No sex for 4 months into a relationship.

[Crazy CanuckMember 4215]

The bat s~~~ crazy stuff on loveshack.org. A guy posts complaining he can’t get his girlfriend to have sex with him after making out. He does get a hand job occasionally but his girlfriend cries afterward because she doesn’t want to have sex.

The funny part if the bat s~~~ crazy chick posting this.

This is so irritating. Being a virgin doesn’t mean this girl has no interest in sex or has some weird sexual dysfunction. She likely just wants to wait until the emotional connection exists for her, whenever that may be.

post #59

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/495795-no-sexual-contact-girlfriend-getting-impatient-4.html

I don’t get it if two people are in a relationship shouldn’t they have a emotional connection in the first place? If that wasn’t that case why the hell are they are in the relationship. They should just be dating, then he can have sex with other women while still dating her. What woman is worth have sex? How much investment of time and money does a guy need?

"If pussy was a stock it would be plummeting right now because you've flooded the market with it. You're giving it away too easy." - Dave Chapelle

[TheBardParticipant 974]

Well she could just be wanting to make sure the emotional connection lasts before having sex. With my second girlfriend I ended up having sex with her way too early because I thought we had a great connection, but I jumped the gun. She probably wants the honey moon phase of the relationship to end and she if she still feels the same way.

[Gone SurfingParticipant 216]

Easy one this.

No sex for 4 months = dumped.

[Messiah13Participant 2]

You may have been friendzoned somehow, don’t waste your time unless if that it is all you want is just a friend.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

She just sounds like a BARELL of fun. A HAND job? A HAND JOB? What the f~~~ is a HAND JOB?

F~~~ her mouth! Are you kidding me?

What is she worried about getting pregnant? How about some nice and friendly anal?
After all, anal is the only 100% woman-interference-proof method of birth control there is!

Even abstinence failed once.

Im just imagining, you know , “dating” a girl … and when you’re making out she grabs your pork sword and SQUINTS while looking in the opposite direction wondering when she’s gonna get her $40. Jesus Christ.

4 months? She doesn’t want to have sex? Stop. Dating. Women. Like. This. Who told women they get man to put out while she has no willingness or interest? Stay home and play with your barbie dolls. A “hand job” because she doesn’t want to have sex is like a guy taking a chick out for dinner and then bringing out the coupons.

Dump that bitch and kick her cat across the lawn on the way out!

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[TheNinjaUWannaH8Participant 386]

Wow.  Frucking WOW.

Look…I’m not gonna judge.  Been there, done that in my Vanilla Days…

But here’s a “True but Not Hollywood Story” that broke me out of that Bullshiet “My Girlfriend Won’t give me any Pussy” situation:

In a galaxy far, far away called Atlanta, I was dating a sexy yet frigid green-eyed sexy muthafrucka named “Mia”, not her real name but her  eye color was.  Really.  A non-frucking 1st Place Trophy.

Well, anyway, “Mia” wanted to be a born-again Virgin after divorcing her husband who left her for a woman who had 5 kids…and wait to give me the Pussy until we got to know each other better.  If I can recall, we’ve been dating a YEAR and some chump change.   Though I wanted to fruck her green-eyed trophy ass really bad, I couldn’t. I had Never cheated on a girl before and swore I never would.

Anyhoot, being the punk-ass Vanilla muthafrucka I was, I went along with it…even beat my dick so bad that the dick skin was coming off right near my white chocolate mushroom head.  Back then, I did not have my “Viscosity” Game on 100%.   Until I discovered Shea Butter, I realized that “I Can’t Believe It’s Not Butter” can eat your shiet up.  Got so bad tha “Mia” made me go to the Doctor because she saw my skinned up dick getting out the shower one day.  Girl thought I had a venereal disease…thought I was cheating on her.  I swore up and down…even crying that I was not cheating.   I was only frucking up my dick with sexy R’handnia (Right Hand for you slow muthafruckas).

A two hour argument over a scuffled-up C~~~.

Old doctor gave me some ointment and told me to stop beating my dick so hard.

Did things improve?  My dick eventually did…. Let’s accelerate the story weeks later…

…My girlfriend lived on the other side of town and decided one night she did not want to come over and snuggle because it was raining cats and dogs outside.   Just pouring down raining.  Haha…Vanilla Ninja had the night off.  So…I grabbed a beer and went out of the patio to watch the rain.  All of a sudden, I see a very voluptuous female dancing in booty shorts and C-breasts shaking bra-lessly in the rain all by herself. Being curious and dressed in my three-piece Calvin Klein suit, I went outside and joined her…expensive suit and all.

I asked her name. She said “Becky”.  Wow.  Becky.  After some idle chit-chat and dripping in polluted rain water, I pointed to my apartment and invited her to stop by whenever she she was bored.

The next night, you can see the stars in sky as I sat drinking a brew on the couch watching some mindless TV Bullshiet.  I hear a knock on the door. It was “Becky.”

I invited Becky in and she sat on the couch across from where I sat. She told me that she was a stripper from Florida who was living with a cousin a few apartments down until she got on her feet.  She said she was glad to meet me in the rain.  She offered to dry-clean my suit.  I declined.  That suit was probably already circling Mrs. Chen’s Cleaners with his Suit brethren as we spoke.

Becky then ask me the darnedest question.

“Can I ask you a question?”

“Yeah.  Sure.”

“Can you F~~~ me?”

“WWhattt????

“Can you F~~~ Me? ”

“Ahhhhh….I can’t. I have a girlfriend who I love.  Plus, she has a key.”

Time must have sped up so fast because before I knew it, Becky had stripped all of her clothes off, stood over me bucket-naked.  She ws definitely a Stripper.

“You’re Gonna Take this Pussy.”

Need I said what happen next.

…”I’ll be right back.” Grabbed a non-expired Trojan Max my Mom sent me (Yeah….My Crazy Ass Mom used to send me Condoms!).

I frucked Becky like I never frucked anyone.

After that point, there was no way I could continue to be in a Fruckless Relationship.  I eventually, broke it off with “Mia” and went on a Frucking Spree.

The Rest is History.  Thank You Becky. Wherever your Hoe Ass is.

Moral of the Story: A Girlfriend that is not frucking you is just a Friend…and just barely.  Don’t frustrate yourself.  Get the Fruck out of that ‘relationship’ and get you some Pussy.

 

 

[Eric LauderParticipant 84]

I really love these situations 🙂
I’m glad to hear that 🙂
It’s the best proof of the total uselessness of a lot of females 🙂 – other females, a minor part, are instead good just only for some occasional sex.
Females are sexuophobes, females have far lesser sexual desire than MEN.
So, where is the news? What’s hard to understand?

[WakingupParticipant 30]

“You may have been friendzoned somehow, don’t waste your time unless if that it is all you want is just a friend.” 

My God.  The older I get the more I realize I never want a woman as a friend.  If she’s putting out?  Yes.  If not…hell no.  Why?  I get along a HELL OF A LOT better with my bros.  They are easy, funny, and give great advice when their not being smart asses.  Having a best friend that has a vagina is f~~~ing gay.  Period.

[jambearParticipant 282]

@wakingup

If she has some hot friends you can hit on then maybe it is worth while to keep her around?

[WakingupParticipant 30]

Jambear….possibly the only reason.

[Crazy CanuckMember 4215]

@wakingup I never had a woman has a friend.  Sure they were friendly or claim to be my friend but in reality they wanted something.  After they got they wanted they would just disappear.  Women aren’t worthy as a friend because they have little to nothing to contribute.

"If pussy was a stock it would be plummeting right now because you've flooded the market with it. You're giving it away too easy." - Dave Chapelle

[Eric LauderParticipant 84]

A female who want friends~~~ with a MAN is the cheap version of a female who want a relations~~~ with a MAN:
within a relations~~~ with a female the MAN get some pussy (only sometimes, and just only if he daily insists in demanding for it) but he’s a slave for life,
within a friends~~~ with a female the MAN is almost a subject for a limited time (not for life, just only for the duration of the friends~~~), but he get just only some smiles and a lot of boring discourses.

[JimboParticipant 162]

Yeah, 4 months in to a relationship and no sex?  What does the guy need to wait until she cheats on him and watch her ride away with someone else unashamed that she tore his heart out?  Just reading his post is making me sick.

Seriously, that emotional connection comes during sex.  If neither of them can see that then he is in trouble.  He didn’t specify but I assume he buys her gifts and takes her out to dinner.  This was a weak move on his part.  She could also be dating other men and sleeping with someone else that he is not aware of.  I have known women who date multiple guys at once and there is one or two they are sleeping with while the rest are spending their hard earned money on her.  This is very damaging to the emotions and psychology of the men she does this too but unfortunately women happen to be the self-centered gender in this species.

Here are the problems I see.

1. He’s put her on a pedestal.  (Before sex at that) He needs to kick her off right now.  They need to split the tab, he needs to stop being her crying shoulder, and he needs to stop buying her gifts.  If she asks why, then he needs to honestly say something like.  “Look, I know I said I love you but let’s face facts here.  We’re 23, dating for four months, and I am not feeling like we are bonding like we should.  I don’t feel right saying I love you anymore and I am not going to until I mean it.”  He needs to stand his ground here and be perfectly okay with her leaving if that is what she chooses.  Whatever she does he has to stick to his guns.  She may want to break up.  She may break up for a few days, weeks, etc…  While they are broken up he needs to move on and find someone else.   He needs to let her go.  If she does not do it then he still needs to stand his ground.  This brings me to my next point.

2. He’s too busy talking about sex.  What he needs to do is get them alone in a room they can watch a movie at with NO mention of sex what so ever.  It needs to be set up so they can be close together.  Relax, get her to relax, crack open some white wine, and watch a movie.  He needs to without words, putting her on a pedestal, acting stupid, acting weak, sleazy, or anything of that nature ease in.  Start kissing, slowly work her clothes off, work her entire body, and without forcing anything lead her gently into sex.   If she does tell him to stop or pushes him off then he needs to back off.  He maybe able to try again in 5, 10, or 15 minutes but he needs to do it smoothly.  If that doesn’t work try again in a few days.  If that doesn’t work then he needs to decide if he really wants to live this life or not.  If so then there is nothing more I can do for him.  If not, he needs to be the one to let her go and search for his way in life and possibly find another girlfriend but he needs to learn from his mistakes.

3.  If she is a virgin then she will go nympho on him after the first time they sleep together and he will have even more power than he could possibly imagine as long as he follows up right.  He’ll need to hold his ground on not putting the ring on right away and he will need to be just in his actions as well so not to wrongfully break her heart.  (I know that a man also being concerned for the welfare of possibly a good woman is concept that feminists refuse to believe but hey when you hear nothing but men oppressing women on tumblr and in your Womyn’s Study courses you have a hard time seeing reality.)

That is my two cents on the issue.  The dude can take it or leave it.

[JimboParticipant 162]

@thebard

“Well she could just be wanting to make sure the emotional connection lasts before having sex. With my second girlfriend I ended up having sex with her way too early because I thought we had a great connection, but I jumped the gun. She probably wants the honey moon phase of the relationship to end and she if she still feels the same way.”

I am going to have to respectfully disagree with you on this.

From my personal experiences the best relationships I have been with, especially if the woman has had little to no sex have usually been when I had sex with her as soon as possible. The one woman I have had in my life the longest without dating and marrying is a woman I had sex with within a few hours of meeting.  She still talks to me and still wants to have a relationship with me after 5 years of no physical contact.  The best girlfriend I had had sex with me as soon as I invited her over to my apartment and there was NO talk of relationship beforehand except from my friends’ 14 year old daughter who said: “Don’t fall in love with him, he’s the world’s worst person.”  Though come to think of it that relationship talk may have helped me out a bit.

[YoungBachelorParticipant 8]

There’s a big difference between ‘she doesn’t want to have sex’ 4 months into the relationship, and ‘she doesn’t want to have sex with YOU’ 4 months in. If not you, she’s gonna get pumped and dumped by some other guy. Fact.

[FitzBonesParticipant 304]

Sounds like a psychosis to me, a fear of sex especially if just giving a hand-job brings her to tears. Something has damaged her for her to be 23 and still not want sex.  Or this:

There’s a big difference between ‘she doesn’t want to have sex’ 4 months into the relationship, and ‘she doesn’t want to have sex with YOU’ 4 months in.

I never ever went 4 months without sex in a relationship, hell I never went a week without it and that was even when she was pregnant. In my mind it comes down to mutual respect and physical NEEDS. A man truly does NEED sex and his partner should be taking care of those needs in return for his taking care of her needs. If shes not aware of his needs 4 months in, then shes probably a very self-centred and ignorant girl and not worth the time.

"If you can fill the unforgiving minute with sixty seconds' worth of distance run,"

[TYEParticipant 291]

Women are disgustingly selfish, Narcissus, Evil to the core human beings, she doesn’t want to give him sex yet she would freak out if he got it from some where else, because it is totally unacceptable for a man to have his needs met in her eyes he should suffer for his woman…this is why I am MGTOW they’re nothing, but a bunch of irrational bat s~~~ crazy S.O.B.’s !

[Cap285Participant 6007]

Four months? Does he not know of Professor Leykis and the three date/$40 rule?

My sister and I we’re talking about dating/relationships. She mentioned that she made a guy wait 6 months for it. I just broke into a hysterical fit of laughter. When she realized I wasn’t going to stop she says, “I’m not going to just give it away!” As if it’s some golden prize. I put my beer down and sat on the concrete of the driveway and nearly cried from laughter.

She’s been dating some guy now pretty seriously. She’s already told him to sell one of his three motorcycles.

AWALT

Fuck this planet.

[Cap285Participant 6007]

<cite>@gone_surfing said:</cite>
Easy one this.

No sex for 4 months = dumped.

No sex after 3 dates = dumped at a high rate of speed.

Fuck this planet.

[TheNinjaUWannaH8Participant 386]

Wow Cap 285.

Your story illustrates that there are still a bunch of guys out there who view Relations~~~ as the ONLY way to Get Pussy.

No Sex After 3 Dates =I’m f~~~ing somebody else…W/ or W/O  Your Knowledge.

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