Number 1 Regret of People Before Dying

[BDParticipant 1146]

I got this from Lifehacker, their number one regret for people on their death bed is :

1. I wish I had lived my own life rather than how society taught me to live.
There are many things society teaches us about the stages of life. You go to school, get a good job, buy a house, get married, have kids. While this plan may work for some, it’s certainly not a one-size-fits-all plan. A lot of people live a life they think should be living according to society, friends, or family and end up with the realization that it was not the life they WANTED to live. Look around you and figure out what makes you happy, what you’re passionate about and live your own life now. Do the things that come naturally to you and stop trying to please everyone. “To thine own self be true.”

http://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/top-7-regrets-people-who-are-dying.html

Steve Jobs had a great line “Don’t be trapped by dogma, which is living with the results of other peoples’ thinking”

Go you own way gentlemen, and live a life of no regrets.

Because in order to be able to think, you have to risk being offensive.

[Blue SkiesParticipant 15665]

Great post pal. I certainly don’t want kids, and marriage. Working an office job sucks but at least i am not miserable at work.

going our own way does not make us selfish. It makes us happy and free.

MGTOW is not a movement, it is a way of life.

[Silverstone the SecondParticipant]

This is true. Especially when it comes to things you wanted to do with your life, that weren’t necessarily bad or difficult to achieve, but society shamed you into doing something else.
-Get a REAL job. Translation: It doesn’t matter if you are living a happy, meaningful, fulfilling life, your life style doesn’t fit into my narrow view of how the world should be. YOU need to change for ME.

This can also come in terms of family pressure. Your parents don’t want you dating someone, they want you to become a lawyer because that’s what they want and that’s what makes them happy. As a man you are expected to give give give to a society that f~~~ing hates you. F~~~ society, f~~~ what everyone wants you to do, live life how you wanna live it.

Feminism is a movement where opinions are presented as facts and emotions are presented as evidence.

[PhiloParticipant 84]

Not being a particularly young man at this point in my life I have to confess that this topic has been heavy on my mind of late. I guess you could say that I have “been there and done that” in regard to conforming to just about all of society’s expectations of me as a man.

I can’t really say that I have any serious regrets about my life up to this point but I am looking at making changes in the focus of my life and intend to steer it away from the expectations that I find continually put upon me by others. Now many may interpret this as an act of selfishness but my response is that their expectation that I should live my life to suit them is the very definition of selfishness.

Self love is not so vile a sin as self neglecting. William Shakespeare

This above all: to thine own self be true - William Shakespeare

[the roadParticipant 3125]

One of the reasons I gave up on my hag of an ex. I feared that I would regret a lifetime with her.

I saw that if we were to get married that I would be stuck living out her life and her desires and that I would be a battery for her and her son while me and my son got the short end of the stick. She was always unlikely to compromise and accused me of being selfish when I asked her to incorporate some of my desires into something. I spent a whole lot of money because of that and she was so selfish that she didn’t realize this and even got p~~~ed that I asked her to split costs on a few things- as if I was suddenly a cheap bastard when I paid the overwhelming majority of EVERYTHING. I tried so hard to stick it out but I happily let it dissolve in the end. All of the things that I want to do for me and for my son would not be possible if she were around. All of the struggle I went through to get were I am at so that I could finally start accomplishing my long term goals would have been for nothing. I had never been called selfish so many times when I tried to bend myself so much.

#MANOUT

[Symmetric MGTOWParticipant 570]

#1 and #2 are the most important IMHO.

The others are important as well.

Happy I decided to go MGTOW. I was always some sort of anarchist anyways… I just believed in the BS fairy tale with the happy wife and family, until my wife showed me how cold and harsh reality can be.

Now I’m always in tune with it, smiling and happy, aware of the nature of the beast, walking next to it all the time

Great post!

[BeeParticipant 700]

I’m 41 and going through a full bore existential crisis, a midlife crisis. I’m struggling with all of these except maybe expressing love for family.

I’ve settled for a career in accounting to give me a safe but boring job, haven’t found my “purpose”, have forgotten what my interests were, had a severe injury due to recklessness that causes me pain today, had ups and downs in marriage, did what society expected, etc.

I would find it hard to make meaningful changes now without causing difficulty for people I care about. For instance, I’ve lived within a 5 mile radius of where I am now since I was age 3. I’m bored with it, and it is too f~~~ing cold here. It’s just too cold. For about 6-8 months of the year. And I don’t get too hot. I knew on some gut level I wanted to get out of cowtown, so I had my CPA passing scores sent to the state boards of KS, MO, CA, AZ and FL.

I distinctly remember a party at a friends house when it was getting cold again and told a friend I wanted to move. That friend expressed disappointment. He’s since moved away. Actually, I’ve got only a few close friends left. I haven’t made many new friends since high school. I don’t get too close.

[hmskl’dParticipant 6413]

I always try and remind myself that happiness is not necessarily found at the end of the path .. happiness should be the path.
Life is so short that it’s really important to try and find some little things in each day. Doesn’t need to be fancy stuff. Had a nice meal out today .. chatted with several aquaintences and also did some grocery shopping. Some (probably most) people would find this little day of errands boring. I understand that. I just try and have a good time with whatever I’m doing.

[AttonParticipant]

It is a great post and honestly it kind of motivating, you just have to live the way you want to live and say the things you want to say.

A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

[RoyDalParticipant]

I suspect that nobody in his death bed spends his last minutes regretting not being more of a conformist drone obedient to society’s demands.

I suspect the opposite is the truth.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[joey_fingazParticipant 132]

One of the reasons I gave up on my hag of an ex. I feared that I would regret a lifetime with her.

I saw that if we were to get married that I would be stuck living out her life and her desires

Completely relate to this. I started feeling like the whole relationship was for her and I had just put myself on autopilot and went along with everything she wanted. Getting married wasn’t something I wanted it was all for her but I was too much of a pussy to end it because I knew I would hurt her and I didn’t want her to hate me. I had to take responsibility to change my life.

[BeeParticipant 700]

Numbers 1-4 are almost incompatible with marriage and children. Marriage and children keep you from taking risks, not living by society’s expectations, taking care of your self, and finding you passion. The wife and kids need you to bring in a substantial, steady income to support their ever expanding needs and wants.

[BurgundyParticipant 1525]

Pretty spot on, and just makes it that more great to be MGTOW.

#2 hits hard here, because I certainly wasted time on other stuff than the thing I wanted to do, which I have been aiming on and doing the last year or so, but still wished I did so sooner.

Better late than never, I suppose.

[IGMOW (I Go My Own Way)Participant 2572]

I say that is a mark of the Blue Pill world. Those in it are so scared and lost, they need patterns, so they grab whatever is close that makes them comfortable. When you are MGTOW, you begin to see how much the world is like that, because you end up lacking something which will blind you and make you prone to being blinded: that is marriage first and foremost (secondary would be a woman). The marriage relationship pushes you to conform for survival and grab whatever is comfortable.

"I am my own thang. Any questions?" - Davis S Pumpkins.

[experiencedParticipant]

To “THE ROAD,” sincerest thanks for providing me with a future mirror of what must be avoided.
You paid a price with that wench, but as a result of sharing here, you will save much more for many men.

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[LucanParticipant 25]

Yeah I already regret not following my heart. You are what you are, by the time you’re about 12 really, but being kind of shy or depressed can prevent you from realizing that, thinking you’re going to magically become some different adult person who has different attitudes.

[HimeoParticipant 471]

I had a near death experience when I was a teenager. My last thought before I knew that I was about to die was “F~~~ – I NEVER GOT LAID”.

After I punched that ticket, I figure I’m pretty much set for the rest of my life. Feels good.

[acubensParticipant 13]

Back when I was married, I contemplated all the time what that regret may be. Oh, the potential list was endless.

After moving on and going my own way all of these years, that list has dwindled.

Think I may have answered my own question on that one!

"Don't you draw the queen of diamonds, boy. She'll beat you if she's able." -Glenn Frey

[Just MikeParticipant 393]

Cheers for this post, f~~~ing awesome. I get a lot of my inspiration for what I’m going to do in life from this forum, and mainly from older guys who have lived the ‘one size fits all’ life and are re-prioritising. It’s never too late.
(I like that ‘one size fits all’. Next time someone asks ‘got a girlfriend yet?’ or ‘why don’t you buy a house?’ I’m gonna use it: because one size doesn’t fit all)
I kind of missed the boat on that life and couldn’t be happier because I got in tune early with what I want to do and am working towards it. People will think I’m crazy. Crazy like a motherf~~~ing fox. And I’m not going to explain a thing to them because I feel like I may have found a major shortcut in life, simply by thinking outside the box they got trapped in. Started slow but may actually beat them to the finish line they crave so much. Kudos to all you fellas *raises glass*

Society: I refuse your stick and carrot. If you try to beat or shame me you'd better take me down first time. If I want smoke blown up my ass I'll buy a cigar and a length of hose.

[BeerParticipant 11832]

Just Mike wrote:

I kind of missed the boat on that life and couldn’t be happier because I got in tune early with what I want to do and am working towards it. People will think I’m crazy. Crazy like a motherf~~~ing fox. And I’m not going to explain a thing to them because I feel like I may have found a major shortcut in life, simply by thinking outside the box they got trapped in. Started slow but may actually beat them to the finish line they crave so much. Kudos to all you fellas *raises glass*

Right on brother. I was talking to a married coworker last week who thought I was nuts for maxing out my 401k. When he asked why I was doing that, I told him how little money I live off of so I can retire early…he looked at me confused like he never even thought about that concept, then proceeded to tell me he hardly has anything saved for retirement, only puts away enough each year for the company match, has credit card debt, and doesn’t ever plan on retiring…which is pretty awful considering he’s 40+ and made 140k last year.

Financially, not getting married is literally the equivalent of winning the lottery at some point in your life.

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