bail on Tinderella, my mate asked her how she could ride the carousel without using condoms and did she know that AIDS takes three months to present on an STD test? Her reply was that it’s all OK and she was at peace with it because she is reading this book –
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That’s female logic for you. I would never endure the book, but its Wiki describes it thus –

“The Ethical Slut discusses how to live an active life with multiple concurrent sexual relationships in a fair and honest way. Discussion topics include how to deal with the practical difficulties and opportunities in finding and keeping partners, maintaining relationships with others, and strategies for personal growth.”

Yeah, well I guess genital warts is a form of personal ‘growth’. Go figure.
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#ManOut

[OldBillParticipant]

She’s been taking every c~~~ she can for five years but, when he finally gets one chance of some strange, she’s having second thoughts?

I would have called her a hypocritical c~~~ right to her face.

Do not date. Do not impregnate. Do not co-habitate. Above all, do not marry. Reclaim and never again surrender your personal sovereignty.

[Mr. SpockParticipant 10911]

Any man who agrees to this type of an arrangement has to be the biggest mangina cuck the world has known. It’s always for the benefit of the female.

Feminism isn't about equality with men, it's about leverage over men.

[Nathan R. JessepParticipant 1102]

Mr. Spock wrote:

Any man who agrees to this type of an arrangement has to be the biggest mangina cuck the world has known. It’s always for the benefit of the female.

This.

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

XSDBS wrote:

To a woman, EVERY relationship is an open relationship…

Which is why you don’t have relationships with them.

“What relationship?” is one of the most important things you can say to a woman.

[StargazerParticipant 12505]

Bumping this thread with an interesting update… I’m talking to a female colleague of mine this evening and she brings up the issue of polyamory.

“Let me tell you an interesting story about a friend of mine who was in a ‘polyamorous’ relationship.” I said to her, then related the story I told at the beginning of this thread.

“So she was all for it being an open relationship so long as she was the only one getting any benefit from the arrangement.”

“Where she went wrong was in not telling him that she could play but he couldn’t right from the start.”

“Hang on a moment… are you suggesting that a woman should be free to have sex with any guy she wants as often as she wants while insisting at the same time that her ‘partner’ is exclusive to her?”

“Yep, that’s what I did. And he agreed to it. He even brought me other people to play with.”

“No. That is not acceptable. Let me be direct with you. If you and I were sitting here on a date and you merely picked up your phone and took a call or started texting someone I would get up and walk out… and leave the bill for you to pay in full. Hell, I’d dump you for being s~~~ty to the waiter or the buss boy. For you to suggest you should be free to f~~~ around while your ‘partner’… a man you claim to love… has to stand by with his dick in his hand, is absurd. What you’re talking about isn’t polyamory… it isn’t any kind of ‘amory’. It’s pathos. If he was in any way a man, he would have told you he was being faithful while he f~~~ed around behind your back as much as humanly possible.”

This is all para-quoting, to be honest. I don’t remember exactly what I said because all I could hear was the ringing sound of my own blood pressure… but I’m pretty sure it was something along those lines. Or I might have just pointed and said “I hope you got AIDS!” or something.

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