Not Even Pretending Anymore

[AwakenedCuttleFishParticipant 36]

from https://slate.com/human-interest/2019/09/dear-prudence-dating-better-investment.html

Dear Prudence,
I’ve gone through a lot in the last year. My now ex-husband left me after I finally got pregnant after years of trying. I decided to get an abortion, which was the hardest decision I’ve ever had to make, although I think it was the right one. I later started dating a friend of mine who’d supported me throughout the process. He’s not a conventional partner: He has a criminal history that he takes responsibility for, lives paycheck to paycheck, and is covered in tattoos, but he’s also smart, family-oriented, funny, and makes me feel excited and loved. However, we were dating long-distance, which was very hard. I got frustrated and looked for local companionship. I found a conventionally attractive man who is kind, silly, sweet. But he doesn’t excite me like my long-distance flame.

Now it’s getting to the “DTR” conversation, and I can’t choose, even as many times as I try to do mental gymnastics. On paper (literally, I’ve made compulsive lists), my local guy would be a better “investment.” In my heart, I long for my exciting, unconventional man. Am I being selfish in trying to have my cake and eat it too? Or is this something that a grown woman must decide alone?
—I Can’t Choose

I don’t think dating someone you feel really excited about is “trying to have your cake and eat it too.” I think it’s just having reasonable expectations of a relationship. If you haven’t already, discussing “local companionship” with your long-distance boyfriend is a good idea, but I don’t think your dilemma is about choosing between the two of them. I think it’s a question of asking for what you want, being prepared to hear “no,” and moving on in response. Do you want to try to move to be closer to your long-term guy? Do you want him to consider moving to be closer to you? Do you want to continue dating other people in your respective towns until you can live closer? Are they OK with being nonexclusive?

I certainly don’t recommend dumping someone you feel really strongly about in order to date someone you like less, regardless of how stable the guy’s employment or reliable his affection. You’ve been through a lot in the last year, and I don’t think you should rush into anything right now. Just be honest and upfront about what you want, what you feel, and what you’re available for. If that means eventually breaking up with both Tattoo Guy and Tattoo-Free Guy and going back on the dating market, great! (Sad, obviously, but also great.) But you don’t have to make a one-and-done decision like you’re on a dating show, picking between two suitors in the next five minutes.

Well, at least it’s as they say- the rats aint hidin’ in the walls no more.

[EGParticipant 1852]

Torrrrn betweeen twoooo loverrrrrrs….

[Secret Agent MGTOWParticipant 22510]

Womens fantasy porn is how it reads. Its got it all. I actually think its concocted, its all too easy so much proof red pill/mgtow is true. We dont heed someone to write fake letters like this proving all our points about women. Not saying the op is the writer, either. Just saying its pretty unbelievable to be real.

Women want everything, but want responsibility and accountability for nothing.

[SandalsParticipant 4253]

Secret Agent MGTOW wrote:

Just saying its pretty unbelievable to be real.

Really? Could be I suppose. But seems women have no shame about coming out with it.

[iMickey503Participant 12465]

Your right. She forgot too add the part about the Free oil changes she gets at Ramones Oil change shop. Best deal in town! CUMM NOW! Ramone LOVES to see women help him out with his Job! It can really blow sometimes. But Betty, with the roll of her tongue always leaves a GREAT TIP!

You are all alone. If you have been falsely accused of RAPE, DV, PLEASE let all men know about the people who did this. http://register-her.net/web/guest/home

[CPT ObviousParticipant 2727]

Secret Agent MGTOW wrote:

Just saying its pretty unbelievable to be real.

Very believable to me because there is a girl at work in exact same situation — except the bad boy was local and the tradcon was long distance.

She banged the bad boy for a few months until she got bored with him and his lack of funds, and is now engaged to the long-distance tradcon and his fat wallet.

She whined about who to pick just like this “my now-ex husband left me” slore. (He probably had good reason to leave).

"You don't know a woman till you have met her in divorce court."

[AwakenedParticipant 35201]

I couldn’t be bothered to read ore than the first couple lines of some ho’s ramblings about her varied c~~~ adventures.

Like being a HO is something new??? LOL LOL

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

[Daryll55Participant 2950]

Women have trouble tryng to pick what clothes & shoes they want to wear at any particular time.
Do you really expect them to decide all on their own about which relationship they should be in ???
Drinks with “the hive” at 5 …..

Marry again, Hell NO ! ( Even JESUS was hung on a cross just once)

[AwakenedCuttleFishParticipant 36]

Secret Agent MGTOW wrote:

Womens fantasy porn is how it reads. Its got it all. I actually think its concocted, its all too easy so much proof red pill/mgtow is true. We dont heed someone to write fake letters like this proving all our points about women. Not saying the op is the writer, either. Just saying its pretty unbelievable to be real.

Can confirm that OP is not writer. I wound up on that site for god knows what reason and it caught my eye. I’m also split on whether or not it’s real; however, I don’t think it even matters. If it’s real, it just shows that they aren’t even trying to hide their behavior anymore. If it’s fake, it reveals that they actively fantasize about competition, the hive decision, and implied polygamy/cucking.

[MonkParticipant 16985]

I have read letters to agony aunts that were just the same, and there’s no doubt that they were genuine. This is the way it is.

Tingles and folding. Chad fukks, Beta bucks.

[MATRIXParticipant 2342]

You know what must be done.

#MANOUT

Until time ends.

There is NO wisdom in signing a contract with someone who benefits from breaking it.

[Sky-OParticipant 18936]

This whole ‘tattoo’ thing being associated with losers is getting old.

I have an incredible amount of ink but none of it is visible when wearing, even a short sleeve shirt. My entire back is almost full and the top of my arms down to wear a short sleeve shirt covers are full. With some ink around my right ankle that a sock covers. So on any given day, while in shorts and a short sleeve shirt, it would not appear that I had tattoos.

My condo is paid off. I’ve got money in Vanguard and Fidelity mutual funds. $80,000 in crisp, new $50 bills in a safe deposit box, own a profitable business and own 6% of a 140 unit apartment complex that my uncle and three other investors co-own. I’m able to road trip and skydive alot because I have saved and invested better than people that do not have tattoos. And my credit score is probably higher (over 800) than non-tattoo people.

I’ve got a buddy that is a commercial pilot with Delta (first officer) making close to $170,000 a year that has full sleeve tattoos on both arms and as part of his job has to wear long sleeve shirts at work.

My attorney has his left arm full covered in tattoos but makes over $200,000 a year, but wears long sleeve shirts in his office and in court.

I could list numerous other examples but this whole tattoos are for losers thing just gets old.

[SandalsParticipant 4253]

Sky-O wrote:

This whole ‘tattoo’ thing being associated with losers is getting old.
I have an incredible amount of ink but none of it is visible when wearing, even a short sleeve shirt. My entire back is almost full and the top of my arms down to wear a short sleeve shirt covers are full. With some ink around my right ankle that a sock covers. So on any given day, while in shorts and a short sleeve shirt, it would not appear that I had tattoos.
My condo is paid off. I’ve got money in Vanguard and Fidelity mutual funds. $80,000 in crisp, new $50 bills in a safe deposit box, own a profitable business and own 6% of a 140 unit apartment complex that my uncle and three other investors co-own. I’m able to road trip and skydive alot because I have saved and invested better than people that do not have tattoos. And my credit score is probably higher (over 800) than non-tattoo people.
I’ve got a buddy that is a commercial pilot with Delta (first officer) making close to $170,000 a year that has full sleeve tattoos on both arms and as part of his job has to wear long sleeve shirts at work.
My attorney has his left arm full covered in tattoos but makes over $200,000 a year, but wears long sleeve shirts in his office and in court.
I could list numerous other examples but this whole tattoos are for losers thing just gets old.

I wouldn’t say loser. But when I see someone with a tattoo, what it signals to me is that this individual has a demon they have not yet conquered. Also skulls, which I see is in your profile pic.

We all have demons, so it can’t be a judgement. but I just see the tattoo folks as wearing it on their sleeves. To me it’s like short purple hair on a girl – attractive, but I stay away. Far away.

[Parker (Freedom Fighter)Participant 99]

I think that is a good thing that women are actually not hiding as much anymore. That will make the smart men take notice and avoid the women at all costs.

MGTOW is life brothers!

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