Opinions about "Filler"-Relations~~~s and do they exist?

[LeavesParticipant 55]

I just have a question and would like to have another opinion on that.

In the past i made a big mistake or let’s say two big mistakes when it comes to women even if i’m at this point just 24 years old.

After a breakup because of a dog (yes she left me because of her dog, wich she never cared about, so i don’t think thats the valid reason but hay she has to blame something) i jumped onto another women wich was 28 and had a daughter at the age of 2.5

Between those 2 Girls i told myself all the time “it can’t get any worse then the last one, she was lazy as hell and did nothing”. – i realised the other one was even worse, the first one was at least able to cook properly…
The second one wasn’t even able to split open eggs (and that’s 100% true sadly).

So the second one turned out to be 300% more destructive and useless as the first one, i wondered since i also broke up with her, if she maybe was a kind of filler for myself to close the gap – maybe i was just that bluepill’ish that i wasn’t even able to make it clear to myself. I thougt alot about that and my final conclusing is that i indeed had a need of something to fill the gap after dropping out of the relationship – maybe it was just because i had to push my self back up to tell me “na – i’m not that bad of a guy it’s not my fault” or something like that.

Just want to know some other opinions on that specific topic if someone else also experienced this and how they handeld it afterwards or maybe even dropped in a second or third time on that “trap” ?

Greetings

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Leaves wrote:

The second one wasn’t even able to split open eggs (and that’s 100% true sadly).

I used that analogy a few times to describe an EX. I said “she couldn’t even cook” to a woman, and she thought I was implying I expected her to cook FOR ME. But she couldn’t even make a decent omelette for HERSELF. She thought “separate the eggs” on a recipe card meant “pushing them apart on the counter”.

I think you may be over-thinking “filler relationship” part a little, because you don’t just DECIDE one day to get into a relationship…. or go into the next one. There is another person in it with you.

But I have been in a situation where I approached it differently with a “for better or worse” attitude. Meaning…. because other relationships didn’t work, I thought maybe it was because *I* didn’t put enough into it. So I thought, with this one, I will put up with s~~~ I normally wouldn’t – just to make it “work”.

That doesn’t work.

It really wasn’t *ME* who didn’t put enough into it.
It was THEY who didn’t put enough into it.

Sure it “worked” as long as I worked my ass off, but when I pulled back and expected her to pull her own weight…. she was sitting their with her arms folded wondering why I wasn’t busting my ass.

It’s as if they are designed to only RESPOND. Keep putting pressure on the pedal and the wheel keeps turning and you may even see sparks! But ease back on the pedal and nothing really happens.

I hope I understood your question correctly.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[LeavesParticipant 55]

Keymaster wrote:

*snip*

Wow, thats so true i never thought about it that way… damn you are so right about that!
I also felt the pressure for not putting in enough even after thinking about it – it couldn’t be that way.

Glad you encountert a female who was also to stupid to understand something simple as seperating eggs…
It’s laughable while it’s not haha

But you have a good point their, i have to say i really expected to do that, not for me but for her 2.5year old daughter, she wasn’t able to suit her and i was the person who had to do that…
I can not watch a child eathing just s~~~ the whole day, even if it wasn’t my biological one, at the moment i invited her to live with me, i forced myself to be a father.

Even if i want to become a father i never see a (or can not see right now) point when to become one.
Not because i don’t feel ready but i just do not have the time.

Women i met who are like me in that point who do not want kids because of beeing focused on career often had a major downside. – At weekends or any other possible moment they were nothing but sex and party or taking explorationtrips around the world – wich is fine but they don’t rely on ther things to enjoy together it wasn’t a matter if i joined them or not, if the money was on the table that was enough for them.

Thank you very much for your reply!

[Anonymous 42]

Keymaster wrote:

Keep putting pressure on the pedal and the wheel keeps turning and you may even see sparks!

Wheels? Sparks? Effort? f~~~ that!

Crush it, shred it, smelt it, then send it back!

[Anonymous 42]

Leaves wrote:

i was the person who had to do that

My father told my mother he’d let us sit in our own s~~~ all day before he’d wipe our asses. The man never changed a diaper in his LIFE! ME EITHER! Child rearing is a woman’s JOB!

My body, my decision, my rights!

Granted, yours, you can wipe the ass!

[LeavesParticipant 55]

Anonymous wrote:

Leaves wrote:

i was the person who had to do that

My father told my mother he’d let us sit in our own s~~~ all day before he’d wipe our asses. The man never changed a diaper in his LIFE! ME EITHER! Child rearing is a woman’s JOB!

My body, my decision, my rights!

Granted, yours, you can wipe the ass!

I think i was just to soft and bluepilled at this state – as you bring that up my mother also told me i have to stop even if it hurts, well i think i was just way to weak i couldn’t do that under any circumstances and i belive she knew that and used that so i do all the work =/

[Anonymous 42]

Leaves, I’m not knocking you for being a stand up guy, just that men with integrity stand out like blood in the water to a hungry shark! You won’t find a woman with a grain of sand that has integrity along the 10,000 miles of beaches that make up their hearts and souls.

It’s one thing to be an empty vessel, it’s another to be a vessel full of vile.

The choice we have today is between vile and viler, or pull the ripcord ejecting yourself away!

[Better without YOUParticipant 234]

You were “purging” probably. It was discussed in a thread earlier. Along the same lines of rebound f~~~s/relations~~~s. Filler is actually a pretty good word for it.

[Silverstone the SecondParticipant]

They say that the best way to get over a girl is to get on top of another one. That can be very dangerous. I don’t get into another relationship after a break up but I might go get some pussy. Remember that relationships are very costly things, and you’ll end up losing a bunch of time, energy and money on them. It’s not always the best solution for me. If I want to heal burns, I don’t light them on fire again. One night stands all the way. No names, no games. F~~~ em and chuck em.

Feminism is a movement where opinions are presented as facts and emotions are presented as evidence.

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