On Ignoring & Being Ignored Peeve Of Mine & Where To Draw The Line?

[PhantomParticipant 3328]

So, throughout my life, all the way back to childhood to present day, this is an ongoing dilemma for me. This shaming/judging tactic has and is something that bothers me to my very core.

Yes, I already know the short answer & ending concluding thought & consensus, no f~~~s given. However, I really can’t say to myself, that I don’t give a f~~~ about myself like that.

It is deeply ingrained in me, and is part of my thought process. It is a no brainer for me to ignore negative bulls~~~ people, as well as being ignored by negative bulls~~~ people.

Who wants/needs someone tearing you down??

But, when you are in life situations where that really isn’t an option, how do you deal with it?

I have had my own father and many since pull this ignoring card on me. For many years of my life, I would do my best to put my all into something & would get this as a response often.

I am all ears…open thread.
Any and all comments/suggestions/complaints/etc welcome.

Thanks if you read my post(s) and thanks whether you reply or not.

[Anonymous 3]

It’s good to ignore others. I think more MGTOW need to learn to ignore. A lot of today’s problems are because men listen to everything and respond to everything, instead of just responding with silence.

Keep doing what you enjoy, do it for yourself and nobody else, and continue onward.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

People can’t drive you crazy if you don’t give them the keys.

Believe it or not, I passed a book stand yesterday and that was the title of one of the books. No, I haven’t read it, but it certainly inspired a thought.

“I’ve been ignored before, but not while I was being so charming”.
– Harrison Ford | Blade Runner

Being ignored doesn’t bother me except when someone is unresponsive to my time or effort.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Anonymous 3]

An old martial arts teacher said to me once: we have a sphere around us where we dont allow strangers to enter. Then smaller spheres for friends and family. But near our face, not even our father can enter that sphere without violence.

So, yes. It is a good practice to ignore shamming or being ignored. But not without consequences, such people are to be expelled from our circles. As the Japanese say: fool me once, your dishonor, fool me twice, my dishonor.

But this only to a level. We cannot let go of everything. Above a clear limit there should be violence, verbal or otherwise.

I learned this lessons the hard way, by not doing it. People respect clear values and the rigorous adherence to them. Being “flexible” and “forgiven” is a collective s~~~-test, we get despised by doing it.

“The fact is that a man who wants to act virtuously in every way necessarily comes to grief among so many who are not virtuous.”
Niccolo Machiavelli

“it is much safer to be feared than loved because …love is preserved by the link of obligation which, owing to the baseness of men, is broken at every opportunity for their advantage; but fear preserves you by a dread of punishment which never fails.”
― Niccolò Machiavelli, The Prince

[StentorianParticipant 1690]

Both of my parents have used this approach with me.

I try to distill down to where I have erred. And if I have erred.

If I did not err, and they have created a conflict and choosing to be obstinate. I just let them be.

If I f~~~ed up, then I would try to establish dialogue and work past the issue.

Phantom wrote:

Who wants/needs someone tearing you down??

This is not acceptable. Don’t let anyone give you s~~~. Just walk away and ignore them. As others suggested as well.

I had 2 old c~~~s today, give me the evil eye, because my car was slightly over the cross walk line. I was looking at them, and could hear them yelling something. But instead of getting angry, I just started to laugh. I couldn’t help it. I don’t generally laugh at people, but these 2 were such obvious c~~~s, because my car was barely over, that I understood their inner nature. The laughter just arose spontaneously. It’s the MGTOW part of me, that just will not take s~~~ from c~~~s, anymore.

“He who takes an eel by the tail, or a woman at her word, soon finds he holds nothing.”

[PistolPeteParticipant 27143]

Its no biggie MGTOW AGE,

After my folks threw me out of the house and disowned me I never heard from them again–and we lived in the same town for 10 years. They died 15 years after that while I was living in another state—never heard from them before they died.

My take—your problem with me—whatever you think it is—IS YOUR problem, not mine. Go head die alone see if I care. NOT!

[HitmanParticipant]

Can’t control anyone besides yourself.
It sucks but you have to ignore being ignored.

[experiencedParticipant]

You’ll learn to anticipate the shaming.
Having reached that, you’ll see it for what it is when it’s about to arrive.
You’ll step aside and it’ll go flying by.

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[bladeParticipant]

It use to bother me but now i like being ignored.One thing that really f~~~s me of is when some c~~~ will talk for half an hour straight with out a f~~~ing breath/aka woman.After 5 mins i remind them of there verbal diarrhea.

THE PLANTATION HAS NOW TURNED INTO THE KILLING FIELDS . WOMAN ARE NOW ROLLING CAMBODIAN STYLE .

[bomwaParticipant 488]

Ostracism is the most powerful control method in the human arsenal. Violence has nothing on ostracism. A group of comrades can survive in a world of pain if they share that pain. But only an incredibly strong-minded person can survive being shunned by the world.

Don’t feel bad about the pain caused by this ostracism. It means that you are a healthy human.

How to handle it? I find that reading helps. Read through these quotes by Aldous Huxley: https://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/authors/a/aldous_huxley.html

You can tell that he was a loner.

Here’s a funny one: You should hurry up and acquire the cigar habit. It’s one of the major happinesses. And so much more lasting than love, so much less costly in emotional wear and tear.

[PhantomParticipant 3328]

Thank you gents…it is more helpful than I had hoped for, when I made this thread.

This has been my second weakest link in my chain, so to speak.

I almost didn’t make the thread, so thankful I did now.

[VarunParticipant 2981]

If somebody judges you, ignore them. They didn’t live your life, so they obviously don’t know your problems.

A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush.

[Back in BlackParticipant 1732]

Unless you are a total f~~~ing asshole that is some seriously abusive behavior. Can you somehow get away from these f~~~ers? I would ASAP. For your mental and emotional health. If not, find some healthy, supportive people who get it. Keep reading and posting here. We truly care about you – even though we don’t know you.

"Women are directly adapted to act as the nurses and educators of our early childhood, for the simple reason that they themselves are childish, foolish, and short-sighted—in a word, are big children all their lives, something intermediate between the child and the man, who is a man in the strict sense of the word. Consider how a young girl will toy day after day with a child, dance with it and sing to it; and then consider what a man, with the very best intentions in the world, could do in her place.” Quote from Arthur Shopenhauer, 17th century philosopher

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