POF Cautionary Tale

[Anonymous 8]

G’day from Australia.

I’m currently going through a nightmare due to meeting someone on Plenty of Fish. I thought I would share.

Some background … I was in a relationship for 15yrs to a single mum who had 2 kids. We now have 3 of our own. Usual story dynamic changed drastically once my biological first child was born. Long story short sex.. intimacy dwindled. I spent last 7 yrs on the couch or in kids rooms. We called it quits and I live onsite in my motor home to raise kids.

The following story takes place over 7 weeks. 2 of which there was no contact.

I’m enjoying being single, but obviously missed sex. So decided to try POF. Eventually met someone, was upfront not wanting heavy relationship ever again. She is 45, has own house and 2 kids is good friends with her ex and they hang out often. No problem she feels same. Anyways i resist having sex on 3 occasions and eventually do the deed wearing protection although she is very insistent we don’t need to as she is on birth control. Next time we have sex without but I don’t cum. A week in she starts questioning why I live onsite and refuse to bring anyone back to my motor home. Well I want things kept separate and don’t want to rub it in my exes face. Another week and I call time on it as she is getting too attached.

2 weeks later get a text saying chemistry was great and happy to just have what we have. So I go back and same thing happens after 2 weeks again. Mind you I’m only seeing her once a week. I came maybe 2 times. So after 3 weeks I call it off saying I can’t give her what she wants. I reactivate my pof cause I know she is monitoring it so I hope she will be done with me.

About 2 weeks go by and I see her at cafe with her ex. We ignore each other no problem. 3 days later she messages to tell me she is pregnant.

Currently I have given her 1500 to have procedure. But she keeps saying she has changed her mind. Her messages are bizarre almost taunting and don’t sound like someone under stress. She threatens to tell my ex her ex one minute then taunts me with being a daddy again and going to ultrasound. She is also claiming bank transfer didn’t clear however she has revealed my bank account name which eould mean it has cleared. Yet she maintains that lie it hasn’t. I dropped 500 cash in her letter box. I have maintained my stance that I will not be a dad again and that I will remain single. She then asked me to move in with her and bring my kids which to me has revealed her intent. I think she is used to guys tripping over themselves for her and I ain’t.

Regardless it’s very stressful. I feel 95% sure she is lying and she has not shown me any proof …which I’m sure she would have. I just can’t believe that a 45yr old woman with own house job car would do this. I’m thinking it’s just driving her I sane that I’m refusing to be her boyfriend. If I wanted to use her I would have kept it goi g for 6 more months. So her arguement of me being a user is unfounded.

I will never date again. And if I ever have sex it will b with a hooker. My main concern is that I need to stay where I am so I can raise my kids. Who wants someone to move in after only 5 weeks?? It’s crazy.

[743 roadmasterParticipant]

Spent 2k with out proof you knocked her up. Being she is also in an on going with her ex, and possibly other men.
Lesson get the surgical intervention or don’t leave home with out a box of gloves.

mgtow is its own worst enemy- https://www.campusreform.org/

[MonkParticipant 16975]

Anonymous wrote:

I feel 95% sure she is lying and she has not shown me any proof …which I’m sure she would have. I just can’t believe that a 45yr old woman with own house job car would do this.

It’s by no means unusual.

I will never date again.

Finally, you have learned.

Unfortunately, you will never be clear of this mess, so it’s now a question of making the best of it. The main thing to do is to get rid of this psycho and her pregnancy fantasies.

[Daryll55Participant 2950]

Good day

If you are 95% sure she is faking you; WHY are you dropping CASH on her??

Can’t you have a reasonable sane conversation with her over the matter? Sounds like she wants you BAD and she neeeds a slow withdrawl from your relationship w/her. (pardon the pun)

Marry again, Hell NO ! ( Even JESUS was hung on a cross just once)

[Anonymous 8]

It’s still hard to think straight when under duress. There is still a scared part of me so I was trying to take responsibility by paying for procedure. However have just received a reply from my last message I sent her holding firm to not being a dad and staying single.

Her response. How sad. I will get rid of it but want more cash. Your bank transfer didn’t clear.

Well my bank transfer must have cleared because she quizzed me on my accnt name. Only way she would have seen it is with the cleared funds her end.

I’m just shocked that this s~~~ goes on. Obviously f~~~ed her too good. Women can sense when your happy and confident. I see them looking when I walk through shopping centre out the corner of my eye. They can’t handle not controlling men.

Slow withdraw? We are talking 5 weeks of hang out one day a week. This is obsession in that short time. I.agine 12 months or more. So no way will I see her again… even if my dick gets hard just thinking about her.

[JakeParticipant 908]

just looking for my miniature violin I feel I need to play it now.

[Anonymous 8]

Hmmm ok. Thought this was suppose to be a supportive group. Maybe I was wrong.

[AutoliteParticipant]

Anonymous wrote:

Hmmm ok. Thought this was suppose to be a supportive group. Maybe I was wrong.

It just gets a little frustrating for us here sometimes. The MGTOW message is just “stay the phuck away from women”. Guys are most welcome to come and tell their story as a caution to others but you really shouldn’t expect very much sympathy if you continue to associate with women once you already know that it’s a horrible mistake…

[WallyParticipant]

This is a site sympathetic to men. This woman is more crazy than most, cut all contact with her, she roped you in with sex to try to make you her bankroll. You miss sex, but this woman made your stress levels shoot through the roof. Just make sure you double rap your pecker with the hookers, there are a lot of nasty STDs, although more than likely the hookers are cleaner than your blackmailer.

"what a waste of a life, to marry, give up your freedom, just for the hope of not dying alone. Don't get married Son."

[SandalsParticipant 4253]

Anonymous wrote:

Hmmm ok. Thought this was suppose to be a supportive group. Maybe I was wrong.

He means well. It’s tough love. Take a week to read through the forums. Your story is very common. It’s called hypergamy. You’re nothing but a wallet. All women are like that. That’s what AWALT stands for.

At least whores are honest about their profession.

As for your situation… you better skip town and disappear. Like… to Indonesia.

[SandalsParticipant 4253]

And then…

[AutoliteParticipant]

Sandals wrote:

He means well. It’s tough love. Take a week to read through the forums. Your story is very common.

Maybe Anonymous needs a ‘refresher’ on the nature of women. Here’s an oldie but goodie. It’s the ‘Dave Foley Divorce’ Joe Rogan broadcast…

[MonkParticipant 16975]

Anonymous wrote:

Hmmm ok. Thought this was suppose to be a supportive group. Maybe I was wrong.

It is, which is why you will get told the truth, no matter how it painful that may be.

[Won'tGetFooledAgainParticipant 3293]

It is scary the amount of women on POF who don’t even expect you to wear a condom while having sex with them. After my divorce I was still blue pill and just assumed no late 30s/early 40s woman would want to get pregnant so just assumed they were all on the pill.

Ended up meeting a 43 year old (she claimed to be 39 on her profile as apparently men won’t date women over 40) from POF and went back to hers after. Alarm bells should have been ringing, lived in a shared house and had a low paid job but I thought what the hell. I asked about Condoms and she said “you don’t need them” I asked “are you on the pill” and she replied “Better than that I can’t get pregnant” I did the deed and then made my excuses, went home and ghosted her.

Got a few facebook messages over the coming month or two but ignored them until I got a “we really need to talk” message. Immediately knew why she wanted to talk……

So turns out she is pregnant, and even though she claimed to have not had sex for a year before me it was either mine or an asian guy she slept with a few days later. She then sent me a scan photo and claimed she didn’t want anything from me. Of course I know this would not be the case and had several months of worry and being sick before I never heard from her again.

Then six months later I get a long message saying she had had the baby etc. etc. Eventually she sent me a photo and I could see straight away it wasn’t mine as it was clearly half asian.

To this day I still have no idea if it was all true or if she was just mental.

Be careful out there guys.

For women, everything eventually boils down to Alpha Fucks, Beta Bucks.

[AutoliteParticipant]

Won'tGetFooledAgain wrote:

Be careful out there guys.

Warning other guys is probably the most important aspect of this forum. Nobody told me sh!t about how devious and conniving women are when I was a young man. I’ve had my condoms sabotaged, been lied to about being ‘on the pill’ and I’ve been sperm jacked. I learned about all these tricks myself ‘in the field’. And it was just dumb luck that I was never trapped.

I just hope young guys really heed what they’re being told here about women…

[TaxGuyParticipant]

Anonymous wrote:

Her response. How sad. I will get rid of it but want more cash. Your bank transfer didn’t clear.

Well, since you are obviously a f~~~ing idiot when it comes to money, I’ll pick you up, take you to the clinic, wait for the abortion to be done and then pay for it. That way you and your bank aren’t in the conversation.

Does she balk at that? Then it’s because she isn’t really pregnant and she’s taking you for a ride. DEMAND to take her to the clinic and be there the entire time. You owe her at least that much. You know, because you’re a good guy.

Order the good wine

[ZarathustraParticipant 2246]

Good luck with all of that. We all get horny and its hard to stay celibate. It just goes to show one moment of weakness! You have my sympathies The problem is we don’t wait long enough before sleeping with someone and you can’t know crazy after a few encounters.

[Gravel PitParticipant]

45 year old woman pregnant? Naw man, she is milking you for cash. You got CONNED. Hope it works out. May want to stay off those dating sites as they are a phishing ground where women know, gullible men dwell who will do anything for sex… its a TRAP.

[Gravel PitParticipant]

Won'tGetFooledAgain wrote:

Eventually she sent me a photo and I could see straight away it wasn’t mine as it was clearly half asian.

LOL. Your life flashed before you very eyes.

[SandalsParticipant 4253]

Zarathustra wrote:

you can’t know crazy after a few encounters.

They’re all crazy. Every last one of them.

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