Please help me treat people like S~~~.

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

RedPillDETOX wrote:

I think that you should treat people like s~~~ in moderation?

No.  Treat people with respect (where warranted) but without deference (ever).

Submission is losing.  Dominance is losing.  Independence is winning.

Here’s an example of what I’m talking about:  I make a point of helping stranded people whenever I can.  A couple of months ago I helped a man at a rest stop get his SUV-wannabe minivan started again.  His family was inside the van, complete with nagging wife.  Long story short we got it running again, largely thanks to the tool roll I carry (because my bike has a sense of humor).  All the while wifey was getting more and more livid, bitching about, “blah blah blah if only I’d married a Real Man blah blah blah.”  My only comment to her: “You might consider taking some of those toys out of the back and putting in a toolbox.  Your man here will know which ones to get.”

Did I treat her like s~~~?  No.  Did I treat him like s~~~?  Of course not.  I tend to think helping someone stranded is the exact opposite of treating them like s~~~.  In return he didn’t treat me like s~~~, and it’s clear that she considered it, but couldn’t because I was likely her only ticket back to civilization, so she made up for it by treating him even more like s~~~.  So I was neither dominant, nor submissive, but I was capable.  And if the looks the kids gave me out the back window as I followed them back to civilization are anything to go by, I am the coolest thing since sliced bread.

My final thought as I gave him the thumbs up passing them in town: “Thank God that’s not me there in that minivan with that bitch of a wife and those three little millstones.  Thank God I’m free.”  Hopefully he will eventually cut off his shackles and be free as well.

So again, it’s not about dominance or submission.  It’s about freedom.

[JjParticipant 178]

Use detachment towards people who are not treating you right.. only a needy or immoral man will act cruel to feel empowered. Set boundaries, create self interest, etc. Don’t be a dick head, and the same time being harsh is sometimes unavoidable.

[DruidVIParticipant 23]

Troll gonna troll…

[JjParticipant 178]

I’ve herd a few ppl call RedPillDetox a troll or a woman in deguise. I just checked out alot of ‘his post and ‘he doesn’t seem like a “real” person. Can the moderators band ‘him or is this tack not over the line yet?. What a f~~~ing drag

[Anonymous 42]

Hey SideCar, I’m the same way, I had a shinny 65 Dodge Dart (with a personality disorder). The trunk was full of spare parts and tools.

I ran into a guy stranded on a long country road in the middle of nowhere, he owned a 73 Plymouth. We found out working together it was the fuel pump, Ha, I had a spare pump that looked a little different on the outside, but the lever was the same, It worked! That guy will never forget that act of kindness I displayed, it was a good example to the “true” nature of men…. Men have done countless acts of kindness for me; Women? ZERO acts of kindness…..

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

Jj wrote:

I’ve herd a few ppl call RedPillDetox a troll or a woman in deguise. I just checked out alot of ‘his post and ‘he doesn’t seem like a “real” person.

He seems really young to me.  I mean junior high young.  Which admittedly is pretty much the same thing as not being a real person, at least not yet.

Anonymous wrote:

That guy will never forget that act of kindness I displayed, it was a good example to the “true” nature of men…. Men have done countless acts of kindness for me; Women? ZERO acts of kindness…..

Have you ever noticed that for all the talk about women being more “social”, it’s men who cooperate and help each other, not women.  Women always expect something in return.  Moreover, it’s only when women are involved somewhere that men become competitive.  Left to their own devices they get along just fine.  In other words: Men build civilizations, and women instigate wars.

The book Nation by Terry Pratchett (who just died by the way) touches on this in the first chapter.  I recommend the whole book, so if you don’t want spoilers, stop reading now.

The book starts with the main character, a south seas islander named Mau, being dropped off buck naked on a deserted island by his father for the Rite of Manhood.  With nothing more than his personal knife, Mau is expected to support himself, cut down a tree, hollow out a canoe, carve a paddle, and paddle his way back to the home island.  Upon his return he will be considered a man.  While searching the island he learns the Lesson of Manhood.  He finds a suspiciously convenient log, already dressed and ideal for a canoe.  At this point Mau remembers a mysterious trip his uncles had taken a week previously that they refused to talk about; they must have been delivering this log to the island for him.  Even better, stuck into an ancient tree next to the log is an even more suspiciously convenient adze, perfect for carving a log into a canoe.  On the tree are carved the marks of generations of boys becoming men, but even older than these marks is the ancient inscription: “Men help other men.”

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