Older MGTOWs – how to stay socially active?

[onmywayParticipant 502]

Hi brothers.

Lately I’ve been struggling a bit with an irrational fear of growing old. I’m only 27, so hopefully I still have many years ahead of me, but I keep having this irrational thought that I will become more and more isolated the older I get. I guess the female shaming tactic of “Aren’t you afraid of growing old alone?” has gotten under my skin at some level..

I understand some of you on this board are hermits / lone wolves and enjoy that lifestyle – more power to you! Personally, I love spending time alone, but due to some recent events I have come to the conclusion that relationships with family and close male friends are extremely important to me. Actually the most important thing in life for me.

Going forwards I will of course continue to spend time with these people, but I was just wondering if some of you guys have any tips or advice on how to maintain and expand one’s social network while growing older? I want to be as pro active as possible, so that I don’t let good friendships slip away if it is avoidable.

For me, as for other MGTOWs, marriage + kids are not an option. However, I need some strategies in place to maintain and expand my social network so that I don’t “cave in” so to speak later on to a post-wall bitch just because I’ve become alone and isolated and desperately need some company. Now, I think it’s highly unlikely that I will ever become completely alone, as I’ve always had a few solid friends around and still have, but I would love to hear some advice and tips from some of you older men out there that are still socially active and how you’ve kept it that way over the years.

Thank you!

[BeerParticipant 11832]

I don’t know what the issue is…most involved guys I know end up losing friendships because of women, or seem to tolerate their girl just for the pussy. If you don’t have a harpy around you are free to hang out with whoever whenever you want and you don’t have to drag someone along you just tolerate just to hopefully get some tail.

[onmywayParticipant 502]

Beer wrote:

I don’t know what the issue is…most involved guys I know end up losing friendships because of women, or seem to tolerate their girl just for the pussy. If you don’t have a harpy around you are free to hang out with whoever whenever you want and you don’t have to drag someone along you just tolerate just to hopefully get some tail.

That’s true. I actually feel married men are the most socially isolated men there are. If (when) they divorce their wife they’re usually left with no-one, since the wife keeps all “their” friends.

I guess I just keep having this irrational fear of growing old alone due to the indoctrination that marriage = cure all for all your loneliness problems. When in reality I know a lot, if not most, of husbands feel terribly lonely in their current marriage.

Hopefully VR and robot technology will be very advanced when I hit my 60s. I would also love to join a mens club / lounge or whatever with like-minded men.

[Anonymous 3]

After a certain age, social relationships with well adjusted individuals are going to be through family.

If you’re okay with lower quality, then you can still get away with going out and meeting other unmarried men, although they’re probably going to be losers.

Now this may change going forward with declining marriage rates and as women prove they can go to new and lower depths. I thought they had bottomed out, but they impress me with their creativity and depravity all the time, so I guess they didn’t.

But I’d suggest if family and being socially assimilated is the most important thing in your life, you really need a serious girlfriend and/or marriage partner.

[Anonymous 54]

Find hobbys, things you enjoy.
You can network with people with same interest.

Advice from a loner. Haha

[Cú ChulainnParticipant 3910]

Learn to enjoy your own company, that’s all the advice I can give.

[AwakenedParticipant 35200]

I know of a couple “older” Men that are both MGTOW, but don’t even know it.

They have very active lifestyles. Personally, I know them both from the gym. Some of the things they do are:

1) Memberships at 2 gyms (different classes and different friendships)
2) Bowling League
3) Regular Bus trips ( many of the same people end up traveling together)
4) Take audited College Classes
5) Senior Male athletic group (Biking)
6) Season Tickets to AHL Hockey (same seat near other fans )
7) ETC. ETC. ETC.

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

[Anonymous 7]

F~~~ people get a puppy if you are lonely.

[WallyParticipant]

While I live alone and spend most time alone, I am extremely introverted but I still spend a great deal of time with friends and will go out if it pertains to something I am interested in.

Hobbies- join a club, I am heavily into photography and met other people and even business partners through this.

Get a dog, go to the dog park, have plenty of social interaction there.

if what your hoping for are close friendships, well those are rare, if you have a couple in one life your lucky.

"what a waste of a life, to marry, give up your freedom, just for the hope of not dying alone. Don't get married Son."

[ZarathustraParticipant 2246]

Join a fraternal organization or volunteer. In Canada I have joined the Kinsmen. They do community work. We also meet to do bbq, have poker tournaments, and go on road trips. Its fun, its all men and we make a difference in the community.

Also, as a 42 year old I started worrying about what might happen if I have a heart attack or something so I just tapped a friend on the shoulder and said if you don’t hear from me in a week come by my place to see if I trapped or something LOL!

[Two Time WinnerParticipant 1090]

onmyway wrote:

That’s true. I actually feel married men are the most socially isolated men there are. If (when) they divorce their wife they’re usually left with no-one, since the wife keeps all “their” friends.

That is exactly what happened to me. All the male side of the couples we were friends with no longer are friends. I’m trying to make a new set of friends that are only single males. Hard to start over socially, when you are age 63 and working a day and a night job. Met Sparky on this website, who lives in the same city, and we get together once every week or two. Learning to be comfortable alone and entertaining myself.

TTW

I ain't got a wife to spend my money, I have to do that all by myself.

[OldBillParticipant]

onmyway wrote:

Going forwards I will of course continue to spend time with these people, but I was just wondering if some of you guys have any tips or advice on how to maintain and expand one’s social network while growing older? I want to be as pro active as possible, so that I don’t let good friendships slip away if it is avoidable.

Those are excellent questions, brother, and ones we should spend more time talking about. Let’s start with maintaining friendships.

You are not going to be able to maintain friendships with other men in your age cohort. Why? Because your life and their lives are going to start diverging in significant ways because of women and marriage.

While we talk about cratering marriage rates here, the fact is that a majority of people marry at least once in their lives. Most of your current friends around your age are either going to get married or enter a long term relationship with a woman. Once that happens, his wife and/or girlfriend will force every friend of which she doesn’t approve – meaning all of them – out of his life. You, as a man going his own way, are a special threat and will be the first to go.

It takes two to maintain a friendship and she is not going to let him do his part.

So, with women busily thinning the ranks of your existing friends, what can you do? Make more friends, of course.

Parlay your hobbies and interests into social activities. Look into fraternal and other such volunteer groups. Expand beyond your age cohort. Become acquaintances with men younger and older than yourself. As women pull you existing friends away, you simply add more candidates to stay ahead of the game.

Finally, those friends of yours who are taken away by women will also be f~~~ed over by the same women. When that happens – and we all know it will – you need to be open to renewing your friendship. When they’re free again, you need to available again.

Summing up, you’re going to continually lose friends for several reasons but mostly because of women. You can parlay your hobbies and interests into mechanisms which will continually replace those friends and you should renew friendships with old friends once they make their escape from women.

Do not date. Do not impregnate. Do not co-habitate. Above all, do not marry. Reclaim and never again surrender your personal sovereignty.

[Anonymous 18]

onmyway wrote:

I will become more and more isolated the older I get.

Have you ever wondered why the same people that allow others to influence their choices in life do so despite their own wish to not be like them?

Since going my way I have worked a few theories and one of them is: never choose to avoid a path for fear of futility, ie, do not avoid enter a room because the door doesn’t have a sign.

onmyway wrote:

“Aren’t you afraid of growing old alone?”

When you grow old – you grow wise. What are you doing this second to prevent loneliness? Are you working out? Do you have any/enough hobbies?

If you really think of what ‘alone’ means, let me paint you a picture.

Your ‘wife’ of 30-years is sitting across you telling you about your mutual friends/family’s drama. What she thinks about it, and what they ought to do. She will proceed to tell you ‘how’ to spend the weekend in order to not be lonely.

When you are at a coffee shop (where oldies congregate on weekends) pay close attention to men in 60+ age range. Look at the man’s demeanour when he is interacting with others in the group versus his wife.

onmyway wrote:

However, I need some strategies in place to maintain and expand my social network so that I don’t “cave in” so to speak later on to a post-wall bitch just because I’ve become alone and isolated and desperately need some company.

This will backfire. MGTOW isn’t easy brother – it is essential you find meaning in solitude. If you need to be social also be well-prepared to have an arsenal of defence or an indifferent attitude toward the sheep telling you to man up and wife up a whore. Or at least a girlfriend. Dontyano your buddy’s third wife just has the perfect girl for you.

Going your own way means accepting oneself. You do not need friends. You will build relationships and acquaintances doing the things you do out of your own volition.

Do not go out and seek people for fear of being alone – you will attract parasites (men and women).

[Anonymous 1]

OldBill said it better than I can, he’s pretty much spot on. I can attest to the fact that you’ll start loosing friends to marriage. I’m 32 and most of my buddies from my 20’s are married or in LTRs and I don’t hear from them too often. My views on women typically alienate their wifes/gfs (also, when a buddy shares everything I say with his gf I start distancing myself). However, some of my best friends are, as OldBill said, divorced guys or guys who are exiting relationships and taken the red pill. I’ve had one old buddy cycle through the grinder and come back into the fold, and I expect more to follow over the years.

[X11Spectator 4520]

onmyway wrote:

“Aren’t you afraid of growing old alone?”

No it’s what I am craving more than anything.

[revistaParticipant 232]

Im 48,still got the same friends ive always had.lost a couple,but as you get older you dont need as many round you.i enjoy being sociable but love my own company too.you can have the best of both worlds and you will be even better off if you dont have kids.women cant be on there own and shame us into thinking we cant.but we can brother.all the best.travel the world and enjoy your hobbies.

[Anonymous 1]

You will end up with one or two close friends who will be divorced and mgtow like yourself.
I lost all my married life friends as the other half kept them, but two of my buddies are still with me as they came from my pre married days.
We all still ride bikes and have engineering interests.
Find a hobby and find others who do it as well.
For me I never experience loneliness as I have plenty to do.
I no longer tolerate the company of women and actively avoid them as they can cause too many legal issues.

[GnosticParticipant 2491]

First you should look into yourself why do you want to be socially active.

Define what your version of socially active means.

Do you just want to have fun with friends?
You can do that with a few friends.

Does it means hanging out with friends every day?
You can do that with a few friends.

Do you want people who you can rely on?
You can do that with a few friends.

Do you just want to know a lot of people without hanging out physically?
There’s Facebook and the like.

Or does it means having hundreds of friend so you feel popular?
You can feed that ego if you are willing to pay the price.

The ugly truth is everything have a price. The indoctrination that you can have it all is a lie. If you want something you have to pay for it, not always in terms of money but time, drama, mental strength etc.

As other brothers said you are most likely to lose friends who are married. The mistress cannot have the slave having fun with a happy free man, least the slave get ideas he should be free too.

To be able to get the mistress approval to be around her slave, you have to act like a slave around them (act blue pill).

Because there are not much red pillers for you to befriend with, maybe it will change in the future.

Bottom line is being socially active is not a need, but a want. You can satisfy the want, if you are willing to pay the price. If you are unwilling to pay the price but still want, well the world don’t work like that, even women cannot have it all.

There is no magic in MGTOW, just recognition of the truth and logical decision how to avoid dangers. The red pill is but the truth, it is no magical potion. Do not think in this modern world men have no longer have natural enemies, men are prey to women and government.

[CarnageParticipant 22113]

Wold love to grow old and alone.

That s~~~ about having company is an ilusión. Just make sure you have enough money to get a young person to whipe your ass when you s~~~ yourself.

To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.

[Heave-Ho MgtowParticipant 1797]

Stay active and you will get social interaction. I plan on living aboard a sailboat and cruising when I retire. When my time comes, I’m venturing out and letting Davey jones take me. F~~~ society and feeding the system in a retirement home. Single, at peace, and content.

skip the cavernous vag and go your own way

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