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[CardinalParticipant 82]

Hi everyone. 36 y/o bachelor here. Never married, no kids.

So I hope I am not the only one here who finds it odd that it feels like it is more awkward to tell people I have never been married as opposed to saying I am divorced. It is as if still being single is the problem. What is up with that? Do you get asked all the time…”are you married”? “No”…”Oh so you are divorced then”? ..”No”. Then the awkward looks come..over and over again. Nothing against people who have gone through divorce because I get it, but they should not think of us who have not been married as someone without means or great leadership capabilities.

I almost got married, and was going to propose 11 years ago but got a “Dear John” letter a month before coming home from a 1 year deployment (1 of 2). The good news was it would have ended in divorce down the road now that I look back.

Will I get married? Open to the idea. It would take literally a revolution though. I’m the last man standing now among my friends, which I rarely see anymore now that they are married. I stopped hanging out with them years back because who wants to be a third, fifth, or seventh wheel? Being the only single man in a group of married couples gets old very fast. You become alone in a crowd.

Another reason for me not seeking marriage is my neutral desire for kids. I would have them with the right woman, but too many men these days are like women when wanting kids just to say they have them. Plus I do not do immature baby talk, or tell people how much a one week old newborn looks like their parents. Its all so shallow to me sometimes, or maybe it is just me?

My passion lies in my business, networking, human capital, and what I can provide to society. Giving back unlocks so much for your life. I never could enjoy working at an organization with 500 or more employees. Sitting somewhere each day wondering what I could really build or accomplish. By no means am I some huge success as that takes time to get to, and is with great struggle. Which is another reason for being single. The women I run into want that instant gratification. It is not like in the movies where some amazing woman joins you in the beginning and stands by your side through the fight. Well, perhaps once in a blue moon. Good luck with that though.

Going back to seeing all my friends becoming married and being the last one standing… I have been around them enough to be at their houses hanging out, or out on some kind of recreational function to know not all marriages should be. Too many times have I been in the middle of a brutal argument, and had to listen to words no married man should ever hear from his wife. I wonder…could that be me? It is so awkward to sit through those fight when they erupt. I have had married women flirt with me to the point I wonder why is she even married? She doesnt love her man, she just sees security in him for a family environment. House, food, etc. It is truly awful to witness.

As debbie downer as this post sounds there is great strength and determination in every single man. If you have not tapped into it you should really work on it. Your capabilities are often beyond even your own comprehension if you just believe in yourself. Mind body and soul. Eat healthy, exercise, spend good money on your appearance, and heed the wisdom of the good book.

-Cardinal

[Anonymous 42]

You’re among friends!

I’m single, never married, can’t stand the modern female, pulled my life from the jaws of death and made something of myself!

I say Keep the wrecking ball with t~~~, clits, and court dates! No unexpected female explosions in more than 20 years! Life has been SMOOTH SAILING for two decades and Ill NEVER get close to that dangerous reef again! The sound of shattering hulls can be heard 20 miles away!

[Joey AlfioParticipant]

That was a great intro and glad to have you here on mgtow. I’m in my mid 20’s but I too don’t have any plans to marry. How could I anyway? The court is not only in the c~~~s favor but you’d also have to be a slave to everything she expects and demands of you. Be single, work and study hard and start reaping the benefits I say.

As for kids, I would wait for an artificial womb but that’s me.

Δεν υπάρχει τίποτε αδύνατο γι’ αυτόν που θα προσπαθήσει. - Μέγας Αλέξανδρος

[The SavedParticipant 101]

You’re not alone, man.

I’m in the same boat as you, also mid-30’s.

I don’t find it at all awkward when I tell people I’m not married. I find the conversations to be quite entertaining, actually.

Welcome.

"A man's feelings are inconvenient to a woman's needs".

[CardinalParticipant 82]

You know what saved? Funny you mention that, and thanks for the responses above you as well.

I used to feel cornered when people asked me the being are you married question, or when at family gatherings its “when are you GOING to get married”. For a little while now I have turned the defensive into the offensive. Not too sharp of a dagger thrown back because I could really drive doubt into some of these people. However, more of a moral justification for patience and the pursuit of personal goals/passions.

When I bring that up…it silences those questioning because over time I have learned from married people how many dreams have gone to die at the altar. Deep down they know this.

[UKChapParticipant 296]

Welcome Brother

Life's a bitch, then you're supposed to marry one and then die- sod that for a game of soldiers!

[bladeParticipant]

Welcome to the brother hood.

THE PLANTATION HAS NOW TURNED INTO THE KILLING FIELDS . WOMAN ARE NOW ROLLING CAMBODIAN STYLE .

[AttonParticipant]

Welcome brother to the dark side of the force.

A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

[Chris1234Participant 353]

Im the same age and never married. Doesnt bother me when people ask, if they ask why I just say its not a priority at the moment (I will never get married but I dont say that). If they press more then I list some of the things Im busy with (got s~~~ loads of projects, study, travel etc) and that shuts them up.
Its funny now as Im starting to see the divorces and cracks appearing in marriages with my friends as we approach our 40’s. Got one really successful friend (a great man) whose married to the biggest lasiest c~~~ you will ever meet. She will bend him over financially when they eventually part ways (which they will). Thats enough to make me content with not getting married.

[Mister StealthParticipant 362]

Welcome brother

Cardinal wrote:

So I hope I am not the only one here who finds it odd that it feels like it is more awkward to tell people I have never been married as opposed to saying I am divorced. It is as if still being single is the problem. What is up with that? Do you get asked all the time…”are you married”? “No”…”

I always have liked Leonardo Dicaprio response to the question why aren’t you married? – “Its not my fault – I just haven’t found love yet” – then watch people get completely baffled. (1- he is now acting the “victim” because he has not found true love. 2- He is basically telling every woman he has been with that they weren’t good enough)

Steel sharpens steel

[AkhilleusParticipant 2486]

We dont shame and judge here welcome bro around 30s guys start to figure s~~~ out stop thinking with the little head. Also some advice if you want to keep the femstoppo and manginas off your ass when they ask if your married. Smile and say I haven’t met my princess/the one yet…… “barff threw up a bit in my mouth” that should be enough for them to keep them off your back bro.

Aloha means family you don't leave family behind. Who will be the next Draconarius for MGTOW? MGTOW = brothers = acceptance = belonging

[gpnraanParticipant 100]

You just can’t remain unmarried forever. Is not that one of the responses you often hear? Welcome to MGTOW.

[Mr.NeverAgainParticipant 146]

Cardinal wrote:

My passion lies in my business, networking, human capital, and what I can provide to society. Giving back unlocks so much for your life.

This is SO important! You have a passion that enriches and exercises the mind. 99.99% of the girls out there pretending to be women will try to recast your passions into their molds. I got married to my highschool sweetheart and it brought me to ruin. It’s funny how the family that used to bring me so much comfort and security now haunts me in the dark, and brings me nightmares and big black bags under my blood shot eyes.

Stay on your path, people hate the amount of control you are exerting over your existence! Read the news, watch those dumb t.v. commercials. Pay attention to everyone’s roll in every situation, skit or debate. You’ll see who the enemy of society is.

“I know your race. It is made up of sheep. It is governed by minorities, seldom or never by majorities. It suppresses its feelings and its beliefs and follows the handful that makes the most noise." The Mysterious Stranger by Mark Twain

[Solo MAN’S WisdomParticipant]

Cardinal wrote:

Hi everyone. 36 y/o bachelor here. Never married, no kids.

First, Nice work, Cardinal. And welcome.

Cardinal wrote:

Will I get married? Open to the idea.

Re-think that one. DO. NOT. SIGN. A. MARRIAGE. CONTRACT. PERIOD.

Cardinal wrote:

Plus I do not do immature baby talk, or tell people how much a one week old newborn looks like their parents.

No “real” man does. See below.

“Women are directly adapted to act as the nurses and educators of our early childhood, for the simple reason that they themselves are childish, foolish, and short-sighted—in a word, are big children all their lives, something intermediate between the child and the man, who is a man in the strict sense of the word. Consider how a young girl will toy day after day with a child, dance with it and sing to it; and then consider what a man, with the very best intentions in the world, could do in her place.” Emphasis added. Arthur Schopenhauer.

When women lead, destruction is the destination. -- Me.

[JVBParticipant]

Welcome brother. I’m in the same situation but im 43. When I’m asked “why not married or kids” I respond with
“I just got lucky” that shuts them up immediately.

Good to have you bro. Look forward to hearing from you.

Peace is > piece.

[CardinalParticipant 82]

Great responses and welcomes! There really are more men out there like me.

[MeisterParticipant 2093]

Also 36 and never married here.
Complete monk for 11 years.

No women.
No regrets.
No problems.

Monk

[Anonymous 0]

Welcome home, Cardinal
Beer’s in the fridge

[CardinalParticipant 82]

Thanks M52

[Y_Participant 4591]

Welcome.

Cardinal wrote:

Will I get married? Open to the idea. It would take literally a revolution though. I’m the last man standing now among my friends, which I rarely see anymore now that they are married. I stopped hanging out with them years back because who wants to be a third, fifth, or seventh wheel? Being the only single man in a group of married couples gets old very fast. You become alone in a crowd.

There is no right reason to ‘get married’. You are one of the few fortunate ones. Learn from those who have gone to hell and back.

Simply – don’t even think about it. It’s your ‘lizard brain’ talking to your dick directly. These feelings will pass.

Stay your own man.

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