Open or closed book?

[Vgrundle30Participant 35]

What I mean is, if you are to find oneself in a situation where you meet a woman who you perceive to be LESS like that (AWALT, I know.) And decide that maybe she’s worth the 40 dollar dinner tab to get to know (40 is conservative, i know) do you clue them in on your lifestyle choice and put the cards on the table out of the gate for honesty purposes, or do you keep quiet about it. Once there was a very attractive young woman who I eventually lost interest in when I noticed she had way too many sattelites. She told me quite literally that my admission of mgtow made her “trust me more” because she figured I wasn’t gonna be a sleazeball and try to bed her day 1. Interesting. Another, oddly enough, couldn’t process it. She told me nobody had ever rejected her before and ran the usual gauntlet of “who broke your heart?”, etc. She almost instantly dialed up her approach and threw hail marys to try to dissuade me. Like she’d been issued a challenge.

Now make no mistake, how they react to my life choices means nothing to me, but I think a lot of us tend to play our hand so close to the cuff that it’s difficult to erase the stereotypes people put us in. And I think if we were more open about what this means to us, maybe some people will understand it better and we may even welcome some new faces into freedom. I think a major part of accepting a choice is to stand up for it, unapologetically. Just my opinion. So, all long windedness aside, what do you think? Lay it all on the table, or keep quiet?

[Anonymous 42]

Open or closed book?

I burned the “book”, nothing more to read. nothing more to write. I’s just ashes I don’t care about…

Lay it on the table?

I burnt that too, along with all the chairs…

[mp357Participant 531]

If someone stereotypes me i dont care,people have their opinions and they rarely see logic or reason.I dont stand up for s~~~,people can think whatever they want. Vast majority of people are programmed drones,telling them what i believe will only cause me more of a headache. My book is stapled shut.

[HitmanParticipant]

bro, if your dating NEVER spend more than what a cup of coffee costs on a first date.
secondly, it’s no one’s business what your choices are , MGTOW or not it’s YOUR decision.
don’t put all your cards on the table for anyone.
just my take on this…

[RoyDalParticipant]

Hitman said it for me. I would have you save the money, and time which cannot be replaced, spent on dates and use it for your own positive growth.

Full disclosure: I abandoned the dating scene as a losing deal years ago. Nothing has happened to make me change my mind.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[Vgrundle30Participant 35]

You all make great points. I think I will keep my lifestyle choice to myself. Besides, in my town most of the women are either hideous or seasoned c~~~ carousel veterans who post too many selfies and glut themselves on simp worship. I was more asking just to confirm what I already knew for myself. However, I am intrigued at the wide range of reactions from women. Intrigued in a purely scientific sense. I dunno, it’s probably my inner scientist trying to understand it. Not intrigued as in they have a snowb~~~~ chance in hell of changing my mind. I should know better, trying to figure out stuff like that is akin to trying to solve the grandfather paradox. I know this. Must have been a moment of weakness. It happens. At least I am aware enough that I can catch it before it becomes a problem.

Thanks for the insight. Its good to know I can come to a place of like minded people and not feel like I have to be on defense all the time.

Oh, and you’re absolutely right. The younger one I mentioned, i actually took out to dinner. A waste of 30 bucks. I could have bought a brand spanking new mid range to go in my disc golf bag for that. Considering i just lost a sweet 180 champ mako3 today, i could have used it. At least id still be throwing those.

[swisscheesParticipant 77]

Well im new here but even i know u should put the cards on the table. From the MGTOW point of view u should. Even if u look at it from a seduction angle,it benefits you. She then have to chase u cause u are not a mangina pussy. Women love to chase 🙂

[mp357Participant 531]

Ya you must be new.What the f~~~?Seduction ?Bloody hell

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

Vgrundle30 wrote:

And decide that maybe she’s worth the 40 dollar dinner tab to get to know

Here’s a little tip: the very fact that you’re spending $40 on a dinner for her to get to know her proves she isn’t worth getting to know.

[AttonParticipant]

Lay it all on the table, or keep quiet?

It depends greatly on the situation if you are not in a situation which can get you into trouble then be vocal.

A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

[Mr. SpockParticipant 10910]

When women can prove that they are open books to men then I may give it some thought. Women have ALWAYS been a closed book to men. They are never truthful in their intentions or actions and they keep several different books to show you and it’s up to you to figure out which one she is using.
Being an open book seems like a nice intention but you are setting yourself up to allow them to use what they know against you. Keep your cards close to your vest.

Feminism isn't about equality with men, it's about leverage over men.

[Mr. ManParticipant 2916]

When people ask me why I don’t date anymore, I tell them that I’ve spent the majority of my life in some kind of relationship, and at this point I’d rather go for a bike ride. At hearing this they just nod their head in understanding, man or woman, and it keeps me from having to mainsplain to them how I got to this point.

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