Odds of a marriage working is way less than the 50% divorce rate

[BeerParticipant 11832]

I often see on this forum men saying f~~~ marriage…50% divorce rate, 70% of them filed by women.  Sorry men, the reality is much, much worse than that.  I come from a mid sized family, so between my parents, aunts, and uncles, I have 7 potential couples to look at.  What I come up with, from the man’s perspective, is that 3 out of the 7 of married and miserable.  1 out of the 7 seems happily married, but never had kids.  However, if I were to apply this to my situation, I’m in my early 30’s and fairly well off financially and have a great career…there is a 99.999% chance that any women I meet my age are going to be worse off financially and not making as much money…so a childless marriage would literally offer me no benefit at all, only financial burden and risk as compared to simply having an ltr with no marriage involved.  1 is currently unwed(divorced), and 2 are happily married.

So that may lead one to the conclusion that yes…marriage is definitely worse than 50% odds of working after accounting for the married but miserable men…but the reality is, if I were to claim 2/7 marriages in my family worked, I’d be lieing.  You see…after accounting for all divorces as well…there have been a total of 5 divorces.

So of the total marriages in my parents/aunts/uncles generation of my family, literally only 2 out of 11 ended up as something that lead to a life long partnership where they are both still happy even as they are in their late 50’s/early 60’s.  In other words…I can’t help but think if I ever do get married there is literally a 90% chance I’d regret it…and that is being generous because I’m pretty sure my generation is even more f~~~ed up than the last.

[DarthWParticipant 70]

My brother-in-law, who I think is overall happily married to my sister and vice versa recently told me something like “Of the 9 or 10 other couples who married when we did 20 years ago, we’re the only two still together.  There was one other couple that had made it nearly to 20 years, but I heard they just divorced recently.”  I do surely hope my sister and brother-in-law are happily married.  If my sister was like 70 to 90% of the wives who initiate divorce from my brother-in-law, who is a great guy, I would disown her, literally.  Still, even if their marriage is great, their stats merely reinforce the 90% failure rate you mention.  Not worth the risk at all.

[Won'tGetFooledAgainParticipant 3293]

I got married in 2004 and had a photo taken of us with all of our friends.  Out of all the couples in that photo not a single couple are still together.
Aside from one poor guy who died, every single other couple are now divorced and the average length of each marriage was about 5 years.  We are not talking people who married too young, every body was at least 30 when they got married.

I think the official divorce rate is less than 50%, but if you calculated the divorce rate of people who got married since 2000 I bet it is way higher than that.  Marriage for women is now just a temporary commitment until they are bored and decide the grass is greener.

My divorce goes before the Judge on the 8th of May and assuming all goes well my Decree Absolute will be granted 6 weeks after that.  I can almost smell the sweet air of freedom!

 

For women, everything eventually boils down to Alpha Fucks, Beta Bucks.

[DoinMyOwnThing40Participant 1000]

I often hear this 50% divorce rate, but I have seen the rate a lot higher in my personal experiences.

If you take my 2 cousins, they both got divorced. So for that family, it is a 100% divorce rate. My best friend growing up, his family had a total of four children, including himself. Would you like to know the divorce rate for those 4 offspring? 100%. Yup, all 4 of them got divorced.

I know it is only a couple of examples, but it just goes to show you that the divorce rate can be higher for particular families. Yeah, I know, it’s all about averages and statistics. Still, I find it interesting that the divorce rate can be so high in certain families.

I get what you are saying though. How high is the happily married for life rate? If it could be quantified, I bet the rate is terribly low. Unfortunately we can’t really quantify happily married rates. You would have to take the people’s responses at face value and assume they are telling the truth “yes, we are happily married”, when in fact they may not be.

 

Women are parasites. Each and every last one of them.

[Won'tGetFooledAgainParticipant 3293]

Just had a thought about my soon to be ex wife’s family.

Her Mum has been married and divorced twice.

Her Dad has been married and divorced three times.

Eldest Sister has been married and divorced twice (She is 33 I think now).

Youngest Sister has been married and divorced once.

My Wife has been married once and is currently being divorced.

5 People, 9 divorces between them.  Wish I had looked at their track record before I married her.

For women, everything eventually boils down to Alpha Fucks, Beta Bucks.

[USMC0331Participant 40]

What is more telling is the falling marriage rates. Fewer men are even bothering to get married to begin with. Statistics don’t show how many people just stay in bad marriages either. In some communities as much as 70% of kids are born to single moms. All of the numbers keep going bad for women it seems. It doesn’t take a genius to figure out why, but I find it hilarious that women always want to blame men for these numbers. It’s as if they have nothing to do with it. Well if most kids are born to single moms then where are all these young men learning about the dumb s~~~ women do and staying away from it?? Most of them don’t get to see their fathers that is if they even know who they are to begin with. I’m not sure what is worse if women are really that stupid or that they are constitutionally incapable of admitting to doing anything wrong. I guess time will tell.

[BlazzoParticipant 8]

Beer wrote:

I often see on this forum men saying f~~~ marriage…50% divorce rate, 70% of them filed by women. Sorry men, the reality is much, much worse than that. I come from a mid sized family, so between my parents, aunts, and uncles, I have 7 potential couples to look at. What I come up with, from the man’s perspective, is that 3 out of the 7 of married and miserable. 1 out of the 7 seems happily married, but never had kids. However, if I were to apply this to my situation, I’m in my early 30’s and fairly well off financially and have a great career…there is a 99.999% chance that any women I meet my age are going to be worse off financially and not making as much money…so a childless marriage would literally offer me no benefit at all, only financial burden and risk as compared to simply having an ltr with no marriage involved. 1 is currently unwed(divorced), and 2 are happily married. So that may lead one to the conclusion that yes…marriage is definitely worse than 50% odds of working after accounting for the married but miserable men…but the reality is, if I were to claim 2/7 marriages in my family worked, I’d be lieing. You see…after accounting for all divorces as well…there have been a total of 5 divorces. So of the total marriages in my parents/aunts/uncles generation of my family, literally only 2 out of 11 ended up as something that lead to a life long partnership where they are both still happy even as they are in their late 50’s/early 60’s. In other words…I can’t help but think if I ever do get married there is literally a 90% chance I’d regret it…and that is being generous because I’m pretty sure my generation is even more f~~~ed up than the last.

 

If you ever do get married make darn sure you have a good prenup.      The problem is that society has basically destroyed the family unit.    If I look at my grandparents generation (Pre WW2) women were home makers.  Men were responsible for making the money to support the family.  Women took care of the family and played a large role in raising the children especially when they are younger.

 

Today, women are told and they believe that they do not need a man for anything other than impregnating them so that they can have THEIR children.  The divorce laws in the US are grossly punitive against men.  In most states she gets half and in almost every single state YOU the man, are going to pay her money for child support even in a shared parenting arrangement and even if your incomes are roughly the same.

 

My ex makes more than I do and I STILL pay heft CS payments.

 

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