New to this site – my relations~~~ story (much stortened)

[Anonymous 1]

I only found this site yesterday afternoon, and have to say It’s great to find so many fella’s with their heads screwed on tight.

I’m currently 23 days NC with the * antichrist after a relationship straight from Satan’s pit. This isn’t the first time I’ve gone no contact with this woman but this time I’m committed and its final.

My relationship followed a similar pattern as those with ex’s who are crazy beyond definition. Began like a fairy tale, smoking hot, charming, talented woman aggressively pursuing the hapless guy. we met on Tinder (which I know now to be like a petri dish for the mentally unstable) I couldn’t put a foot wrong to begin with, I was viewed as the second coming by this beautiful broad. We did everything together, even went on holiday to Greece after only a month of meeting. We were both completely smitten and were proclaiming our love for each other 3 weeks in.

This continued for around 4 months before started to get weird. Unfounded jealousy and extreme rages became the order of the day. The sex stopped, the compliments stopped, the loving looks and affection ceased. She demanded access to my FB, whatsapp, email, the lot, all the while her phone was on total lockdown. The double standards really were quite remarkable. On one occasion I’d had enough of the constant privacy invasion and demanded to see her phone in return, she duly handed it over and I was absolutely shocked to find nothing in it at all. Texts, whatsapp messages, even the call history had been cleared up to that point. When I questioned this the only response was to tell me she deletes absolutely everything to save space (insulting I know).

She’s a talented singer, and would often spend weekends away gigging and staying in cheap hotels with her band. Of course when she was away I had to be contactable at any time or there would be absolute hell to pay, but there were some weekends she’d gig when I’d be unable to reach her for the entire weekend. Excuses such as a lack of signal, misplaced phone, battery died were given as a reason for not being able to communicate the whole weekend (total BS I know). It became blatantly obvious to me this woman was a serial cheat and was casually hooking up with guys whilst she was away. Confronting this behaviour was futile, she’d deny it to her grave. I knew I had one option at this point and that was to end the relationship. I went NC after another weekend of her gigging and ignoring her phone. The backlash from NC I suffered was epic. The smear campaign began in earnest. over the course of 2 weeks i received demeaning, abusive messages from her friends and family. She contacted my parents, my brothers, my friends, even my brothers fiancé to tell them what an abusive jerk I am. I’d get back from work to find her car parked near my house, each time I’d race to the front door to avoid whatever abusive barrage was coming my way. I remained in a hermit like state for 2 weeks waiting for the whole thing to blow over, but she began escalating. I broke NC after just 2 weeks and arranged to meet her to talk.
Rather stupidly I agreed to give us another go, and after only a week the same behaviours returned except this time she’d progressed to physical violence. She threw a glass at me, slapped me on several occasions and hit me round the head several times with my own phone (she grabbed the phone off me and became violent when I tried to retrieve it).

We carried on for a little while after this but it became apparent she was talking and meeting some other dude. This actually came as a relief, someone else had diverted her attention and I took my opportunity to get out. She’d disappeared one evening and I decided to block her on every technological platform known to man. This was 19 days ago and I’ve heard nothing since, she hasn’t showed up at my house or place of work and has not attempted any form of contact. She’s obviously attached to this new dude (god help him) and allowed me to sneak out the back door but I still live in fear of her return. So we were together a total of 7 months but the fallout of this relationship for me has been huge, I’ve totally lost confidence in myself, and slipped into a pretty dark depression. I’ve started drinking a lot more than usual and each day right is a huge struggle. So 23 days NC and just hoping this fog will lift as time passes without this woman in my life. Any words of encouragement would be useful right now. so glad I found this site when I did, really great to see the opinions of so many likeminded fellas.

[Truthseeker82Participant 6406]

Welcome! Her behavior is typical for most western women. Their nature is to always look for the better deal. Feminism has taught them that they are each special snowflakes and princesses. And if they are super hot – it just adds to their already huge sense of entitlement. You would do best to avoid her at all
costs.

[RoyDalParticipant]

Welcome!

Is my head screwed on tight? Not likely! But I’m sure yours is. 🙂

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[Anonymous 0]

Welcome Joller,
You have done the right thing. You do not have to be a doormat for her. Consider this,if you did all those things that she did, you would be in jail by now. Stay strong and DO NOT HAVE CONTACT WITH HER. Get a wearable camera so that if you get ambushed by her there will be a record of what went down and she can’t make false allegations. Lastly, come here and vent. We are here to support you.

[DeepInThoughtParticipant 2710]

You didn’t dodge a bullet mate, you dodged a napalm run. You are a lucky one.

[KeithParticipant 482]

Anonymous wrote:

She demanded access to my FB, whatsapp, email, the lot, all the while her phone was on total lockdown. The double standards really were quite remarkable.

First things first, never, ever, share the passwords. In the future, when asked, just say “the password is F~~~-Off” And then escort her to the door.

Nothing good comes from total disclosure.

ONCE UPON A TIME there was a man who never found a wife and he lived happily ever after. The End.

[Anonymous 1]

I do have a tiny update on the situation (i’d actually written this post Friday, but had issues activating my account)

Woke up Sunday to a notification of a missed call from a blocked number, it was hers (why i need to receive notifications of calls from blocked numbers is beyond me and surely kinda defeats the purpose). Anyway the call was at 4:09am, so it seems likely she was looking for a little action and probably already willing to cheat on the new Mr white knight.

what i can say is there will be no last hurrah’s, i’ve taken my power back and as far as im concerned i no longer exist to this woman. Even a quick lay simply isn’t worth it, and i’ll find myself straight back at square one.

i’m on total socail media lockdown right now, facebook, twitter, myspace all deleted. There’s certainly a sense of freedom to be had from this. i’m getting myself back in the gym tonight, and fully intend to work on myself for the immediate (and probably distant) future.

[Anonymous 1]

Keith wrote:

joller984 wrote:

She demanded access to my FB, whatsapp, email, the lot, all the while her phone was on total lockdown. The double standards really were quite remarkable.

First things first, never, ever, share the passwords. In the future, when asked, just say “the password is F~~~-Off” And then escort her to the door.

Nothing good comes from total disclosure.

you don’t need to tell me again. Thinking about my blue pill, white knighting escapades make me cringe now……….hard.

[Anonymous 0]

Or maybe the new guy dumped her or she found out she’s pregnant and wants to pin it on you. A guy really can be too nice to a woman. She will FIND a way to be face to face with you, now that she knows you have cut her off. Don’t fall for it. Good Luck.

[Anonymous 1]

Anonymous wrote:

Or maybe the new guy dumped her or she found out she’s pregnant and wants to pin it on you. A guy really can be too nice to a woman. She will FIND a way to be face to face with you, now that she knows you have cut her off. Don’t fall for it. Good Luck.

yeah all speculation at this point, and that it shall remain. I know men with healthy boundaries ditch these bitches right quick, regardless of how hot they are.

I will never find myself in this situation again.

[Anonymous 42]

Anonymous wrote:

We were both completely smitten and were proclaiming our love for each other 3 weeks in.

1st off, WELCOME
joller984!
Dude, you were sideswiped by a runaway narcissistic attention whore! Dude, you were sucked into the tornado of manipulation! It’s no wonder you have chunks of wood and broken glass embedded into your sole! Sit back and let the experts here safely and gently pull the mind splinters and shattered glass bleeding your sole!

Anonymous wrote:

I’ve totally lost confidence in myself, and slipped into a pretty dark depression. I’ve started drinking a lot more than usual and each day right is a huge struggle.

Dude, that’s a normal part of associating with a narcissistic self entitled personality. Only you can change the outcome of your future, remove yourself from self destructive behaviors, climb from the feminist mud all around us, find a place to wash your sole, heal your wounds, gain back your strength, defend yourself, and never let it happen again!

Women destroy men, that’s what they do! It’s time for you to fly under your own power and control, or degenerate to a rotten green manburger that lost his life in a tornado that ravaged his sole!

It’s all up to you, all we can do is help….

[Anonymous 1]

interesting sidenote from this relationship.

My Brother was born with a red pill in his mouth, i’ve seen him cut gf’s and friends out after the fainteset of sleights against him. I sometimes thought this was a little harsh, but now i fully aspire to be like him.

anyway i witness some fascinating interations between him and my psycho ex. she’d literally shiver in awe at his presence, and an uncomfortable look would consume her face the moment he walked into the room and she always became awkward at any interaction with him. She told me on several ocassions she didnt like him. he was never rude to her, its just his no BS aura he eludes.

These women have a knack for seeking out men with weak boundaries. Alpha males seem to be like kryptonite for these women. they’re simply terrified of a man with healthy boundaries and a strong sense of integrity.

[Anonymous 1]

Women destroy men, that’s what they do! It’s time for you to fly under your own power and control, or degenerate to a rotten green manburger that lost his life in a tornado that ravaged his sole!

It’s all up to you, all we can do is help….

[/quote]

Appreciate the words and support. I fully intend to do the former.

I’ve been doing a lot of reading on personality disorders, and i have no doubt this woman is full throttle borderline.
Any man unfortunate enough to find themselves in a relationship with this woman is destined for a whole world of pain.

[XSDBSParticipant 3598]

Welcome:
I offer this bit of wisdom that was given to me years ago:

“Every relationship prepares you for the next one.”

Each time, you’ll recognize red flags, s~~~ tests, and unstable/selfish behavior quicker than before.

Anonymous wrote:

Stay strong and DO NOT HAVE CONTACT WITH HER.

Doing this gives you self control, self confidence, and self respect.

Anonymous wrote:

i’m on total social media lockdown right now, facebook, twitter, myspace all deleted.

Good for you!

[Anonymous 3]

Hello and welcome! I can feel your story.

You should, for your own safety (if this s~~~ did not end 100%)
-set your phone to automatic call recording and leave it like that (Have done this for years when my relationship started to get stupid, and no extreme amount of storage space needed on your memory card)
-She approached the people around you, tell them your side of the story is necessary. Make sure they are on your side if some legal s~~~ happens.
-Get your audio recorder app on the phone to a quickly accessable place, and record coversations if anything bad happen.

Hope you wont need them, but “keep the gunpowder dry”, as proverb says.

[Mr. SpockParticipant 10910]

Welcome brother.
I am glad to see that you got out but by all means do not let your guard down. Start documenting and saving ANY correspondence you have with her. M52 is spot on, SHE WILL FIND YOU! When she does, she will aim both barrels of kindness at you and when you reject her she will hit the armageddon button and go full psycho on you.
Never be alone with this woman. If you are caught off guard alone, video or tape record everything! Do not believe a word she says either. She WILL play the “I’m pregnant” card and unless you respond with “Let’s get back together so I can take care of my baby”, she’s going to apply major shaming tactics to you.
If she knows where you work, consider talking to your boss about her because when she can’t reach you at your house and known hang-outs, she will show up at your place of employment. You don’t need to get fired over this tramp.
Consider covering your ass and getting a restraining order as well. Again, documentation here is crucial. Good Luck and keep us posted.

Feminism isn't about equality with men, it's about leverage over men.

[hellraiderParticipant 2837]

This is why i have said time and time again in this site, get a flashligth and a sexbot when they become available.

Avoid women like the plague 80% of them are bat s~~~ crazy and the other 20% are hiding it, until they explode like a supernova.

[Anonymous 1]

I appreciate all the good advice, it really is invaluable. I’ve already informed my boss after the problems caused during the last period of no contact.

I rent a room in a house share and my housemates are fully clued up on situation. They both hated the bitch anyway, but essentially she has zero chance of any one on one time with me. I’ll also be recording any conversations should there be any on the phone.

I recently removed all social media after learning my psychotic, f~~~ nugget of an ex had been harassing some girl from my friends list on facebook. this girl looks like a full on porn star, fake t~~~, pink onesies, the works. She took one look at her profile and concluded I’d been f~~~ing that right throughout our entire relationship. In reality I haven’t seen this girl for years, and when she blocked her on fb, my ex tracked her down on instagram and continued her harassment on there. Not removing all social media immediately was a bit of a faux pas on my part. Even though I’d blocked the bitch she was obviously using some proxy account to keep track of me.

I really couldn’t make this s~~~ up. Its like something out a Michael Douglas movie!!

[experiencedParticipant]

Getting ‘taken in’ by a relationship, such as with her, is something many including myself have fallen for.
Smart decision for you to come here as we will help you to help yourself and thereby help others.
Looking forward to hearing more from you.
Please. Be. Careful.

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[Anonymous 1]

obviously at the moment im struggling with the end of this relationship but am fully committed to no contact indefinitely. I fully appreciate this is the only way to heal bar none.

right now my confidence and self worth are pretty much in the gutter. should this improve naturally the longer this s~~~ty person remains cut off from my life? that my be a daft question but when you’re in this hole its pretty hard seeing a way out.

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