Please Help with Going "Zen"

[Gratus84Participant 60]

In Napolean Hill’s Think and Grow Rich, there is a chapter on sexual transmutation. I’ve known about it for years.

I am out of control again with the online sex buffet/dating.

I took a woman out on a date tonight. Red flags everywhere. Cat Lover, Best friend is a guy, manipulated into paying but played along anyway. Secured a kiss.. meanwhile the ex is permanently out of the picture but there is just this void that I am constantly lusting to fill. It’s addicting. It’s getting in the way of other things. I know it is. That’s not the worst of it though. My phone-book is littered with distractions in a revolving door.

How do you just give it all up? Should I wipe clean my entire online dating profiles and just throw in the f~~~ing towel? It’s not helping me further my career. It’s just sucking up all my time and resources. Constant self-stimulation, the need for “particular” ways of getting off just keeps getting more complicated. None of these women are someone I want to be with.

How do you just give it the f~~~ up? How do I get my urges back under control? I could be so much more. To each their own with porn or with bedding women…

Has anybody here just walked away from sex/release and disciplined their mind and body to pursue bigger and better things that matter? How do you go about this?

I know in the back of my head every-time I engage in it I am wasting my time, but I do it anyways.

[LonerBonerParticipant 358]

I hear you, have similar problems.

My plan is to find a girl to have as f~~~ buddy, I know – harcore MGTOW will tell me its wrong an stupid and its a trap. Yes are you ofc right! But i need this.
Im having a girl over this weekend, im gonna f~~~ her atleast once.
Its probably a terrible idea but i f~~~ing need this! Havent had any pussy in 2 months, going crazy! Masturbating all the f~~~ing time – it dosent help!

Keep clam i'm dyslexic.

[RoyDalParticipant]

Gratus84 wrote:

In Napolean Hill’s Think and Grow Rich, there is a chapter on sexual transmutation. I’ve known about it for years.

I am out of control again with the online sex buffet/dating.

Sex is using you. You must turn the tables — you should be using sex. And, by the way, that does not, not mean pursuing pussy.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[RoyDalParticipant]

Speaking of “going Zen” here is an interesting read: http://zenhabits.net/a-letter-to-my-son-on-starting-out-in-life/

For the real thing, search the interweb for a real Zen center near your domicile. By “real” I mean a center that is run by a Zen Master who has a lineage that can be tracked back to ancient China or India (Japan included, of course).

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[RoyDalParticipant]

Get a project to consume your life.

I agree; I 100% agree.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[WolveParticipant 191]

Yo Gratus you’re asking “how do you just give it the f~~~ up ” it’s like asking “How do you move your leg?” The answer is you just do it and if you don’t succeed on the first try you just keep on going until you succeed, you try and try and try and try and you don’t give up until you find a way to make it work and you start walking.
Doing it requires a lot of effort and a strong resolve everyone has to find the right way on their own but as long as you don’t give up you can do it.

[Anonymous 2]

F~~~buddies & going galt.

I f~~~ too.

Just be very carefull not to spawn. A vasectomy might be a good idea. I am considering one atm, as I am in the same boat.

[EntropyParticipant 902]

Just jerk off and move on.

Funny how God awfully unappealing every woman in that phone book becomes when you have a clear mind.

"Compare your lives to mine and then kill yourselves" -BBR

[HitmanParticipant]

Keep waking up bro, it’s a process that takes time. .listen to stealthy mgtow. .He got wisdom. .be good to yourself!

[OldscoundrellParticipant 412]

The art of zen is practicing detaching thought and bias from perception in order to achieve true reality. To see your world without preconceived notions in order to grow your own ideas and views.

Living without want, while minimalizing need. And through this gaining power against your surroundings.

Ask yourself what else are you gaining from sex, besides the obvious.

ie.. I went through a spell of using sex to validate my self image/esteem. It was a slippery slope that drove me down further. Even with almost unlimited sex at my beckon call.

Zen is a tool to wipe the slate clean and build something new. To remove the bulls~~~, and keep what you want.

[Gratus84Participant 60]

Thank you all for the input. I really appreciate it. I wrote a TLDR and saved it and deleted it but I will say that I love “The Who” now, thank you Stealthy. I have read your posts and I have been doing something similar.

In short, I am going to talk to my dad more from now on and stop being a “Momma’s Boy”.

Also, do you have any advice or tips on how to edit a buddy-press styling? I am working on a website and need to change the stylings and I don’t see an easy way on the WordPress back end to do so. Just view source and find one I like and just rage and grind against on it? Should I learn assembly language? I read about binary and hexidecimal and thought that if I wanted to be really good at webdesign and coding that I should treat it like a real school instead of trying to just do a massive trial and error sort of approach which is what I have always done. But why learn something that’s not practical for my immediate goals?

I wish we could send PM’s on this forum. Does anybody know if that’s a feature we will ever allow or some sort of correspondence?

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