Firstly thank you for having this site it is one of the most truthful sites that I have ever found.
I like so many of the people here found the red pill through the relationships I had in the past and for me that was when my marriage started to deteriorate. I realize looking back that there was never really anything there but an attempt to pull money and stability from me while doing the same to as many other people as possible. Shortly after we had our second child she seemed to go bat-s~~~ crazy. She told me that she had postpartum depression and needed some time with friends, which of course as my beta male training told me to do I did without a second thought. As I am sure that most of you can guess this was nothing more than a license to never take any responsibility with our children, finances and life in general.
After a while she had to move out to have “her space” and got an apartment that I actually managed not to pay for but she took our children with her except when she wanted to go out and party and I watched them virtually every night. I brought our children to her apartment the next day to find her in bed with another man. During this time I started divorce proceedings with an attorney because her “friends” had convinced her that I was going to try and screw her over and that she could get more that way. At one point she left for another state on another guys dollar to “interview for a job” and was gone for a week and left the kids with me with about 2 days notice. This actually turned out to be good for me in the long run but I will get to that shortly. After she got back and of course, no job she naturally lost her apartment and somehow got someone else to bank roll another place for her for awhile and she started being friendly again instead of a bitch. She ended up at this point with another really s~~~ty job but she was able to keep the place I am assuming mostly by getting money from other people.
By the time she lost that place she had me convinced that things could work out between us and I let her move back in. after about 6 months she was gone again and I told her that the divorce would be finalized. It was at that time that I really started to see how messed up everything had been from the beginning and how I had been used and manipulated.
So back to how things actually worked out in my favor. The whole span of that story took about two years and the fortunate part is that when she dumped the kids on me solely I used the system against her and got the state to give me assistance in paying for daycare which meant that they set up for her to pay me child support. The other thing was that she made lots of mistakes such as ending up with a bench warrant for embezzling and lastly due to the bench warrant she did not show up for the final divorce hearing, could not afford an attorney and since she did not show up the judge just signed the document that we brought in so I ended up with full custody, she ended up with the debt from her repossessed truck and is supposed to be paying me child support.
Looks like that was a lot longer than I thought it would be but thanks for reading.
Willfully turning aside from the truth is treason to one's self. -Terry Goodkind
mode72 4 years, 11 months ago.
