New member III still devistated.

[AstroParticipant 2045]

I now truly understand the term “Heartache” For more than a month, my chest physically hurt but the doc says I will be OK and I am in good shape for my age (53). Sometimes, I am fine but other times, I want to drive over a cliff. 15 year relationship and the cheating bitch had to f~~~ me up two days before Christmas. I want to get over this but I don’t want pussy, it makes me too stupid. Perhaps I would be better off riding my own c~~~ carousel but it just has no appeal to me. If only technology would create an affordable and sweet, hot babe who didn’t act like one, the bitches would be history overnight. I didn’t want any children from my 2nd wife and I thank God we didn’t. I am enjoying a beer served with MGTOW but I know anything stronger could drive me over that cliff. I have 11 days vacation but I don’t want to sit and stew at home, even though I am broke. My Sister and brother-in-law invited me to spend time with them in Florida, I think I might do that. I’m one of those assholes that fall in Love easy and fall out hard. I used to write and play music but I also learned that the emotions in art are a curse, not a blessing. Writing and playing about the stew of s~~~ called Love only keeps one in it, I don’t know how Pink Floyd did it. I became: “Comfortably Numb” with enough liquor to kill me and didn’t care if it did. My dad went MGTOW for 35 years till he died and I hope I can be as strong as he was. Yet I remember him crying in loneliness. How will I ever get over this s~~~?

[Anonymous 12]

get over your lonelyness…
become your own best friend who defends his own interests in a world that rather see him drive his car off a cliff.

“better alone than in bad company”

You are at a point where you need to figure out some s~~~ for your self, for your own future.

The blue pilled people around you will not be helpful with that, they will likely say some s~~~ along “she was not the right one for you, your unicorn is still waiting for you somewhere”

Horsemanure, and you know it.

Look in the mirror. remember the lessons learned, no matter how hard they were.
And repeat after me
“better comfortable alone than miserable in bad company”

[foolsgoldParticipant 5649]

Once I figured out how worthless all women are life got a helluva lot better. You WILL get there. We have been fed lies from day one. Just remember that it is all lies. NEVER forget that. Hang in there brother.

[bladeParticipant]

I remember ya sparky . I still have a slight pain of hurt in my chest but no where neat as bad as it use to be . Drinking p~~~ bro makes it worse . Stay of it . Its part of deppresion . If your on an antidepressant sometimes certain ones can have an opposite affect . Also they don’t work on situational deppresion alot of the time which sounds like what you have the way you describe that pain in your chest . It will fade in time .Sleep is important so if you need something for sleep ask ya doc for tamazapam . Stay away from vallium .

A really good thing is sensory technique .

Buy a cheap small kids disco light ball 20 bucks at most from toy shop or other .
Buy some incense like lavender .
Buy a relax meditation disk and make sure you get one with no talking just gentle relaxation music.
Buy two squishy sqeezey b~~~~ from a toy shop or a cheap shop .

Do this of a night before you take ya sleeping pill .

Get all that going and lay on ya bed . Look at the lights on the cieling from the disco ball light for around ten or fifteen minutes then slowly start to close your eyes and picture yourself floating above the earth looking down and imagine all the kaos on earth . Then drift from that to the beautiful places on earth .

Try it my friend it really works well . But f~~~ sparky i can’t stress enough how bad drinking makes that pain worse in your chest bro . It is a certain type of depression and has its own name that i can’t remember.

THE PLANTATION HAS NOW TURNED INTO THE KILLING FIELDS . WOMAN ARE NOW ROLLING CAMBODIAN STYLE .

[bladeParticipant]

Please consider that sensory technique it so works when ya really f~~~ed up bro . Don’t brush it of as hocus pocus s~~~

THE PLANTATION HAS NOW TURNED INTO THE KILLING FIELDS . WOMAN ARE NOW ROLLING CAMBODIAN STYLE .

[bladeParticipant]

The b~~~~ are to squish in ya hands as ya doing that technique . Sounds funny i know just don’t play and squish ya own .lol

THE PLANTATION HAS NOW TURNED INTO THE KILLING FIELDS . WOMAN ARE NOW ROLLING CAMBODIAN STYLE .

[Anonymous 5]

We fall in love with a projected image, a fantasy that we allow the woman to create.
It’s easy for her to create the illusion because we’re so willing and desperate to believe it.
We’ve watched too many romantic movies and listened to too many love songs. Our whole modern existence seems to revolve around this fantasy, from advertising to our legal system and everything in between.

The moment we realize the long term intimate companionship we believe in doesn’t exist, we cease to be lonely for it.
Women don’t love us long term, the way we love women. In an evolutionary sense, it’s species suicide for them to do so.
Accept it, internalize it and find a love of life through anything except the modern romantic propaganda of “Wonderful Women”.

Again,,,the moment you stop believing that bulls~~~ you’ll cease feeling lonely for it. You’ll be able to live again.

[MACHOParticipant]

When you really love someone with all your heart and believe that she feels the same for you being dropped like a worn out pair of shoes tears your heart apart! I thought I was having a heart attack when it happened to me! there is only one cure for something that painful

‘Time’

Of course for time to do its work one has to be willing to survive the ordeal! Time is the Greatest Healer & with enough time we can surmount almost anything.

You must own a better Crystal ball than I

[JVBParticipant]

One day at a time brother and you will get there. Never forget what brought you here and let that be thine fuel.

Peace is > piece.

[Anonymous 0]

Astro wrote:

I now truly understand the term “Heartache”
How will I ever get over this s~~~?

Do something different.
Somethinng you’ve never done before.
Something that will create a memory that is YOURS ALONE.
Look at it as the first “brick in the wall”
Re construct your self

[joetechParticipant]

Try some Pat Benetar…Harden your Heart. I find going to jam sessions and playing different kinds of music with new musicians(new to me) is quite therapeutic. Take that vacation, or take up a new instrument. Hiking or biking at your favorite State or National park is another way to unplug from the BS. It’s hard to get over a broken heart, but it can be done. God has a plan for all of us…you never know what’s just around the corner in life.

"Don't follow in my footsteps...I stepped in something."

[Anonymous 42]

I forgot how s~~~ty women made me feel, thanks for all the reminders, it’s been so long I forgot.

Those feelings will NEVER DWELL IN MY HEART AGAIN!

I made a decision to end the cycle of abuse, I abandoned women to their loving god, the ALMIGHTY STATE.

Let them drown in the lonesomeness loving their ALMIGHTY STATE!

[Y_Participant 4591]

Hi Sparky.
You are having female – withdrawal symptoms.
This is more dangerous than drugs and alcohol.
Like the AA you need a few rules, and stay away from females.
Live one day at a time.
Get back your self worth – a female knows exactly how to shame you.
Do the things YOU want – God there must be thousands!!
In the beginning don’t stay alone. Hang out with MALE friends or find a group you can physically be with when you feel really down.

It will come to you – take care and stay on this bat-channel!!

[Daryll55Participant 2950]

ok Sparky,
Ya off to a good start…..
I haven’t been here long,but I been doing the MGTOW for years now.
I’ll say this early: It gets better BRO

They claim there are 7 phases everyone goes through after a traumatic incident in one’s life. The first is denial and guilt, the last is acceptance. In between there is anger & pain, as well as coping and relapse/reconsciliation . We all go through this…. you are not alone.

What matters is how YOU handle YOUR situation. no one else can do it for you; so YOU will need to prioritize what matters and move on. It gets better BRO

Life has a way of distorting things in the near term at the expense of the long term. You’ll never know how great that one great life moment will be if you get crazy or hurt yourself seriously now.
it is better to forgive and move on than to be vengful or jealous toward another. You will never find peace without forgiving, it has a cleansing effect on the soul.

So,…. as I sit here years after my own grief/trauma, I am truthfully at peace with myself,(and it feels G-R-E-A-T !! )

It gets better BRO!

ENDURE, take the pain now; it’ll build you some good character.

Marry again, Hell NO ! ( Even JESUS was hung on a cross just once)

[RASmanParticipant 1994]

It’s tough to be dependent on someone else for your happiness. They pull away and it seems to come crashing down. When you consider how fickle wommins are, well, it’s like juggling nitro; they will eventually take advantage of your dependence on them. Use you, abuse you, deplete your resources, and men have accepted this for generations as how the world is supposed to be.

No more.

[MeisterParticipant 2093]

Don’t drink alcohol!!
It clouds judgment.

You were already stupid enough to marry twice.

Learn from your mistakes and move on!

Monk

[BlakeGuyParticipant 287]

Welcome bro,

You follow the path of tens of thousands.

Think of life from scratch. You are building a new way. You were tricked into following the conventional route which is totally f~~~ed for men. The route sold by product marketing, commercials, movies, tv shows and older married couples. That route does not work, it comes with heartbreak for most cases. Women do not understand loyalty, they do not understand morality, they do not understand sharing. They only know how to take and have and use. They are built that way. Their cheating used to come with shame, but now it only comes with secrecy.

So dream, dream of your new life, accept as a granted fact that you will be happy, you will be ecstatic. Drop the notion that giving and supporting is the source of happiness, drop the notion that you need a woman. Just drop it, it might feel strange. But as you read and think and learn you will build a new construct. A free construct. Sounds like you are also starting over financially, focus on building your dollars. In a few years time your 11 days vacation will be a blast because you can go where you please.

Come on here and read every day and you will soon realize the solutions to your situation. Pick and choose what works for you.

Try to not think of her, try to not get angry with her, in fact thank the poor bastard who took her off your hands. He saved your life.

Let the good times roll

[The-Mad-TaoistParticipant 123]

Your a good man Sparky. Good advice up there and it looks like there’s lot’s more to come. But there are no answers to be found at the bottom of a bottle I’m struggl’en with that a bit to. Good luck to ya we’re here.

A single man is a sovereign man

[AstroParticipant 2045]

Thank you guys, you are helping me save my own life. I’m going to go back to this page whenever I need it as most of what was said sounds like pretty good stuff. I won’t be going back to women, I have been hitting the red pills by watching the MGTOW videos. I have seen most of them posted on this site and others and will continue to do so. I still have my Dachshund and my home. It may be a rat hole but at least it is MY rat hole! After that 3 days of slamming the hard stuff, I abstained for 40 days (not bad for an old sailor). The family I am visiting in Florida are devout Christians, so I will abstain from anything for at least another week. We don’t get all the support groups women get but we do have MGTOW and thank God for that.

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