Only Months Away From A Divorce Certificate

[Point Of No ReturnParticipant 4074]

Only Months Away From A Divorce Certificate

The court has asked me to hand in my marriage certificate. The separation agreement has been finalised. I did not manage to gain anything with regards to custody. The ex gets full custody and I get visitation twice a week and a monthly CS debt to pay. I’ve been kind of red pill raging it lately. Well, at least I got a job and my health. More later, gotta catch the bus to work.

How did some of you feel while approaching the end stage of your divorce process?

Know when it is your duty to give them zero explanations for your actions.

[Buller100Participant 2189]

Very very happy, mine was a clean break I will never forget the absolute landing on the mat.

[DocParticipant]

Point Of No Return wrote:

Only Months Away From A Divorce Certificate

The court has asked me to hand in my marriage certificate. The separation agreement has been finalised. I did not manage to gain anything with regards to custody. The ex gets full custody and I get visitation twice a week and a monthly CS debt to pay. I’ve been kind of red pill raging it lately. Well, at least I got a job and my health. More later, gotta catch the bus to work.

How did some of you feel while approaching the end stage of your divorce process?

When ex began proceedings I thought I was going to find it painful because I really didn’t want to divorce.
Ex just gotta have her way. Always did. As each letter dropped on the door mat I simply did what was asked and give it as little thought as possible.

When the final letter came through I opened it, glanced at it. Saw what it was, folded it up and put it in my daily journal that I write. It’s imperative that I keep it so if my son ever says he’s thinking of proposing to someone I can show him what inevitability looks like.

Mercifully it will only be once that I ever go through that experience in life.

The object of life is not to be on the side of the majority, but to escape, finding oneself in the ranks of the insane. Marcus Aurelius

[JVBParticipant]

Block of cheese, beer, couch, in your underpants. You earned it bro. I’m happy for you. Congrats.

Peace is > piece.

[DocParticipant]

What’s with the cheese JVB?

You said the same to Tsar the other day. Not a problem but the cheese bit got me curious.

The object of life is not to be on the side of the majority, but to escape, finding oneself in the ranks of the insane. Marcus Aurelius

[CthulhuParticipant 698]

What did the dog say after it chewed it’s tail off?

Won’t be too long now.

Why vote for a lesser evil? #ICETHEMOUT

[Daryll55Participant 2950]

I remember that time. 8100/yr I paid, and when it ended I was still in “work it off” mode. Took a few months for it to settle in. I saved my “dog bowl”,(a tupperware salad dish that I made hamburger & rice in for over 10 years).
ENJOY your FREEDOM !

Marry again, Hell NO ! ( Even JESUS was hung on a cross just once)

[Point Of No ReturnParticipant 4074]

Doc wrote:

It’s imperative that I keep it so if my son ever says he’s thinking of proposing to someone I can show him what inevitability looks like.

I don’t have this type of restraint. I’ve told my sons outright that marriage is the worst possible deal imaginable for a man. I’ve explained that not only is it initially about the breakup of the couple, and all that that entails, but also the dismantling of the structure of what a family is. Laws meant to keep dads away from their children, all under the pretence that it’s for the good of the children… That kind of legal crap will simply generate anger or frustration in fathers. Good going judges, you are of the dimwits now! Right… That there is all I need to show that the law doesn’t take human interactions into account. And in my case, the ex-soulless makes sure to give me zero opportunity to have additional time with my kids even though it’s a possibility under our agreement. But I would have to BEG! … that’s right BEG! Ain’t gonna happen! As if my kids are more hers than mine. If she had a shred of decency that stretched at least the Planck length, she would offer time to me, but no, of course not. That says a lot about what she’s about, and I’ve explained this very idea to my sons.

Know when it is your duty to give them zero explanations for your actions.

[Point Of No ReturnParticipant 4074]

JVB wrote:

Block of cheese, beer, couch, in your underpants. You earned it bro. I’m happy for you. Congrats.

You bet! All that right after my run, that way I can indulge myself knowing that I’ve paid off those calories in advance!

Know when it is your duty to give them zero explanations for your actions.

[Point Of No ReturnParticipant 4074]

Doc wrote:

What’s with the cheese JVB?

You said the same to Tsar the other day. Not a problem but the cheese bit got me curious.

Oh and about the cheese, or should I say, cutting the cheese, I can do that here in my shoe-box (that’s what I call my place, it’s tiny, like real tiny) whenever I want, however I want, as loosely as I want and as loudly as I want. Might have to open a window though after…

Know when it is your duty to give them zero explanations for your actions.

[Point Of No ReturnParticipant 4074]

Daryll55 wrote:

I remember that time. 8100/yr I paid, and when it ended I was still in “work it off” mode. Took a few months for it to settle in. I saved my “dog bowl”,(a tupperware salad dish that I made hamburger & rice in for over 10 years).
ENJOY your FREEDOM !

I have a feeling I’ll be in ‘work it off mode’ until quite some time after I’m holding the divorce certificate. But the nice thing is that I see that I will be able to get there (if all goes well); so just my moving along that path is an uplifting sensation. I even get a certain smug feeling while I make my meals using plastic containers, a microwavable plastic bowl… hell eat right out of the pot sometimes, just because I feel like it because some days I’m so damned hungry I can’t wait to dish it to the plate. No yabbering wee-lady there to give me her piece of mind… no siree.

Know when it is your duty to give them zero explanations for your actions.

[NoMoreParticipant 1233]

I’m jealous. Mine has been dragging out for almost a year. All of it so her lawyer can maximize profit and hope to pin the bill on me. I tried reasoning with her and explaining the potential outcomes, but she persists. She would rather waste all of her money to drag this out and get little from me other than CS which is already proscribed by law.

A co-worker recently told me, "If you want to see who someone really is, divorce them." I have found out how true this is. When your wife drops the façade of being the caring partner, you will witness all of the greed, hate, and spite that she has masked. It is truly breathtaking!

[OgreParticipant 5863]

@PONR, you actually have it all figured except the emotions you are going through.

Betrayal can do that to a man.

Do right by yourself. Small apartment, food in the pot, you’re not in jail or homeless.

Do right by your kids. They know your absence isn’t by choice. Teach them to be men, not the males women want.

Do right by… nope that’s the end. F~~~ the X, the court, and society. Stay out of jail and do you until you drop.

The system tried to break you, they failed. Exist outside, and then thrive.

Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays, or whatever you prescribe to. Get that paper and then prosper.

She had her chance to get with the program, now show her what living is. Whatever that means for you, it’s more than she’ll ever muster.

I failed to realize in my youth that I was the prize. I was going to work. I was going to earn. Little did I realize that due to feminism, that no longer meant I had to share. Road soon, Desert after.

[Point Of No ReturnParticipant 4074]

Ogre wrote:

@PONR, you actually have it all figured except the emotions you are going through.

Betrayal can do that to a man.

Do right by yourself. Small apartment, food in the pot, you’re not in jail or homeless.

Do right by your kids. They know your absence isn’t by choice. Teach them to be men, not the males women want.

Do right by… nope that’s the end. F~~~ the X, the court, and society. Stay out of jail and do you until you drop.

The system tried to break you, they failed. Exist outside, and then thrive.

Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays, or whatever you prescribe to. Get that paper and then prosper.

She had her chance to get with the program, now show her what living is. Whatever that means for you, it’s more than she’ll ever muster.

Awesome Ogre, Happy Holidays to you too! I get to see my sons twice a week, and they understand that our way is the way of men, all the kinds that may exist, just not manginas. Redirecting our tendency to protect and to provide to our unit, to ourselves, away from weeminz, away from that which takes for granted in return for betrayal (whatever betrayal means in a man’s life).

Know when it is your duty to give them zero explanations for your actions.

[Point Of No ReturnParticipant 4074]

NoMore wrote:

I’m jealous. Mine has been dragging out for almost a year. All of it so her lawyer can maximize profit and hope to pin the bill on me. I tried reasoning with her and explaining the potential outcomes, but she persists. She would rather waste all of her money to drag this out and get little from me other than CS which is already proscribed by law.

I’ve been going at it for over 17 months now. It’s coming to an end because my ex has run out of options to attack me with using her lawyer (considering her financial situation), and I, have taken what I think to be good advice, and have decided to bring it to a close, giving up certain things like the fight for custody. When the time is right, when I have the means, when I am as stable as I feel I need to be, when the ex is weak and ready for a blow she will not be able to handle, I will then contemplate court action if need be and get what I want if I feel like it. Until then it’s steadfastness and my health that has priority.

Know when it is your duty to give them zero explanations for your actions.

[Daryll55Participant 2950]

Point Of No Return wrote:

Daryll55 wrote:

I remember that time. 8100/yr I paid, and when it ended I was still in “work it off” mode. Took a few months for it to settle in. I saved my “dog bowl”,(a tupperware salad dish that I made hamburger & rice in for over 10 years).
ENJOY your FREEDOM !

I have a feeling I’ll be in ‘work it off mode’ until quite some time after I’m holding the divorce certificate. But the nice thing is that I see that I will be able to get there (if all goes well); so just my moving along that path is an uplifting sensation. I even get a certain smug feeling while I make my meals using plastic containers, a microwavable plastic bowl… hell eat right out of the pot sometimes, just because I feel like it because some days I’m so damned hungry I can’t wait to dish it to the plate. No yabbering wee-lady there to give me her piece of mind… no siree.

PONHR: You got it all right in your mind bud. Keep on ;keepin’ on,…. you’ll be fine!! Laugh at it as it slides down your back with no result !!
I remember scrounging up the little duck-sauce packets and soy for my rice. Save a buck here”save on e there,…. they all ADD UP! Compliment yourself on your thrift and self sufficiency. Work out, Take care of yourself! When other women hit on you, It’s Your GAME now. Life is not over; it is just beginning !

Marry again, Hell NO ! ( Even JESUS was hung on a cross just once)

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