Ola a todos (hi to everyone)

[mackiavelicParticipant 226]

Hi im lionel.Just found this forum and signed up.
Firstly i would like to warn all of you that my english is not that good . it is not my mothertongue. i am a portuguese living in france .
Im 31 years old and never had a gf.im actually a virgin too even though i keep it a secret from everyone.
My story wont be interesting like many of the ones ive read so far so sorry about that.
it all started in my teenage years. i was someone very kind and simple wich pretty much made most girls ignore me or do things meant to hurt me.But i didnt cared cause since ever all i wanted was THE ONE , the girl of my life, so all those girls defenetely werent the one. it still made me learn to be carefull with them and not trust them too much.
As of today i have never found the one. i got quite depressed for many years over it, even fell sick.and why you may wonder?
Cause all this years ive met girls and observed them and realize i didnt liked anything i was seeing.If you would take away that phisical beauty first impression , there was nothing else left but a obnocious person , liers cheaters or plain evil criticizing everything and everyone while in front of people they would act like the sweetest things.I realized that the girl i was looking for didnt existed. with the personality qualities i thaught were more then normal , honest caring loving trustwhorty etc etc. realizing the girls i would see in the old romantic moovies didnt existed anymore or never existed f~~~ed me up inside quite a bit.
Altough im not a good looking guy i did had a couple of occasions to end this celibacy state but i refused both those occasions.one was cause she had been with me in school for 3 years,saw my struggling and everything that happened to me and what others did to me never said a thing or mooved a muscle and suddenly a month before i would leave my town to go to the university she made me understand she liked me.didnt believed her for the reasons stated above.
The second one invited me at her house and pretty much just wanted sex but i refused cause what i want is a relationship and for that i would need time to know who she really , i mean really get to know her. she just wanted a temporary sex friend it seems . i just gave her friendship till she left back to her country a few weeks after.
anyway once i realized romantism was dead or probably never existed and i was forcefed lies for too long  hoping for something nowone could give me , something completely disconected in me. i felt no desire anymore for a relationship. altough it got me depressed for a long timeand i struggled to get my life back on track , and altough this solitude and loneliness that have been my life till now was and still remains as a big weight on my shoulders and that i now know that it will remain forever like that, in the end it bought me freed0m and when ive seen all this years what women are this days and how many men got screwed and destroyed , how laws are against me cause im a man and how lows quality women are this days, i cant help thinking that in my solitude im actually the lucky one. i  will just always remain sad for the fact that i will never know what love is but thats fine. ive accepted it now. looking at how things are for most men having been screwed up and such i guess i aint the unlucky one.

Now my life only focused about getting my life better for myself financially and fun wise, travel and use whats left of my lifetime left in the best way possible.

Beein part of this forum is for me a way to feel that im not alone in this.Im glad it exists. i had found one before but it seems like signings were disabled for unknowned time

I would want to point out that i do not hate women i like a few of them and does ladies are really a joy to hang with ,purely as friends.I acknowledge that i do like interaction with females but just on a friendly way wich is as far as i know harmless . Recently even found one that very resembled what i wished for but since she has a guy already and she genuinely care for him wich is rare in this time of age and i respect that so i left this rare unicorn go.Took me 2 decades to find 1 perhaps before 50 another one will show up?Im not gonna wait to find out .life is short and i intend to live it my way alone and learn to be happy on my own by all means necessary.

Whats probably unusual about my life is that my parents actually agree with how women sux this days and dont even try to make me change my mind;they are the first to say if you ever find someone and do change your mind dont marry at any cost and dont ever tell her you got money on the side lol. great parents i have i guess

thanks for your time

 

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Por favor, não se preocupe com a língua. Seu Inglês é melhor do que o nosso português !

Bem-vindo ao MGTOW e obrigado por se juntar !

Por favor, sinta-se em casa e participar da discission a qualquer momento. Sua introdução é apreciado.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[mackiavelicParticipant 226]

thanks for that mate.

btw update on the unicorn…. after all her best friend wich is much older seeing me kinda sad told me about how the way i saw her had anything to do with the truth. she had already cheated on her bf twice and she wasnt interested in me cause of my looks, and that she was into some other tall guy with a nice butt that she had met a couple of weeks ago so i think she is gonna cheat for a 3rd time… so much for the unicorn hey?

Also she said to me that indeed most women like by the look 0f the person and only after the rest matters.I wish not good looking guys and fat guys wich i am part off were unable to feel any feeling for someone else romanticly … it would save us sooo much trouble and pain..

[jambearParticipant 282]

Hi im lionel.Just found this forum and signed up.
Firstly i would like to warn all of you that my english is not that good . it is not my mothertongue. i am a portuguese living in france .

Welcome Lionel, I have been speaking English my whole life and I still suck at it so no sweat. 🙂

Im 31 years old and never had a gf.im actually a virgin too even though i keep it a secret from everyone.

I wish I was still a virgin. I see virgins and hold them in high regard. They have managed to resist the pull of the succubi and spit in the face evolution to become a purer man. Never be ashamed of it and hold it up as a point of pride.

My story wont be interesting like many of the ones ive read so far so sorry about that.

It has never been about having an epic story like Deus Ex Machina or even a long one. They are all important and worth reading.

it all started in my teenage years. i was someone very kind and simple wich pretty much made most girls ignore me or do things meant to hurt me.But i didnt cared cause since ever all i wanted was THE ONE , the girl of my life, so all those girls defenetely werent the one. it still made me learn to be carefull with them and not trust them too much.

This happens so often to so many of us at this age I feel like it should have a specific name attached to so you can just go “yeah, I experienced XXXX too” and then you instantly understand one another.

As of today i have never found the one. i got quite depressed for many years over it, even fell sick.and why you may wonder?
Cause all this years ive met girls and observed them and realize i didnt liked anything i was seeing.If you would take away that phisical beauty first impression , there was nothing else left but a obnocious person , liers cheaters or plain evil criticizing everything and everyone while in front of people they would act like the sweetest things.I realized that the girl i was looking for didnt existed. with the personality qualities i thaught were more then normal , honest caring loving trustwhorty etc etc. realizing the girls i would see in the old romantic moovies didnt existed anymore or never existed f~~~ed me up inside quite a bit.

I think when a man finally learns to accept this truth is where so many of us get out strongest reactions from. Some of become severely depressed, some become inconsolably anger, some become paralyzed with fear, others just plain give up hope. But no matter the emotion it is always deep and intense.

Altough im not a good looking guy i did had a couple of occasions to end this celibacy state but i refused both those occasions.one was cause she had been with me in school for 3 years,saw my struggling and everything that happened to me and what others did to me never said a thing or mooved a muscle and suddenly a month before i would leave my town to go to the university she made me understand she liked me.didnt believed her for the reasons stated above.
The second one invited me at her house and pretty much just wanted sex but i refused cause what i want is a relationship and for that i would need time to know who she really , i mean really get to know her. she just wanted a temporary sex friend it seems . i just gave her friendship till she left back to her country a few weeks after.

This is where I f~~~ed up have gave it up. I think most of us figure that having sex will help us understand or find the emotion called love. How mistaken we were. Good for you for keeping your head.

anyway once i realized romantism was dead or probably never existed and i was forcefed lies for too long  hoping for something nowone could give me , something completely disconected in me. i felt no desire anymore for a relationship. altough it got me depressed for a long timeand i struggled to get my life back on track , and altough this solitude and loneliness that have been my life till now was and still remains as a big weight on my shoulders and that i now know that it will remain forever like that, in the end it bought me freed0m and when ive seen all this years what women are this days and how many men got screwed and destroyed , how laws are against me cause im a man and how lows quality women are this days, i cant help thinking that in my solitude im actually the lucky one. i  will just always remain sad for the fact that i will never know what love is but thats fine. ive accepted it now. looking at how things are for most men having been screwed up and such i guess i aint the unlucky one.

For guys like us who were ignored by woman feel some soul crushing loneliness caused from being ignored our whole lives by woman eventually feel like we lucked out in the end. Why? Because while we learned to cope and internalize the loneliness the other guys who depended on relationships take it much worse. They do not have the coping mechanisms in place like we do and so they end up killing themselves in droves because it seems like it is to much to bear, and that is why like you said, we are the lucky ones.

Now my life only focused about getting my life better for myself financially and fun wise, travel and use whats left of my lifetime left in the best way possible.

This is a great outlook to have 😀

Beein part of this forum is for me a way to feel that im not alone in this.Im glad it exists. i had found one before but it seems like signings were disabled for unknowned time

This is why I am on here as much as I can to help grow this forum and make it an oasis in the proverbial man hating desert that is the rest of the world.

I would want to point out that i do not hate women i like a few of them and does ladies are really a joy to hang with ,purely as friends.I acknowledge that i do like interaction with females but just on a friendly way wich is as far as i know harmless . Recently even found one that very resembled what i wished for but since she has a guy already and she genuinely care for him wich is rare in this time of age and i respect that so i left this rare unicorn go.Took me 2 decades to find 1 perhaps before 50 another one will show up?Im not gonna wait to find out .life is short and i intend to live it my way alone and learn to be happy on my own by all means necessary.

We all think we find the golden NAWALT after becoming MGTOW. It always turns out to be a false alarm though.

Whats probably unusual about my life is that my parents actually agree with how women sux this days and dont even try to make me change my mind;they are the first to say if you ever find someone and do change your mind dont marry at any cost and dont ever tell her you got money on the side lol. great parents i have i guess

Be grateful to them, these are rare people who know the dangers of the world and will be your best guides. unconditional love is nice but unconditional support would be a welcomed addition.

thanks for your time

Thank you for your story.

[anagdulParticipant 0]

Greetings, Lionel, and welcome! I understand your frustration and disappointment. I think *every* man here knows exactly what you’re talking about. Never place your self-esteem in the hands of a woman! If their sense of judgement was worth the space it takes up in their empty little minds, you wouldn’t have the problems you describe. You are still a valuable member of society, and you don’t need a female to confirm that.

[mackiavelicParticipant 226]

thanks everyone for your kind welcoming.i hope to be able to contribute to this forum and their members even though i have so far dodged the womens meet grinder so i dont really have any experience in all this or any advice to give to anyone about feeling better. im just 1 more in the ranks .My ideals saved me from harm but i cannot tell anyone that its the best way to go. i really dont know any advice i can give but i hope i will be able to find a way to be usefull somehow.

[SynchrogeddonParticipant 37]

Hi, Lionel! I think there are many guys like us that still are virgins in their late 20s and early 30s and there will be more. It looks like global trend (example: Herbivore men in Japan). Today even being good looking man, intelligent, with future proof and well paid job is often not enough to get you pussy. Times changed at least in my country. Women got more arrogant than ever. I will prepare my intro, I just need more time to translate my thoughts to english :). Have a nice day! PS. I think now the only possible way of f~~~ing young and pretty girl for most of men is prostitution so you only need some money (much less $$ than you would pay for wife).

[…Spectator 1165]

Welcome Lionel.  You have reached a brotherhood of safety and sanity. and Synchro is right 🙂

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