Paternity question

[Dirtydog73Participant 232]

Hell all,
Just putting this out there as its eating me up on the inside at the moment.

After a 23 yr LTR , and the end result her being a cheating bitch , now going my own way , with one of my sons who is 15.
After finding out the AWALT reality , some reflection on my behalf regarding her behavior over the years and such , with the red flags now popping up to me .I was a blue pill , asleep in the reality of it all ,doing what society expected , working fifo to support my family.Knowing what I know now , and trying to piece together some things , after finding out a few more truths about what I thought was my loyal and supportive partner, I am thinking of getting a DNA test done on my youngest.

There are a lot of questions / thoughts / doubt going around inside my head , eating me up.
Do I do this ? Do I not and let potential sleeping dogs lie? Am I right in doing this?
Why am I doing it , for me , for him , does it make me a prick ?

Does anyone or has anyone done this , or thought about this.Especially with older kids.I understand when kids are babies , however ..
Red flags are raised regarding him , with timing and such , we were separated for a while before she was pregnant with our second , we did have sex , but my gut is telling me different. Knowing what a slut she is /was , with several different “stories:” reaching me from different people and friends , the doubt is always there.
I feel like an arsehole for wanting to do this , yet I feel sick not knowing. I have raised him for 15 years , what would I say , should I do it without telling him either way ..I just don’t know .

Fed, Fucked, Appreciated. The three simple things men want, but women will never grasp.

[JakeParticipant 908]

The truth is the truth he has a father maybe not you kid should know

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Dirtydog73 wrote:

I feel like an arsehole for wanting to do this , yet I feel sick not knowing. I have raised him for 15 years , what would I say , should I do it without telling him either way ..I just don’t know .

Isn’t this only natural?

In the U.K., Nearly half (48%) of men who take paternity test are not the real father
http://www.manchestereveningnews.co.uk/business/business-news/paternity-test-father-bioclinics-group-12399580

… and that’s only in cases where she agrees to a test.

Who’s the “arsehole” now? It wouldn’t be you.

Guaranteed.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[MACHOParticipant]

Keymaster wrote:

In the U.K., Nearly half (48%) of men who take paternity test are not the real father

http://www.manchestereveningnews.co.uk/business/business-news/paternity-test-father-bioclinics-group-12399580

… and that’s only in cases where she agrees to a test.
Who’s the “arsehole” now? It wouldn’t be you.
Guaranteed

Wow those pussies are reproducing like rabbits! KM after reading this the man should be fine!

Sir if there was even a hint of temptation (left in my person) to even think of fathering a child.. you took care of it, it will never cross my mind again, Thanks!

This site indeed saves lives.

You must own a better Crystal ball than I

[AutoliteParticipant]

Dirtydog73 wrote:

I have raised him for 15 years , what would I say , should I do it without telling him either way ..I just don’t know .

If you do it and he turns out not be yours I think that it would be best to tell him. Chances are that he’ll eventually find out anyway and I think it would be worse if he knew that you knew but didn’t say anything.

If you were to just now assume that he’s not your biological son, would you treat him any different???

[Dirtydog73Participant 232]

Thanks for the replies lads.

As much as it has eaten me up inside, i do think it best to work towards letting it go.

For 15 years I have raised him as my own , and I believe I will for another 15 and beyond.
Who would I be punishing? -him , myself , my ex? She wouldn’t care either way I reckon.
As to treating him differently , I think it would be me who was treated differently..as well as blow the little self esteem I have built back up…is that worth it?

Fed, Fucked, Appreciated. The three simple things men want, but women will never grasp.

[narrow road travelerParticipant 1680]

The truth is the truth. You’re searching for it now. Your ex’s behavior has already burned you.

I can’t think of a discrete way for you to get this sorted out. Though your relationship with your son has already changed. You’re not 100% at fault for it either. You may find out he’s not biologically yours. He’s still your son, because your existence to him is father.

I also think you should tell him if he’s not yours biologically. You’re shouldn’t be shielded from the consequences of her actions.

In the future your relationship with your son will be based on the truth. Truth and integrity are the left hand and
right hand of your inner self.

The supreme art of war is to subdue the enemy without fighting. --Sun Tsu

[Anonymous 0]

Your son knowing the truth will have an effect on his relationship with his mother. Let him see her for what she is and just maybe he won’t suffer the same fate as you.

[Anonymous 43]

the journey of 1000 miles begins with a single step…the step crossing a lawyer’s threshold.

ltr is not marriage, I don’t know what liabilities you have concerning this 15 yo boy. if he isn’t your child, seems to me he stays with the woman who pushed him out.

not your kid, gets none of your cash. mebey, mebey not. court is a tricky thing.

my God what anguish you carry, brother. steady on.

ok forget the money.

how do you peel this cold grilled cheese sandwich apart without tearing the bread? you and the boy are gonna be in a world of hurt…the woman, not so much. she cut you loose, and the boy came from her. she will lose nothing. you and the boy will lose horribly here.

i’m so sorry brother. this is gonna hurt for a very long time. for you it is betrayal and grief over losing the boy.

for the boy, the damage is far worse. total loss of identity and where he came from. losing you as the foundation of his being. betrayal by his mother.

she will keep going with her life and ignore the wreckage she created.

[Greg HondaParticipant 6406]

I never met my Blood parents.

My adoptive parents were the only ones as far as I was concerned.

We may not have had blood ties but the words of my father are the ones that stay with me through life.

He knew more about life at 14 than I knew at 40.

It's Time to get Wise

[MGTOW KnightParticipant 7477]

I think it is in the best interest of the child. Get the paternity test done.

Fuck bitches... literally and metaphorically

[EdifyParticipant 84]

My Bitch walked out on me a year ago and haven’t seen my Daughter since. by chance i happened to see the Crazy post a pic of herself and my Daughter on one of the social platform.
I am over joyed to see how my little gal looks, looks exactly like her dad.

I have stayed without communication for a year and fight my urges to stay that way. I am always thinking of approaching a child’s commission or Child’s rights org(Govt) to be able to at-least meet my Daughter in process and put across my case, and then i realize that its a blue pilled world out there. I am offering myself like a sacrificial lamb for the system to use and abuse me.I haven’t got any legal cases against me right now, but i guess they somehow stand on a misplaced self righteous ground, that they dont need my presence or my money. I however have put aside some investment fund my Daughter, if she does come looking for me someday(Wishful thinking). I am counting on that narrative of theirs to crumble(Keeping my Daughter away from me), because i fell i will dragged to legal system as soon as the bitch finds another white knight to rescue her.

I have seen fathers fight tooth and nail for years, loose quite a lot in process and then finally to be told that the very thing they were fighting for doesn’t want to see him. It breaks my heart to read such things.
Ive seen blue pilled man, provide endlessly while their own children’s treat the man like s~~~, much like hoe their mom treat the man.
I fear the same thing, if i do fight, loosing sleep, Money and peace of mind, I may end up the same way the other fathers have ended up. In-fact many fathers having fought for years just give up to stay sane.

I am trying hard to stay for myself. As they say after the Red pill rage subsides, its a wasteland for men like us.

[Dirtydog73Participant 232]

In my opinion ..best thing you can do is be the best person you can be .It may take years ,but your daughter will want to know the truth one day.A chance meeting one day , bump into her by accident somewhere…
She will ask ,she will need something one day from you …and you will be ready.
The relationship you have with your ex is completely different to one you will have with your daughter..she is her own person who will make her own mind up …nothing your ex says or does can change that.

Fed, Fucked, Appreciated. The three simple things men want, but women will never grasp.

[Dirtydog73Participant 232]

So …have looked into the paternity test kits …have one on way .

Fed, Fucked, Appreciated. The three simple things men want, but women will never grasp.

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