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Guys I just need to vent.
For you unmarried fellows: NEVER GET MARRIED!!
Some of you may have read my introduction. For those that didn’t here’s a quick recap. I have been married 16 yrs in my mid 40s with three kids. All of the kids are ours. We started late. F~~~. The youngest is 7.Recently we lost everything (all my fault of course NOT) and we are staying with my in laws. I was working and have since been laid off. Now I’m collecting unemployment and sending out resumes/interviewing like crazy. My wife and in laws think I should take any $10 an hr. job I can get. Of course that would screw my unemployment which = much more than $10 hr. Of course not taking a crap job makes me lazy.
She has been behind on her car payment severely for months. Every check that I have gotten from my job or unemployment has had at least some money(a substantial amount) come out of it for her bloody car. If I was spending that money weekly on a call girl it would pay for a hell of a weekend. I don’t even get a thank you. Never get married. I don’t care what the church says. Never.
Wife was coming around talking to me, kissing me, having sex with me again then the switch flipped. No more small talk. No more kisses etc..It still amazes me they can do this. She’s great with everyone else. It’s just me she treats like s~~~.
I have basically nothing but my car at this moment. If I leave I can find a buddy to stay with but I fear that child support will KILL me with three kids. That’s the other thing. She DID take a $10 hr. job. She is a degreed professional in a profession that is in demand and she should be making $30-$40 an hr. easy. I’m wondering if she is getting ready to drop the divorce hammer and tell the judge “I only make 10 and hr.” I’m also wondering if I should drop the divorce hammer now while I don’t have anything?
We did have a bit of money come in and of course we couldn’t use it to find a place. Everyone had to get clothes etc..I’m sick of it. I really want to leave for my sanity. She f~~~s with my emotions constantly. In the end I stay for the kids and for financial reasons.
If this is in the wrong area mods please move it.
Thanks for listening guys.
I will always caution my son against marriage though!
In my 20s I always said I would never get married. I was a pump and dump guy. I met my wife and had a momentary lapse of sanity.
NEVER GET MARRIED NEVER KNOCK A CHICK UP The emotional price is too highWelcome HiddenWithin
Don’t take any job that will make less than what you’re getting unless it’s under the table.
Is she getting ready to dump you? Only she knows that, but she might tell her parents or if she starts turning the kids against you. Sounds to me like you are done with the marriage and she will sense that. I would curb your redpill rage as best you can, at least when you are around her, her parents and friends (trust no one). If you’re going to rant do it here and hide it well. Don’t say too much about your situation here either in case she finds it and can recognize that it’s you. Until you know or decide the best you can do is make everything work at home as best you can.If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.
Anonymous5Trust your gut instinct, always.
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Get legal advice immediately.
Don’t even hint to her or anyone else what you’re doing.
Anonymous42I don’t care what the church says.
Church say a woman is to obey a man, so when have you seen any churchy women to the letter of the word?
hidden_within, you’re in marriage hell, a place I wish on no man! Your wife is c~~~ and you can expect the worst, she has no interest in serving you with any kind of respect or adoration, she’s a selfish c~~~ looking out for her own best interests like any shark would do.
Seems being a bum is your safest bet when it comes to divorce proceedings, then afterward seek gainful employment to better your life without bettering hers.
I’ve never been married and never will be after the way I’ve seen wives treat their current husbands.
I thank God all mighty I’m FREE!
I always have been FREE!
ALWAYS WILL BE FREE!
They can rule over their cats!
Welcome HW. It’s a sensitive position you are in coz living with in laws. Keep cool but follow your gut. It’s easy for me to say bro but it’s time to move on I feel. When everything changes, change everything. It doesn’t seem there is much left between the two of you and if the finances do improve there’s no guarantee that you marriage will. Forget what she might or might not do. Do what you want. Yes the courts will probably be hard on you but you will be free and you WILL carry on. Good luck brother and keep us posted.
Peace is > piece.
Don’t feel guilty about planning your escape because it’s a sure thing she’s already got a goddamned spreadsheet hidden somewhere with the whole thing already figured out. Women are cold and calculating far more than men are. This is the part they leave out of the whole soul mate narrative.
Stay sane. Take care of you. Good luck.
Do you want to remain in hell, or pay the high price for freedom. .
That’s the question.
F~~~ed if you stay or f~~~ed in a different way if you go.
I say go!Take a breath.
Put on a happy face and tell her that things will get better. Schmooze her into getting a job paying what she deserves using her degree. Praise her. Pump her up. Tell her if she can just step up, that when you get back on your feet you will pay her back 10 fold! PLAY THE GAME
Seem grateful to her parents.
All the while, get ready. Once she gets a job making more – file for divorce and ask for alimony, since she makes more.
You need to start waging guerrilla warfare.
She just told me that she was going to move her and the kids out to an apartment. Things aren’t working out between us because I’m not saving any money to move out with. We had a plan to start saving when she started working. All my money has went to pay her car, clothes for her/our kids, and her hair. How am I supposed to save money? She didn’t ask me to leave yet though? F~~~
She just told me that she was going to move her and the kids out to an apartment. Things aren’t working out between us because I’m not saving any money to move out with. We had a plan to start saving when she started working. All my money has went to pay her car, clothes for her/our kids, and her hair. How am I supposed to save money? She didn’t ask me to leave yet though? F~~~
How is she going to afford that? And where are you supposed to go?
Let her go.
So when you were earning good $$$$ your wife was affectionate and caring, but now times are tight she’s giving you the cold shoulder even though you are making payments on her car from your welfare check. WTF. Just goes to show how duplicitous women can be. Their true nature is truly revealed in trying times. Brother, just brace yourself for her monkey-branch manouvre.
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#ManOut
Thanks Stealth. My kids love me already. I spend all of my time with them as it is now. I would love to see the wife come around. If she doesn’t f~~~ her. It’s her loss. I will not leave until I have to.
I will absolutely employ your ideas.
Thanks for the support everyone.
I’m not paying the bitches car payment tomorrow so I may have to leave. No nicey nice and no sex = no more car payments made for her. She’s working now.I’m only f~~~ed for ten more years. Or, plot twist, my youngest has been saying since two weeks after I moved out when he was three that he wants to live with me. He’s still saying that. At some point the tables may turn…
The years go fast. I’m down to about 8 before I start the process.
In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash
Hi & welcome HiddenWithin.
She’s great with everyone else. It’s just me she treats like s~~~.
Don’t feel guilty about planning your escape because it’s a sure thing she’s already got a goddamned spreadsheet hidden somewhere with the whole thing already figured out.
I want to really drive this home so to speak^^^. I have seen this first hand by way of it being in written form, so in essence, the same thing. It was a shocking eye opener to me, in the midst of all the tears & emotional drama fest, to see ALL the steps written down. Cold & calculating beyond anything I ever imagined, way back then.
but I fear that child support will KILL me with three kids.
And a damn good point you make indeed! My payments certainly were less while being unemployed. I don’t even want to know how much more they would have been, had I been working, when I went through this s~~~.
. She is a degreed professional in a profession that is in demand and she should be making $30-$40 an hr. easy.
Regardless of why she isn’t, to me, it is far more telling, that she is NOT. IF she had any notions whatsoever, of making it work, she would be working in her profession. In my opinion, this is the smoking gun on her getting ready to drop the divorce bomb.
She f~~~s with my emotions constantly.
And this is the bullet to catch you off guard with it! She wants to keep you all wound the f~~~ up, so it’s harder for you to impede her plan.
In the end I stay for the kids and for financial reasons.
An admirable & noble stance, but if she has her way, she will take the kids & your finances in the Divorce Rape!
I tried to stay for my kid…after it was all said and done, I lost, and I have never seen my son, and I wasn’t even married to the one that took my son.
As crazy as it may sound, try to get yourself as calm & peaceful as best you can. I suggest alone in a quiet setting, like out in the country or do some fishing, or camping as Stealthy said.
That way you can think through your exit strategy without having to deal with any bulls~~~, and write down a checklist of things you want to do, to get yourself out of this web of s~~~.
I would also like to encourage you to have a plan b, a backup plan. Think of it as a safety net. Living in your car is not the end of the world, BUT, it sure does suck!
Believe me, I know. As for your personal belongings, anything you care about needs to be as far away from her clutches as possible. Had I done this, I would still have some of my belongings to this day, that are forever lost to me, that no amount of money could ever replace.
Hoping things work out for you as much as possible brother!
You all were right. The c~~~ already has a house. She’s moving tomorrow without me.
I’m sorry for your troubles, hidden_within, but know this YOU ARE NOT ALONE IN THIS!
So many of us are and were in the same situation. It sucks. And as a decent man and a good father and a good husband, this is going to tear your heart out. Its going to knock you – be prepared.
Those vows you made about staying together ‘for better or worse blah blah blah’ – only men mean those and stick by them. Women WILL leave the building as soon as the shtf.
Chances are pretty good she will start poisoning the children’s minds against you. Not immediately, but it will begin. She also needs a ‘reason’ to explain why she left you. Very few women have the b~~~~ to admit they left because their husbands were made redundant and the money stopped flowing, she’ll insinuate all sorts of nasty things and this will impact on your relationships with friends, family and community. Be prepared.
She might dangle a carrot in front of you – ‘IF you get a decent job, I MIGHT reconsider …’ Do you want to get back with someone who walks out when things get tough? And only wants you during the good times? Do you want to spend the rest of your life terrified of losing your job because she will leave you again?
Divorce is coming. Be prepared. Stay on the unemployment or take a minimum-wage job until all the papers are signed.
Then pick yourself up, dust yourself down and start again – far from her and her contacts (because when you start doing well – she’ll want $$$)
I’m really sorry for you. This is going to hurt like f~~~. Do NOT think of killing yourself (although the thought will be tempting at times). Eventually you will realise that today was the start of your new life.
You are not alone in this. Survive it....And in our own despair, against our will, Comes wisdom to us by the awful grace of God. - Agamemnon; by Aeschylus
My heart is broken for my children. The soon to be ex “thinks that together we are bad for the kids “. More BS. My younger kids adore me. I do everything with them. They were crushed (as was I) when I had to go.
The STBE went behind my back with her mother to get a house. The mother in law won’t lift a finger to help “us”. She we only help if I’m out.
The STBE accuses me of not being motivated to move out of the in laws house. I told her that I’m very motivated but when almost all my money is going for her car, car insurance, and clothes for her and the kids there is nothing left to get a place with.
She came into some money several months ago and it was enough to catch her car up or to get a place with. She didn’t use it for either. She went shopping. We made and agreement that I would keep paying for her car etc… and when she started working we would save for a house.
I feel like I was butt raped on so many levels.
My oldest daughter turned against me a few weeks ago which tipped me off to what was coming.
Last night she was trying to stir the pot asking me if I was OK? I said I’m good. She said no I mean with everything going on are you OK? I said it really sucks for you kids but I’m good. You’ve seen mom treating me like s~~~ for the last couple months.
The ex was cold, calculating, underhanded, and went behind my back to team up with her mom to get me out. My kids are going to suffer for it and she doesn’t care. I was a great father and as good a husband as I could be. Perfect? No. But I tried. I don’t owe her a damn thing. I know the courts will probably f~~~ me. My conscience is clear. I went above and beyond what most other men would have. Early in our relationship we split for a year and she was cheating. I forgave her. I should have RAN then. Of course if I would have I wouldn’t have my younger children now.
I have to admit I don’t know what to do with my teenage girl. She has accused me of hitting her and being mean to her in the past. Her mom and CPS knew she was lying. Unfortunately I don’t know if I can/should be alone with her. Like when I pick up the younger kids should I get her too or say sorry do to past allegations I can’t risk you coming. I know she needs me but now seems a time I have to look out for and protect myself from any accusations.
I will not eat a bullet. There was a time I thought of it. It is time to rise up be the best I can and carry on for myself and my kids. I will absolutely not go back. My wife says she doesn’t hate me. Her actions say she does. She has toyed with my emotions for years. Honestly I should have left long ago. I really believe she thinks she is in the right and I am in the wrong. Anyone looking in from the outside would tell her that she has a decent hard working man. I have my problems sure but I would have went to hell and back for her. Hell I did. She put me through emotional and financial hell and blamed it all on me.
I’m sorry it didn’t work out. I’m not sorry to be without her. This has been going on for a couple decades.
I’m now MGTOW free and enlightened.
Sorry for the rant. Thank you guys for being her!The hardest thing I’ve had to face is stepping back from my children – for both their sake and mine. Hopefully you’ll be able to maintain a good relationship with yours, provided stbe doesn’t start playing games and messing with their heads.
Teenage daughter – that’s a hard one. As much as I hate to say it, always ensure you have at least one witness around – the term ‘abuser’ and ‘abuse’ can be twisted to mean all sorts of things these days … and children/teenagers can be manipulated into making all sorts of claims (as you well know).‘I’m not sorry to be without her’
I know that feeling. For years you know somethings not right and yet, as men, we stick by it, trying to do the right thing. Women don’t. And sometimes that’s not a bad thing!
...And in our own despair, against our will, Comes wisdom to us by the awful grace of God. - Agamemnon; by Aeschylus
What church says ? Says that there is a place in hell for people like that !
I see several c~~~s with bible verses in their profiles, saying biblical things, did you know what I think about it ? It’s just something that they use to feel better about themselves. And this is wrong in so many levels, too much hypocrisy, too much lies. “I love the next as I love myself”, well, if she is a narcissistic c~~~, it will be surprising seeing she helping a poor person, but if she have that kind of good hearth, would she treat you better ? Isn’t that the essence of Catholicism, is to be good persons, not treat others like s~~~, like she is doing.
Good luck brother !
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