A former mate married a Chinese girl and she is a right control freak – nobody has seen him in years she keeps him on a leash.
Anyone had relationship experiences with Japanese, Chinese, Korean, Indian, or other Asian or Russian women?
My nephew married a Japanese girl – after which all of the family lost contact! Even his parents wouldn’t hear from him for months at a time. His Facebook got deleted, she derailed his visum application so if he divorced her within the first 7 years, he would get deported (Japan is notorious for being xenophobic, so it just very hard to stay there for an extended time unless married), she controlled his cashflow 100%. Often he would have to turn down social events at work, because he didn’t have any extra money at all to pay whatever little extra is cost. Just, a whole lot of stuff like that. Eventually he broke down and confided his problems with his boss. His boss arranged for him to go on a “business trip”, so he could pack his most basic stuff and get away, since his loving wife had made it perfectly clear to him, that should rather kill him than through the dishonor of a divorce. Those “face” driven societies really are quite different in the “logic”.
Just to make a long story short, he got away, his wifes mother died in a trafic accident, her father went “f*ck this, I’m out” and cut contact with his “daughter” (turned out, he wasn’t the biological father, all knew if, no one said anything, my nephew only learned his after the “father” split). My nephew took pity on his now very alone wife and got back with her. She is now 8 months pregnant. He still don’t have Facebook or money, but can now call his close family (parents and sisters), but she keeps the “extended family” in the loop through her Facebook. So sweet of her..
On a personal level, I once “dated” a Chinese girl, though she kind of forgot to say she was married. I knew she had a baby at some point, that c-section scar is kind of hard to hide. Turns out, she got married young and got pregnant right after. Family was dirt poor and lazy as f*ck, so she got shipped of to Shanghai (where I meet her) to make money. So, she could work her ass off in a factory or just simply sell her ass. She chose the latter, as a massage girl and KTV hostess. Guess she was just a lazy as the rest of the family. By the time I meet her, the damage was complete and she was just unable to look at a guy as anything but a source of income. Though her HJ skill was perfect, it got somewhat annoying to hear her say “Kuài, Kuài, Kuài” (Kuài = quick or faster) when doing her. Guess she got too used to just wanted that part to just end as quickly as possible (or I was just horrible in bed and she wanted the nightmare to stop 🙂 )
Also had a Thai GF at some point. Divorced, no kids. Ex-husband like to gamble, drink and whore around. She gave him all her money. It seems like there is a lesson to be learned from Thai guys – as one put it “if she loves you, she will give you money”. It’s some culture thing, though something about it doesn’t sit quite right with me, though that might just be some feminist mantra I’m conditioned for run as a default background .EXE. (again, “face”-driven culture, very different from western culture. Can be just amazing hard to understand). That particular Thai girl was a least honest about her intend and need for money. The few times she asked for it, it was for a specific reason and the item / problem would always materialise / get solved after. Most of the time, she and the family could solve the problems themself. Though, never underestimate the desire for money with a poor Issan family. Aaaand, on a side note, it was just darn funny to hear her explain who is f*cking who in the village. One of the stories was about how her colleague would give loads of money to her husband because her husbands father had a thing for young ladies but he had no money, so he would ask his son, her husband, for it. So, she would basically go to work got to arrange for her husbands father to get laid. (again, the concept is “if she loves you, she will give you money”).
Also, did some work with some guys from “Suranaree University of Technology” in Thailand. Nice guys, smart also. At one point, the topic was the lack of technological innovation from Thailand. As one of the guys put it, there are plenty of smart scientists in Thailand, just that, everyone is just too busy f*cking to get any real work done. Sure, it is a broad generalization, but there is also some truth in it.
Looking back at my “asian experience”, it seems like you are at a real disadvantage when you come to Asia with a western background. Most of the women there have already been conditioned to think you/western guys have money and are more than happy to give them away. And, a lot of the guys that go there, come with a western way of thinking which basically boils down to “you must provide money for the woman, otherwise you are not a real man”. So, when the woman goes looking for a western ATM guy and the guy goes there with a Blue Pill mindset, of course he will get the same experience as with western woman, though most of the time in a more slim version :). Most of the women in Asia that have their own money, really have no interest in foreigners. If for some reason a western guys goes to Asia to find that type of woman, be prepared to put it a lot of effort and legwork to “win” one over. Most if the woman that will actively approach a foreigner (looking past the “pay to play” section and the downright gold diggers), are poor girls, hoping for a better life. They will be a monetary drain but can in some cases provide “value for money”. Most of the middelclass woman that foreigner, through effort and legwork, can “win” over, are often “damaged girls” in their own culture, meaning, divorced, single mothers, crazy, ugly or old, in any combination. So to find that NAWALT that all the local guys are also looking for, well, good luck with that. 🙂
Just keep on breathing - you just have to put one foot in front of the other to get away .. quite simple really.
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